I found this in my bed.

[Bugsandbeds]

I found this in my bed. It was under the duvet cover on my side when I got home from work this other day. I'm married. Husband works from home.

I know what I think it is but I just can't believe it.

Could it be something other than a condom wrapper? I've convinced myself it's off something else, some sort of other packet.

She was replying to posts over a couple of days, then her last reply was to someone who rudely suggested it was pointless to post here. I doubt (incorrectly) saying she hasn’t had the “common courtesy” to acknowledge feedback, and calling her rude, is likely to encourage her to engage again. I wouldn’t blame her at all if she’s abandoned this thread and gone to seek advice elsewhere.

I find it quite rude generally as I said. And IMO I think it's a common courtesy to acknowledge when posters have made an effort reply and try to help.
Thank you for your 'input' It's been really valid and helpful.
If she has abandoned the thread over these posts then I suggest MN is absolutely not the place for her.

Any updates OP?

I think marriage works for some and not others. The secret is compatibility. There are definitely ppl.who are suitable for marriage....men and women. Ive definitely met happy couples whove been together for years. . There are also ppl who will always cheat. It's about the right people getting together. Its just hard to know how to find a foolproof way of knowing what the long term outcome will be.

Your posts are totally lacking in the “common courtesy” you require from OP. A good soap on TV will supply what you’re actually looking for.

Oh honestly what exactly is your problem. You need to learn how to handle opinions you don't agree with. I would suggest that it is you that needs to 'continue' watching soaps as you obviously can't leave things alone and wish to keep trying to cause conflict.

They go everywhere of course they go to clients houses.. they don’t bring them to their own house that’s for sure. Some girls prefer private residences/houses than hotels. I have friends in that industry and I know for facts that they do go to houses especially regular clients. Most are also are quite strict about condom use aswell and clients will try and offer more money not to use one 😬

I had a friend who used to go round to her married APs house and they used the marital bed. So nothing would surprise me.

It's only been three days! She first posted on Friday night, then she's had the weekend at home with her husband and for all we know she's had it out with him and her world has fallen apart. In that circumstance I would be taking care of myself, not racing to update strangers online. Other people's impatience shouldn't be the driver for when/how/if she comes back to this thread. She didn't come across as ungrateful to me, just bewildered and scared for what her future might look like - she's probably still reeling from the whole thing, plus if she works then she's likely been offline all day anyway. OP if you see this, you are under no obligation to update anyone and I hope that you are alright.

Good point but if they're doing anal sex. Well, it would be noticeable I think. Change of bed linen I'd say. We are all summising I suppose

You have misunderstood me. I'm not expecting her to 'race to update strangers online' nor am I 'impatient' for her updates. I'm not interested in the updates per se or wish to nosy into peoples lives I just find it discourteous when people don't bother to come back to the thread to maybe acknowledge that many (on this thread for example) have taken their own time to try to help and advice her situation. Once again I am also talking generally as sometimes people genuinely care about OP's situations and then they hear not another word. In a previous thread I still think about an OP that was in an awful situation with her Husband and some posters were genuinely worried for her mental health. As I also said, OP's are not obligated to reply but if you invest a bit emotionally as you post to try to help, whilst dredging up your own emotional scars then it would be nice to know that they are at least OK.
This is an observation over a few years.

I think it's fine to be worried about someone - but I think she deserves more than three days grace before being considered discourteous. It's kind of kicking someone when they are down to my mind - we have no idea what she is going through or if things have taken a turn. I prefer to give someone the benefit of the doubt after less than 72 hours.

I agree. Suspect the 'friend' was lied to by her ex

Really!!! Is that right! Main sized tissues!! 🤮🤮🤮

What pompous, judgemental waffle, @DBSFstupid. No one asked or expects you to "dredge up your own emotional scars". If doing so leads you to feel an entitlement to feedback then simply don't engage in personal issues on here. You've shown no concern for OP, just impatience for the next instalment.

Oof, this response is tone deaf.

OP, whilst I am sure many posters would appreciate you letting us know at some point how you are doing if you feel up to it, it is very much up to you if and when you respond at what must be a turbulent time.

@DBSFstupid sometimes it is irritating when you get invested in a thread and the OP disappears forever or for ages, but this one is too soon and too raw to be asking for updates (and insinuating that she is rude) IMO.

You're not listening and haven't read my posts properly or in the way they were intended.

I don't think that Mumsnet is the place for you if you only post to receive fulsome and grovelling thanks for your contributions from the OP and other posters.

FYI your posts are extremely rude.

It is not how I meant it and I find your post nasty in the extreme.

If your initial post was a more general reaction to having emotionally invested in threads when the OP never returns, hijacking one started by somebody who posted for support, and using her to demonstrate what you consider to be rude, is very unpleasant. You could have started your own thread if you wanted to vent, rather than taking your frustration out on someone who’s going through a hard time.

As you’re so sensitive to perceived discourtesy that you’ll not only call somebody “rude” for not updating her thread within three days, but also repeatedly engage in heated arguments with posters who disagree with you doing this…to use your own words: ”you need to learn how to handle opinions you don’t agree with”. If this is upsetting for you, MN might not be the place for you.

OP, if you read this - it would be great to hear how you’re doing, but most people completely understand that continuing a conversation with strangers won’t be a priority if other things are happening in your life. You’re in no way obliged to update, and I hope you’re doing okay.

Decide what you want out of this first. If you want to stay married...ie he is a good husband / father etc and it makes sense practically and financially then you may not want to mention anything. Marriage is a legal contract above all else and benefits both parties.

It could be a wrapper from paracetamol

What weird ass paracetamol do you take that contains latex?