@BoxOfCats We sound a bit similar in that aspect... I used to be ultra flexible for someone I was seeing, to the point of booking AL to see him, as I figured he had kids so I'd have to. In hindsight that really lowered my stock in his eyes.
That sounds like a really nice convo! Can you go there and work remotely from there, or would you rather go for a week max? What's the longest you've spent together in a row?
He's putting in an awful lot of effort for someone that's not looking for something serious :) But also, early romance can be addicitive when it's good, so perhaps I shouldn't read into it.
So I'm going to see Mr Volleyball next week (work reasons). And also spending time in... It's not Rome but let's say it's Rome for storyline's sake. I've got a feeling he's met someone cos of something he said, but I'll playfully ask him next week. There's a few guys I know in Rome that have queried about my availability for a date... Honestly... I'd rather spend the weekend alone looking at art and drinking espressos than with a man, that's my feeling right now.
Or perhaps it's the case that I don't see any potential with these particular men and would rather be alone and open to meeting new men, as meeting men in Rome isn't exactly hard? Fingers crossed for my manifestation!
@TwistedWonder Sounds tough... Losing the ability to have sex in the traditional way is a big loss of identity. Suppose similar to a woman losing their breasts to cancer? I had a period of a few years where sex was very challenging for me and it was rough... You feel like a different person.
I've started to pick up that the men that want to talk for ages and don't try anything have something to confess in the sex/physical department.
It's been interesting for me since 'divorce' that I've ended up dating 2 guys with a non-visible physical disability. Both didn't mention it and took ages to get physical. The sex was amazing with both when it happened, but it was really infrequent due to chronic pain/ breathing difficulties/ similar. Both were really difficult dynamics, the good days were fantastic, and the bad days pretty bad. At the moment I just don't want to put myself through the stresses of that again, as men's moods are so up and down with chronic illness or similar situations.
I've spent most of age 25-35 basically celibate with odd bits here and there. Whether it's fair or not, the way to my heart and into an LTR with me right now is being sexually consistent, i.e. having a high drive and expressing it regularly, not one day on, 2 months off. Obvs things can change as life is unpredictable, but I'd like to spend the next 10 years of my life in an intense physical relationship, so if I don't see that over the first 3 months, I won't stick with it.