Well, Mr Nomad dropped a bit of a bombshell last night.
Apparently earlier in the year he was seeing someone casually, who lives on the other side of the world - she was over here in NZ travelling. And two months before Mr Nomad and I met (we met 7 weeks ago), they agreed that she would fly back and stay with him for a week or two in early January. He said he wanted to come clean with me, and that he was basically in a real dilemma about it because it’s a long expensive trip for her, plus peak holiday season at this place in January, so it will be very expensive for her to find alternative accommodation even at this point. He also said he’s no longer interested in seeing her as he really likes me. He said he’d thought about offering her the spare room to stay in and would not sleep with her, but he can see why that wouldn’t be ok for me.
He and I still haven’t had any conversations on whether we are actually in a relationship with one another, or what will happen in mid December when he moves down to live in <holiday destination>. In fact, as it’s 5 hours away from where I live, I would be none the wiser if she visited him or not. He could have said nothing, and I’d never know.
So I’m a bit unsure why he’s chosen to tell me this (and why now) other than that it’s been weighing on his conscience, as we were talking about honesty right before it came up. And I probably need to ask some more questions about the situation to really decide how I feel about it all. I didn’t really say too much other than that he needs to figure out for himself what he thinks the right thing to do is. I’m not comfortable of the idea of this woman staying with him, but then I’d also not been really allowing myself to think beyond mid December when he moves, so this has probably raised a big question of where this is all going.