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Potential marriage with a very wealthy man… but I’m physically repulsed. WWYD?

279 replies

ForeverHopeful3 · 18/11/2025 05:35

33F, about to be 34. Single as a pringle.

But, my family friend just proposed a guy (38) from an extremely wealthy family (millions, big business). She said the family is good and he's their only kid.

THE PROBLEM: I’ve seen a couple of pics + a company video of him and my honest initial reaction was “ew, no”. I’d rate him 2/10 by my usual standards. Maybe a 3. Overall, I feel zero physical spark... I've tried to find one picture of him where I think he looks even just a little handsome and I can't. Even his voice was a turn-off for me in the video. I couldn't make it to 30 seconds😭

Part of me thinks I should at least have one coffee in case attraction grows or I’m being too shallow. The other part feels it would be dishonest – like I’d only be forcing it for the money/lifestyle. I also don't want to waste his time or give the family any sort of false hope :(

Would you meet once anyway, or is zero initial attraction an automatic no, even when the man is literally a millionaire?

I have tried to go on dates with men I didn't find initially attractive in photos but attraction has never grown on me in the past. Usually after 2 dates, I call it quits :(

OP posts:
Yourlifeinyourhands · 19/11/2025 19:50

I love how you call it potential marriage when you haven’t even met and he repulses you! Get over yourself.

LingeringDogFart · 19/11/2025 19:51

Well wax my lip and call me Emily!

Hons123 · 19/11/2025 20:02

YoNoHeSido77 · 19/11/2025 18:07

I met my husband online. I wasn’t remotely attracted to him but his initial message made me laugh, and unlike the hundreds of other messages from men, didn’t mention sex.
we chatted for a while and I enjoyed talking to him but I told him that while I enjoyed his ‘company’ I wasn’t attracted to him. He was fine with that and we carried on as friends.
he was going to be in my area for work so we met up. He made me laugh so much that I was doubled up, tears running down my facedown my I fell in love with him in the aisles of Tesco and we married 6m later.
he will never be my ‘type’ but I fancy him so much and 14y on we are still as ‘active’ as we were when we met, probably more to be honest 🤣

Met him and see if you get on, even if you don’t become a thing you could find a friend.

before I met my husband I was with a millionaire, lovely bloke, treated me amazingly but he just didn’t do it for me at all, we had NOTHING in common. So I ended it. I’d rather be with someone who I can chat to and have fun with.

we’re very poor but we love each other and still laugh every day.

Could find a friend? Seriously? Because rich people are so desperate for friends from the wrong side of the tracks (for them that is, which is the majority of us).

Cheesandcrackers · 19/11/2025 20:02

It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife. But hopefully this guy is as good at wife selecting as fortune making.

Nicewoman · 19/11/2025 20:08

ForeverHopeful3 · 18/11/2025 05:35

33F, about to be 34. Single as a pringle.

But, my family friend just proposed a guy (38) from an extremely wealthy family (millions, big business). She said the family is good and he's their only kid.

THE PROBLEM: I’ve seen a couple of pics + a company video of him and my honest initial reaction was “ew, no”. I’d rate him 2/10 by my usual standards. Maybe a 3. Overall, I feel zero physical spark... I've tried to find one picture of him where I think he looks even just a little handsome and I can't. Even his voice was a turn-off for me in the video. I couldn't make it to 30 seconds😭

Part of me thinks I should at least have one coffee in case attraction grows or I’m being too shallow. The other part feels it would be dishonest – like I’d only be forcing it for the money/lifestyle. I also don't want to waste his time or give the family any sort of false hope :(

Would you meet once anyway, or is zero initial attraction an automatic no, even when the man is literally a millionaire?

I have tried to go on dates with men I didn't find initially attractive in photos but attraction has never grown on me in the past. Usually after 2 dates, I call it quits :(

OMG, why are you even considering it. Grow up and real about what you write about him. You are physically repulsed by him. You think he won’t pick up on this when you’re having a life time of sex? Or avoiding having sex with him. And what about having several kids with him, that also could turn out ugly that are your kids. What happens then? It’s ridiculous you even considering meeting him. Save yourself time & bother and don’t meet up. And before you consider him a reject, I bet he has a string of hot women begging him,
yes begging him, to marry them. And yes, you are shallow, (but honest).

tierdytierd · 19/11/2025 20:10

Is this for real? Unless you’re a super model , highly intelligent, empathetic, generous, caring, kind & have good humour ,then why aren’t you punching!?
why do you assume that you’re somebody he’d go for?
he’s single yes, perhaps by choice, perhaps he’s a romantic & fed up of people seeing only wealth & not him.
based on your OP, leave the guy well alone

Clementine2377 · 19/11/2025 20:14

Absolutely written by AI, this site is flooded with these fake posts at the moment

Nicewoman · 19/11/2025 20:15

NET145 · 18/11/2025 06:52

Yea defo meet him- he can afford a voice coach, private trainer and plastic surgery and a bedroom coach

Oh boy, a new low. What else? A dick extension?

Skandex · 19/11/2025 20:17

He'd probably be equally repulsed by you and prefers being single.
I mean who titles a thread potential marriage when you aren't even in a relationship or even met??!!! Must have big tickets on yourself to think he'd be that into you straight up that he'd need to marry you instantly...
You even give me the ick and I'm straight...

There's still time to request the thread be deleted. (Can see why you're single.)

1457bloom · 19/11/2025 20:23

Its one of the only ways to become rich within 5-10 years if you play your cards right, start crying if he suggests a prenup.

Candystripes85 · 19/11/2025 20:27

The thing that strikes me the most is how highly you think of yourself. To think this man would marry you before you’ve even met him is very strange. For all you know he may think you look like an elephants knee cap and not want to spend any time with you either.

ACatNamedRobin · 19/11/2025 20:29

OP - I'm not male nor Asian (I'm getting the impression you are). But I'm extremely unphotogenic (my profile is especially horrible).
However I'm ok in real life, and can look quite beautiful. (And have gotten married twice so at least two men thought so too.)
Meet him in person.

WilfredsPies · 19/11/2025 20:42

Everyone else has pointed out how outrageously presumptuous you’re being, so I won’t repeat it. What I will say is that your usual policy of not dating anyone unless there is an instant spark is clearly not working all that well for you if you’re nearly 34 and ‘single as a Pringle’. So you can either stick with it and watch the fish in the pool dwindle down until you’re left with the choice of marrying someone who truly does make your flesh crawl, or staying forever as the unmarried aunty. Or, you can meet up with this man and see if he’d be willing to get to know each other as friends and see if attraction grows from that.

Take the money out of the equation completely. If you’re marrying for money, you’re in for a long and lonely time of it and nice handbags and a flash car won’t help you.

YoNoHeSido77 · 19/11/2025 20:43

Why not? I’ve met many rich people who have been marvellous company. I’m definitely someone from ‘the wrong side of the tracks’ but not everyone in this world is stuck up and judgmental.

I stayed friends with my millionaire ex for years until he got married and his new wife was jealous.
I’m sure that even rich people would like friends, they may even prefer to be friends with ‘not rich’ people?

Horses7 · 19/11/2025 20:45

Hopefully he’s dodged a bullet - yes you are shallow, not a hanging offence but definitely icky. On the other hand he may be a wonderful person with charm, intelligence, wit and humour so you could live dangerously and go for a drink with him. Ironically he could think you’re awful and do a runner.

TaffetaPhrases · 19/11/2025 20:45

You sound so desperate op 😆

NetZeroZealot · 19/11/2025 20:50

Another AI post. Getting tedious now.

Oopsadaisydoodah · 19/11/2025 20:55

ForeverHopeful3 · 18/11/2025 05:35

33F, about to be 34. Single as a pringle.

But, my family friend just proposed a guy (38) from an extremely wealthy family (millions, big business). She said the family is good and he's their only kid.

THE PROBLEM: I’ve seen a couple of pics + a company video of him and my honest initial reaction was “ew, no”. I’d rate him 2/10 by my usual standards. Maybe a 3. Overall, I feel zero physical spark... I've tried to find one picture of him where I think he looks even just a little handsome and I can't. Even his voice was a turn-off for me in the video. I couldn't make it to 30 seconds😭

Part of me thinks I should at least have one coffee in case attraction grows or I’m being too shallow. The other part feels it would be dishonest – like I’d only be forcing it for the money/lifestyle. I also don't want to waste his time or give the family any sort of false hope :(

Would you meet once anyway, or is zero initial attraction an automatic no, even when the man is literally a millionaire?

I have tried to go on dates with men I didn't find initially attractive in photos but attraction has never grown on me in the past. Usually after 2 dates, I call it quits :(

you have already decided so don’t waste your time.
if your looking for a life partner though in future but meet them irl. Some people look better in reality some look better in pictures. Meeting means you get a feel for them as people and at least you get a coffee and a chat. ( of course do your due diligence though for any red flags!!)

Alovelyhotbath · 19/11/2025 21:09

Your friend has suggested a guy to you who is single. Your first reaction was 'ew'. You have rated his looks out of 10 but are asking if YOU should give him a chance because he is rich. You sound absolutely awful and with any luck he wouldn't be the slightest bit interested when he gets to know the type of person you are.

Hungryyet · 19/11/2025 21:11

Why will he marry you when you haven't even met him? Bizarre

shhblackbag · 19/11/2025 21:16

I hope this man has goldigger radar. But then I think this is bullshit anyway.

PUGMEISTER21 · 19/11/2025 21:28

ForeverHopeful3 · 18/11/2025 05:35

33F, about to be 34. Single as a pringle.

But, my family friend just proposed a guy (38) from an extremely wealthy family (millions, big business). She said the family is good and he's their only kid.

THE PROBLEM: I’ve seen a couple of pics + a company video of him and my honest initial reaction was “ew, no”. I’d rate him 2/10 by my usual standards. Maybe a 3. Overall, I feel zero physical spark... I've tried to find one picture of him where I think he looks even just a little handsome and I can't. Even his voice was a turn-off for me in the video. I couldn't make it to 30 seconds😭

Part of me thinks I should at least have one coffee in case attraction grows or I’m being too shallow. The other part feels it would be dishonest – like I’d only be forcing it for the money/lifestyle. I also don't want to waste his time or give the family any sort of false hope :(

Would you meet once anyway, or is zero initial attraction an automatic no, even when the man is literally a millionaire?

I have tried to go on dates with men I didn't find initially attractive in photos but attraction has never grown on me in the past. Usually after 2 dates, I call it quits :(

Why is the labelled "POTENTIAL MARRIAGE" he should stay well clear.

User5306921 · 19/11/2025 21:55

I'm guessing this is an arranged potential marriage.
I say go and meet him for a coffee.

Looks fade. I'd prefer to be rich with an average looking man than poor with a good looking one.

WearyAuldWumman · 19/11/2025 21:59

FWIW, the first time I met a certain bloke at work I felt no attraction to him whatsoever.

We were married for nearly 27 years.

ThatCyanCat · 19/11/2025 22:01

PUGMEISTER21 · 19/11/2025 21:28

Why is the labelled "POTENTIAL MARRIAGE" he should stay well clear.

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It seems likely that OP is from a culture that holds arranged introductions with a view to marriage.