I found this in my bed.

[Bugsandbeds]

I found this in my bed. It was under the duvet cover on my side when I got home from work this other day. I'm married. Husband works from home.

I know what I think it is but I just can't believe it.

Could it be something other than a condom wrapper? I've convinced myself it's off something else, some sort of other packet.

That's because nobody calls it that. They call it "getting used to condoms again".

Eh?

No idea if anyone else has already said this but chat GPT seems to think it’s definitely not a condom wrapper and the foil isn’t thick enough, and suggests it is far more likely a disinfectant/alcohol wipe. It has also said the following:

The faint white text (looks like parts of words ending in “-tif”, “-rativo”, plus “1 pres…”) fits with multilingual wipe packaging:

• “antiseptif / antiseptic”
• “conservativo / preservative”
• “1 press / 1 pressure / 1 piece”

Of course, chat GPT may be incorrect but thought it worth noting!

Weird that other people's said definitely a condom.

This is my feelings. It’s very high stakes. Unless he wants her to find the evidence. But the marriage would have to be pretty much finished for that to be a strategic move.

Except someone else posted photos of the exact same wrapper and it absolutely is a condom wrapper.

Oh OP I’m so sorry

OP just on the off chance there is some innocent explanation I would say to him 'I found this in the bed earlier, do know know what it;s from?' - and pretend you don't know what it is.

If there is some innocent explanation then he has the chance to give it to you. Alternatively he might look shocked or give some other indication that it's something dodgy.

What language is antiseptif? It's not French, German, Spanish or Italian.

Dang it - hadn’t seen that and felt hopeful for a minute for OP. Shitey chat GPT.

My husband does this and he was "real man" last time I checked. He says its easier than cleaning the spunk out his beard.

Comparing it with the photos of condom wrappers that someone else posted, it looks pretty conclusive.
He's used 2 condoms for some reason and he isn't trying to get used to condoms again to use with his partner because he's had the snip.
They say it's usually the most obvious explanation!

What now OP?
If you ask him about it, it will let him know you're on to him if he is up to something and he will hide any evidence from now on. Unless he's a terrible liar and won't be able to hide it?

Agree with this.
If you ask him now before you've got it all figured out, he'll gaslight you and you'll have nowhere to go from there.
Do any neighbours opposite you have ring doorbells?

No, we don't.

But I'm also having difficulty imagining that some random woman would just show up at a home to engage in sexual behaviour with someone else's husband. Although we can't exclude the possibility that DH is gay.

Why does it say ‘press’ on it though? Do condom wrappers say that?

The text on the wrapper says preservatif/preservativo which is French and Spanish for condom

Wouldn't it be cheaper to use a tissue?

It's self contained in the condom. Tie it in a knot then chuck in the bin. DH used to do that years ago. Men in the Navy are rumoured to use a sock....
My ex BF years ago also would use a condom if on his own too for same reason as DH. It's faster to clean up.

Sorry OP but it isn't looking like it's what's happening in your situation. Really sorry for you.

I'm sorry, what a horrible discovery.

It's possible he didn't bring a woman home but emptied out his pockets or a gym bag on the bed and missed it, either way though he has used a condom at some point.
Clutching at straws a posh wank or he's put it over a sex toy but I wouldn't put money on those. Sorry.

Presumably he told you this though.
What’s extremely unlikely is a married man going out and buying them for this sole purpose and then keeping it a secret, knowing that if he ever left any evidence around, his wife would probably suspect that he was having an affair and this would upset her and put his relationship in jeopardy. It’s hardly worth it just for that is it.

It was a sock for many a teenager in my youth, partner included, not just men in the navy!

I can't believe that I've just written that..
Sorry OP for derailing.

I know someone who did this. The only reason the wife suspected was becuase he washed the bed sheets and put them back on the bed. She realised and was suspicious becuase he did fuck all round the house 🤣

Oh OP, you must be devastated.

I've got a £30 Tapo camera from Amazon that I plug in when I leave the dogs at home, they're simple to set up and you could hide one somewhere in the house? I wouldn't say anything until you've got proof as chances are, he'll lie and he'll be more careful.

Sorry OP I immediately zoned in on his mentionitis of the Woman.. ringing alarm bells unfortunately.

I think the wrapper got in the bed from his clothing and he used the condom elsewhere - then that part of the wrapper somehow was transferred and ended up in the bed