Dating thread 53 - 2025. Cuffing Season

[ElleintheWoods]

The Rules:

• The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating
• Develop a thick skin
• Do not invest emotionally too soon
• It's all BS until it actually happens
• Trust your gut instinct
• People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
• Know your wortH
• If it's not fun, stop
• Loo update is mandatory
• No dating the thread
• Treat others as you'd like to be treated
• Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
• The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
• OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item*

Yes, totally understand what you’re saying.

Mr C has taken 2 days to reply to my last messages, although there is still a slightly flirty tone in his reply. I’m really unsure what he wants from me - there’s been zero suggestion of meeting up or anything like that. Is it just an ego boost? Who knows…

Nice, sounds like those app algorithms are actually doing a good job for once!

Mr Nomad paid me a fleeting visit the evening before last. He’s still in the last week or two of his insanely busy peak work period. He had to drive somewhere for work via my city, and despite having been awake for about 24 hours at that point he stopped by to visit for 2 hours on the way through. It’s been about 2 weeks since I last saw him in person; we were both quite pleased to see each other!

Aww how lovely! Sounds fun.

@BoxOfCats
19 yrs younger than me .

Hey ladies, just catching up!

@BoxOfCats I see Mr Nomad continues to make all other men look bad in comparison... Don't even know why you're bothering with anyone else! He literally "drove all night to get to you" 😉

Mr C... Sounds delicious on paper. But I think i know his type. Too busy to actually date/ text, and a little avoidant/ high walls? I'd say a lot of successful business people who are eligible and single have that personality. My Mr RedWine is the same and I just couldn't do it... During the working week he often wouldn't text at all as he'd work so much, so I'd assume 'not interested'. Then periodically makes it clear he's very interested. Then... We might be on a day out together, something kicks off at work, and he's on his phone, calling and texting the entire time that we're out.

Does it sound familiar at all?

@Ceci693 What's the date plan with Mr Russian?

@librauk Okay... We need to talk about all these younger guys making a beeline for us! I'll add a bit to the storyline in my next post! Coffee sounds exciting...

Okay... Shockingly... I have nothing but good things to say about Mr RedFlagParade 🚩at the moment. In fact, I very much look forward to our next date. Did anyone honestly see this coming?!

He is super consistent, as in, calls every day. I looove the conversations, they are extremely interesting. We get each other. The sex? A+++ and can see it improving. But most of all, he's really affectionate, really touchy-feely, so warm and loving. And none of it feels forced. If only we weren't all kinds of wrong for each other...

Chilling together feels pretty much like having your first proper boyfriend at 19. I have to vaguely move my hand and he holds it. And he tells me his hopes, dreams, fears... It's perfect. Just what I need right now. I just wonder if that's his 'standard package' for every woman and will be withdrawn shortly.

Now... Let's bring in Mr Stockbroker, and to rush ahead, I'm not gonna date him as we work together. He's the 'hot guy' at work, and at least 10 years younger than me.

So today... He goes 'hey can we catch up over a coffee mid-morning?' The content of the coffee? He wanted to ask me what I like to do, what interests me, where I grew up, and if I'm single?! Have I been on a date on my employer's dime? 😂He's also sending follow-up messages now...

Thoroughly enjoyed the attention and he's a lovely guy but... What's with all these young guys fishing for older women?! @librauk any idea?? Can you please ask your guy and let us all know?

In fact, in recent months, the OLDEST person that's tried to ask me out has been 3 years younger.

The older women fantasy…

I actually have a match and a chat going, can you believe it !

@ElleintheWoods@BeAppleNow
i get em all the time, some are wayyyyyy too young 20-30’s nooooo!! And that is with filters on .
45 or over is normally my bottom line , but the coffee date one , will call him Mr Fridge , I have let slip, he is 44 😁
I have no expectations , it is just a coffee date ,no more at present , he is also new to the dating pool, I am sure with his looks,and charm, he will have plenty of offers.
the last guy I dated , was 47 when we met .
i am also chatting to a 46yr, Mr Rodeo, have been for a few weeks, purely platonic, at the moment .

Yeahhhhh 😁

@ElleintheWoods Haha sounds like we have dated exactly the same guy! That is pretty much Mr Charismatic to a T. Although he's never done work stuff while we've been together, but works an insane number of hours per week through the year. I did honestly wonder while we were dating whether he really wanted a relationship (he did say he hasn't had one in 5 years as he'd been prioritizing work...)

As for Mr Nomad, yes he is so far putting all other men I've dated to shame. Still making time to call me every day, seems incurred and engaged but not in a lovebomby way. I think I'm just worried about getting carried away or over invested so Mr C has been a helpful reminder not to do that. I don't think Mr C, hand on heart, is a genuine option term.

How are things moving along dating wise for you this week?

Is that so widespread?! And... Dare I ask what exactly is involved in the older woman fantasy, other than that we can teach them a thing or 2?

Congrats on the chat! Are you going to ask her...?

@librauk What are you after with these guys? Would you date them seriously/ open to a bt of fun/ see how it goes and then decide?

@BoxOfCats with this type of personality I wouldn't take the absence of texts for a few days too seriously. They'll just be 'in the zone'. But personally I don't want to date a workaholic. I have many as friends, but from my man I want TLC. I'm the kind of person that puts her phone away and wants to be really present when I'm with my partner, and I'd want them to do the same.

Not going to lie, I am loving time with Mr RFP🚩now. I'm a tiny bit worried I could get carried away so I'm keeping other guys in the background, but truthfully, at the moment they don't interest me and even annoy me if they start flirting etc.

ElleintheWoods It's been a thing forever hasn't it. When I used to be on the dating site with the forum there was at least one new thread a week 'Looking for older women'. Sometimes they'd say stuff like 'Oh I love the way an older woman thinks' but all of the ones who I ever spoke to were as basic as 'You will know loads of sexual stuff'. Will I?!

Who would have thought that things would still be going strong with Mr RFP?! Pleased for you, it sounds great all round.

I completely understand you being slightly cautious around him, however.

Oh yes - the older fantasy has always been a thing, as a younger man ( many many years ago) , older women were seen as life experienced, more exciting, more interesting and alluring than women of a similar age

@ElleintheWoods
I see how it goes 😊

I’m fairly career-oriented myself, but I also appreciate work life balance, and do want a partner who can actually spend time with me yes. To be fair to Mr C, he was always very present and attentive on our dates, just not very good at communicating in between.

Haha well I did wonder if actually there was a connection building but you said he’s not a viable option 😂 Perhaps you should just roll with it for a bit longer and see where it goes?

Things are going nowhere with mine. No message all day yesterday apart from one late last night saying 'It must be difficult to have time to date when you have kids'.

Ugh. I hate that. He could be genuinely being thoughtful but in my experience it's what men say when they aren't really interested. I'd already told him that I've had dates with men from Bumble.

The age thing got me checking, lol
out of the 6 , I’m chatting too, 4 are in 40’s 2 are in 50’s .

6 !

It’s now just went up too 7 🤣

Haha, sounds like you’re on a roll @librauk!

What age are you @librauk ?

Over the last probably few months my single friend and I have been hit on mostly by 18yr old guys and we're 34 and it's the same on the apps 🙈

@Kat888
i am over 60, but look way younger .
and often their opening line is, are you really that age? You look way younger 🤣🤣