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Question for the married women

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georgiegold · 22/10/2025 02:20

If you had to redo your life, would you get married again?
I’m interested in the answers from women who are currently married and living with their spouse.

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ReadingSoManyThreads · 22/10/2025 23:38

If I was redoing my life, I would absolutely not marry my first husband again (it was a case of saving face as everything was booked).

But I would marry my current DH number 2 again. Together 18 years. Been married 14 years! Two beautiful children. He's a good egg, even though he pisses me off sometimes but I can be a dick too to be fair.

CelerySticker · 22/10/2025 23:40

Not a chance. 30 + years.

Strangesally20 · 22/10/2025 23:53

Together 10 years, married 8 years, 2 kids. Would do it all again in a heartbeat. Best decision I ever made.

Waitingfordoggo · 23/10/2025 00:10

HellsBells67 · 22/10/2025 23:32

If my dh died, I wouldn't want to do marry anyone else as I married dh to have my family with. At old age, there is no need.

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Exactly this. I only ever wanted one shot at marriage and family. Had I been widowed or separated young, perhaps I would have felt differently, but I am nearly 50 now and if DH died or left me, I wouldn’t share my home with a man ever again, let alone marry one. Hope that doesn’t sound like DH has put me off living with a man 😂 It’s the opposite really- I’ve been lucky and I couldn’t risk shacking up with a different fella. Just can’t imagine it at all.

AndOnAndOn1000 · 23/10/2025 00:20

No, I wouldn’t do it again.
I did it because stupid me didn’t want to be left on the shelf.
He’s a good man in so many ways, but we’ve grown apart and he’s extremely boring. I think he’s starting to go senile as well.
I care about him a lot, but I’m not in love with him.

XMissPlacedX · 23/10/2025 01:01

I love my DH but tbh I don’t think I would (I know that sounds awful). The crap his 3 kids have put us through the last 8 years has at times made life hell, along with issues with his children’s mothers. If I could do it again I would have stayed with my daughter’s father.

Mackerelfillets · 23/10/2025 01:13

Been with spouse 26 years, married for 24. First marriage for me, second for him but no kids from first marriage. I would def marry him again although I would have preferred meeting him younger as we had problems conceiving due to early menopause. We had 1 birth child after adopting 2.

Trej85 · 23/10/2025 10:08

Together 10 years, married 5. My husband is one of the three best things that ever happened to me, as well as our two children. I will be eternally grateful our paths met and I have no regrets because of the bad choices (previous boyfriend/job) I made which led me to meeting him. I’d have never have met him if I didn’t have this previous relationship/job.

ClareBlue · 24/10/2025 01:36

georgiegold · 22/10/2025 04:42

Maybe in the future if you suspect that then you should find a less accusatory way to ask the OP the reason behind their question… or scroll past since it’s anonymous and you think people claim anything anyway.

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Your OP and follow up post sound very much like a journalist starting a thread to then say, so many women regret being married, wouldn't marry again bla bla bla. The request for very specific details in a reply is the usual way it's framed when a journalist is doing it. So it wasn't unreasonable to say it looked like that, whatsoever.

Ella31 · 27/10/2025 10:56

10 years together, married three. Had heartbreak in our lives. 2 miscarriages, and then tragically lost our precious twin boys in the first week of their birth in 2023. Have since had our beautiful daughter. Life isn't the same since our wedding day, there are dark days sometimes. Would I change it, no, we love each other, we love our children here on earth and where ever our boys are looking down on us.

Scottishlass10 · 27/10/2025 19:04

I’d definitely marry him again. We didn’t hang about as we got married after 18 months of meeting. Been married for 38 years. First marriage for us both.

Purpleandgreenyarn · 27/10/2025 19:12

Together 20 years, married for 8 of those.
I would marry him again and again.

I wish I had of waited to have children though. Then again, not sure if I do. I was young, which brought benefits, pregnancy and birth was plain sailing, but afterwards, our relationship was tested tremendously. I definitely had moments in the toddler years where I felt alone and wanted to just leave. It was a combination of PND but also being partly true. We were broke so DH had two jobs, I did spend a lot of time alone. It wasn’t easy.

I also hated our wedding day. I actually think that took me a bit of time to get over. Our marriage though is wonderful, I feel like we couldn’t be more aligned and everything just works. We are entering the next stage in our lives now, children are older (not yet adults) and we are much more financially secure and just enjoy doing things together without worry.

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