Question for the married women

[georgiegold]

If you had to redo your life, would you get married again?
I’m interested in the answers from women who are currently married and living with their spouse.

Married 20 years, together 30. Raised 6 kids - wouldn’t change a thing

Together 32 years, married for 31 of those. I'd absolutely do it again. I can't imagine not being with him.

Are you considering marriage yourself OP? Do you have some concerns about your current relationship? It’s hard to see how getting answers to all these questions is going to help you.

I would have still had children with him but I just wouldn’t marry him. I should have left him years ago when the children were much younger but I just didn’t have the financial capacity to do so.
I wouldn’t marry again if anything happened to him either. Been there, done that!

Yes, I would, but I might wait longer before actually marrying - 24 is stupidly young. If we'd waited until our 30s, like people do now, we would probably have had a wedding more to our taste, with way fewer relatives attending!

First marriage. Together 11 years, married 4. Would do it again in a heartbeat.

Been together for 25 years, married for 16 (first and only marriage for both of us). Would do it again in a heartbeat. He's my best friend and we're a good team. Like any other adult, our lives have not always been easy, but we stick together and make life better/easier for each other.

I’ve been married twice: my first marriage lasted 10 months- we had been together 3 years. I got divorced at 21.

2nd marriage together 23 years and married for 14. I wouldn’t get married again. And I don’t think I’m a marriage kinda lass tbh.

Yes, second marriage for both. Been married 26 years, together 36.. he said he wished he had met me before I married my 1st H..it was the 60s I got pregnant at 18,you got married,he's 7 years younger,I told him he would have been climbing trees then.. bonded at work over grief, his df who raised him had just died,my lovely DM was dieing..he brought up my 3 dks, they adore him , oldest is only 13 years younger than him.

Together 23 years, married 17.
Wish I'd never met him tbh - love him more than anything but I'm not suited to living with anyone (AuDHD) and it's painful all round. He had an emotional affair last year as a partial consequence. Staying until DS12 has left home if I can behave reasonably (I don't mean DH has told me to behave or else I just don't know how else to word it)

He does at least 50% housework though!

First marriage 11 years married 13 together yes would marry again. It's not always been plain sailing we've worked really hard to get the relationship we have now.
Would of been nice if children hadn't come along quite so quickly although we might not of stayed together we were early twenties when we met.

Not sure I'd of married anyone else or would marry again. Unfortunately I see so many dissapointing men married to friends or family. I'd rather be on my own. My husband genuinely makes my life so much easier and enjoyable. A true partnership. I'm not sure I'd find that again.

Together 19 years, married 14 years and I would marry him again in a heartbeat. He’s my best friend, a great father and a wonderful husband. First marriage. We are due to retire in next couple of years and both so excited to enter this next chapter of our lives together

The answers to research project by the looks of things .

Currently divorcing and would not marry him again, looking back he love bombed me and has left me in the financial shit in my late thirties

Married 30 years, yes I think so. I if I hadn’t married my DH I more likely would have married someone else, my boyfriends seemed to like proposing to me!

Marriages can have their ups and downs, even a whole year or two can be not great.

Overall we know each other inside out, he is very kind and we laugh at each other’s many jokes.

We have lots of shared interests such as travel and also respect each of us needs time on our own or with our friends.

When we got married my DH was really poor, then his job got better and better and he became a very high earner. I’m not going to lie and say this hasn’t been good, he’s mega generous with money and we have never had even one argument or disagreement about it.

Together 21 years and married for 12 years, would do the whole thing again without a second thought. This is my first marriage and his second (he was married quite young) and we have a 9 year age gap (he is older).

I married because I wanted the legal recognition of our relationship and officially joining two families together.
We could have stayed as "partners" but I just felt it was stronger to be married (if that's the right word) because it showed (society I suppose?) that we are one family.

married 37 years together 46 years, Would definitely do it again my first marriage. his 2nd

Married 7.5y, together 16.5y. absolutely would do it all over again 🥰

Together 7 years, married 4. First (and hopefully only) marriage for both of us. Yes would do it again as he is a very good man. We’ve had our struggles, but I feel very lucky in comparison to other marriages that I know about where the men are inadequate, manipulative or abusive.

Hmmm I love my kids from the marriage and we have had some lovely times, but feel I have carried the can at home in terms of housework, and with the kids since we had them.
Therefore I feel he has benefitted from the marriage a lot more than me in that sense.
That said we have managed to get a lovely home and a nice comfortable lifestyle together so it’s swings and roundabouts.

Yes. Together 13 years, married for 1 😂 I took my time making sure it was right. I’ll let you in another 20.

Together 26 years, married for 23. Would definitely marry him all over again. Life hasn't always been easy and our relationship has certainly been tested (serious health problems, children with unrelated health issues, money very tight in the early days), but we've come throught it all together and are closer as a result.

Yes, we met at 21 and married at 23. Still happily married 23 years later. Three kids. It's never been on the rocks and I've never regretted the decision.

If the question was: would you remarry again after this marriage it would be probably not because now that I'm older I'm much more picky of what I would put up with. The sort of man that I would enter into a second marriage with probably doesn't exist or statistically too difficult to meet and have like me back enough to want to pursue marriage with me. Like a man with better finances than me who is good looking probably has better options than me (great as I am!)

Ironically, when I was young and had more options I was very naive and tolerant about appearances and finances, but now that I'm older I am much more picky too selective for the remaining few options. Unless it's great, I don't want it because I've already built a life and I'm settled, a husband at this point should only improve it. Most men want more of the woman (therapist and coach, 50-50 finances, housekeeper, place to crash, porn actress) I'm just over all this.