Are men all the same in every country?

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I’m tired of being treated like a maid. Last relationship my ex expected me to cook and clean like a maid but this new one as well.

i understand he pays our bills but he expects me to cook and clean. He says that relationships should make each other lives more pleasant , not harder.

he complains that since we’ve been together his expenses have gone up 3 times and he’s cleaning and cooking just as much as before.

i told him that I can do more than cook and clean, and his response is “but I need help with cooking and cleaning. I feel resentful if im paying all our bills AND cooking for myself and cleaning more than you”

what should i do here??

No, not all men. Do you work?

Cinderella …… What should you do?
Im surprised you need to ask.
Leave him!

Well it doesn't sound like it's got legs, but perhaps don't rush into co dependent relationships. Maintaining your own life and independence tends to make women happier.

get a job and move out.

What more can / do you do other than cook and clean?

Are you not financially contributing?

Why are you not contributing to the financial situation. If my husband didn't work I would expect the household duties to be completed by him.

Men are not all the same. Unless of course you think women are all the same. Hth.

I've just re read your post and can't believe this isn't a joke. So you aren't contributing financially and you're doing less than him in the house? No wonder he's annoyed. My advice to him is to leave you.

I work, but I don’t contribute to our household because I need to build up my savings to feel safe.

but he expects me to do 90% of the household chores from laundry to cooking and cleaning. He said he’ll take out the trash/recycle and clean the bathroom.

But I also work? We both work so why does he get to do less?

Why is it his problem you have no savings? Do you have children together? Do you understand the concept of partnership? If someone isn't pulling their weight the other party will clearly end up resentful.

I do a lot. Sometimes I buy flowers for home, I decorate our home as well because when I moved in first his house was empty besides a desk bed computer and a tv.

He's paying your bills. How is that fair? You need to contribute financially or otherwise contribute more in the house. It's not complicated or a difficult situation to understand.

It’s not but I need to feel safe. Isn’t that important to my partner?

If I were him, I'd be leaving. You take from the table but don't bring anything to the table.

How would you feel if he did not pay the bills because he wanted to keep all his money?

You don't see his perspective at all? My goodness you sound quite the catch.

He’s fine he’s well off. I have no savings because I recently paid off debt. I can’t help but to feel like his mom if I’m cooking and cleaning for him all of the time.

You’re living rent free! You can’t have it both ways.

He isn't responsible for your past choices which have left you feeling unsafe. Be an adult and seek therapy. Get your own home and be financially independent. Your his partner not his child.

How old are you????

It's also his house?

You aren't adding anything to his plate. I wonder why he's with you frankly. You sound incredibly self centred and immature.

Your not his mum your an adult living rent free in his home. Your doing less household chores than he is and buying flowers occasionally doesn't cut it.

But I don’t really eat all that much and need much. I told him that and he says that his expenses have tripled because we go out every weekend (he wants to stay home sometimes but I don’t go out on weekday so we have to go out on weekend or else it’ll be unfair for me). And that things like toothpaste and toilet paper run out twice as fast.

hes like nickel and diming me and gas lighting me to feel guilty

If you were a man people would be using an unpleasant term. He will ask you to leave soon I imagine.