I found this in my bed.

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I found this in my bed. It was under the duvet cover on my side when I got home from work this other day. I'm married. Husband works from home.

I know what I think it is but I just can't believe it.

Could it be something other than a condom wrapper? I've convinced myself it's off something else, some sort of other packet.

I'm sorry to hear that. Thank you for the advice xx

Sorry OP. I would keep my powder dry and try to get more evidence. Maybe they have a regular appointment. Same time next week?

Post wank is utter bollocks.

Maybe he's shagging someone who he thinks has diseases?

I agree it’s not looking good however, one theory, could it have been in the corner of an old hold-all perhaps used from a weekend away with you years ago, and he’s just tipped it out onto the bed when maybe looking for someone or packing up for the gym or whatever. Or same idea but with an old box or drawer that he was looking for something in. Only thing that’s got me wondering about different possibilities is just as you said there’s no unfamiliar smell on the sheets and the sheets haven’t been stripped etc, which is unlikely if someone had be in the bed!

Yes, at least one. A mate of mine who was a virgin in his late 30s was into it. There might have been a hint of latex fetish about it, I didn't press him on that but he had a whole host of other reasons. It all boiled down to, if his fantasy of suddenly being seduced came true, a condom would have to be involved so a condom made one off the wrist feel more like real sex. Also, the latex made it feel a tiny bit less like his own hand.
He's a nice bloke & he eventually met the Right Woman but when he's making his own entertainment my guess is he might still do it, at least sometimes, because it's a learned turn-on & those don't un-learn easy. Now he's a married man we don't talk about his sex life, that'd feel weird because I know his wife.

Which is not to say I've provided an explanation for the OP, only an answer to your Q.

I agree with this. It is 100% a condom wrapper so I would use this time to keep quiet, prepare and do as much digging as you can.

Haven’t read the full thread but could he be doing a posh wank to practise having a condom on, for the running club woman? Ie not doing it with her in your bed but practising in your bed alone, to then have sex with her elsewhere?

Or could he possibly be masturbating while she is on video/facetime but to avoid making a mess he used a condom?

Surely he must’ve realised there were two bits of the condom wrapper missing. Is he wanting you to find out?

So so sorry OP. You don’t deserve this.

Maaaaate, really?

People who post irrelevant drivel from chatgpt should be banned

I'm sorry, maybe we should go back to pretending that he's just had a posh wank.

So perplexing.

It takes a lot of gall to bring an OW to the family home in broad daylight. Do you have near neighbours or kids who get themselves home from school?

But even stretching the benefit of the doubt, "the scraps fell out of his old luggage" is farfetched.

Agree with others, do not confront him until you have a dossier of all necessary financial paperwork, etc. and have consulted with a solicitor, so you know your options. I wouldn't be having sex with him in the interim, either.

Thank you ChatGPT.

Apologies the thread has moved quite fast and I didn’t see your original response

No, just no need to get that graphic for someone who has had a horrible shock and is doubtless feeling like crap.

You need to get ducks in a row but also see if you can get access to his phone and emails and see if you can see any messages from anyone that may imply an affair.

good luck

It isnt irrelevant at all. It's the most common reason men will wank with a condom. They want sex that they can't get without one.

Is there anyone like a cleaner or teenagers and friends who have access to your home OP? Tradesmen doing work?

Well best not keep on replying to me then and prolonging this torture for the OP.

I'm not sure I agree with everyone talking about evidence gathering and keeping this knowledge to yourself. When it was me in that position (not the exact same but similar enough) I had to know - I couldn't have gone on for weeks and weeks with this burning in my chest. It will deteriorate your soul and your kids will notice a chill in the air, even if you think they won't. I would have the conversation now - can you imagine 'making nice' over Christmas dinner with this in your throat? If he's not abusive, if he's not coercive, if he's generally a good guy, then you don't need to squirrel away documents and an escape plan. You just need to know.

It's odd that it was on your side of the bed. Given the odds of.him sneaking someone in are apparently low, I'd suggest he either wants you to find it or maybe they've fallen out of his trouser pockets when he's been on the bed. I.e. he's been up to something outside the home.

I’m sorry to say it but it’s possible he’s using prostitutes.

Had the bedlinen been changed, or could it have been washed and dried while you were out? If he had a car at home, are there any earrings, lipsticks etc. in / around the passenger seat?

No they don't. In all of my seven decades I've never heard of a man having a "posh wank".

Gosh OP doesn’t look good.

He’d have a brass neck to bring someone to your home in daylight …

You need answers as it’s definitely a condom packet.

I was about to suggest this. They wouldn’t wear perfume etc either, which would decrease likelihood of bedding smelling like them (sadly been here with my ex) Thinking of you Op x