Are men all the same in every country?

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I’m tired of being treated like a maid. Last relationship my ex expected me to cook and clean like a maid but this new one as well.

i understand he pays our bills but he expects me to cook and clean. He says that relationships should make each other lives more pleasant , not harder.

he complains that since we’ve been together his expenses have gone up 3 times and he’s cleaning and cooking just as much as before.

i told him that I can do more than cook and clean, and his response is “but I need help with cooking and cleaning. I feel resentful if im paying all our bills AND cooking for myself and cleaning more than you”

what should i do here??

Glad you're back OP, I love your threads! Highly entertaining 🤣

Just contribute to the bills and stop expecting men to fund you and your lifestyle.

I can see this turning into another horribly fascinating slow-motion car crash just like all the OP's other threads. It's obvious that she hasn't gained one iota of self-awareness despite all the counselling she (allegedly) was having last time, she's still impossibly lazy and entitled, still sleeping till mid-afternoon... Has there been any mention of the God-awful eating habits yet?
The most fascinating thing of all is that she's found another poor victim individual to latch onto. All hail the Queen of the Fannylodgers!

I think your solution is to move out, get your own place, pay your own bills, do your own cleaning and eat the minuscule amount of food you talk about.

Youre not compatible and this won’t end well.

Loving the suggestion of vulva lodger!

Ooooh Sunday pisstake. Could bw better though. This is too transparent.

Yes, my dear, every man in every country expects a woman to bring SOMETHING to the table.

Sex, the charm of your company, fresh flowers...none of that is enough to bring to a relationship long term. You need to contribute either financially or by doing more cooking/cleaning. You may think this is ridiculous but frankly nobody will ever love you, love you deeply, and love you forever which you so clearly want as long as you refuse to accept this fact.

You can scour the Earth and you will never find the magic man who will find you gorgeous/funny/sweet/clever ebough to pay for 100% house and bills and also not expect a clean house or warm meal from you. The sooner you understand you need to contribute something in return instead of taking from others you may find a man who doesn't end up kicking you out and some friends who don't ditch you.

You not contributing financially even though you're working makes you less safe because your partner is getting tired of you not pulling your weight and will end the relationship. Then you'll be paying 100% of everything and all the cooking and cleaning too.

Good luck.👍

You need to start contributing to your household expenses. If you both work he can't expect you to do all the housework and you can't expect him to pay all the bills.

Oh, you're back, OP. It's been a few months since you were last here. I see you've met a new man now and seem to be sponging off him too. Surprise, surprise. I guess you're back in Russia and the new man is Russian?

FYI for anyone posting in this thread who doesn't know - the OP posted in Relationships numerous times a few months ago constantly moaning about her ex-fiancé in Asia, who paid all the bills for both of them and also supported his parents and his elderly sick grandmother, and the OP controlled him to a degree that seemed abusive to many of us. For example, she didn't allow him to see any of his family or friends without her being there, and refused to let him go to church or to do the voluntary work he enjoyed. Running a search for her previous threads here is quite an eye-opener.

Because if I don’t I have no where to go. As on the other hand if we break up he’ll be fine.

thats a big difference. I just think it’s unfair I have to work and expected to do most of the house work.

If you don’t contribute financially and no kids are involved, he may not be unreasonable.

I can’t afford it. I make 2400 usd a month. His bills are much more than that. How can I contribute also I have no savings hence no safety’s. If you love someone shouldn’t they understand that?

I also work like everyone else and to think that I have to do MORE work is beyond crazy. I know for a fact I’m not wrong here

But this makes things transactional. Then it’s not love is it??

You seem to find men who need help, and then move in with them. Then seem surprised when that's what they want from you

Then leave 🤷🏻‍♀️

No, it’s about contribution, collaboration and compromise. You sound unwilling in all those areas.
A house needs to be run, bills paid, meals cooked. You sound unwilling to contribute to any of that. That’s not transactional, that’s about there being a fair split of resources.

No, it makes it reciprocal so you mutually benefit each other. Why is that so hard to understand?

Thanks for the tread OP, I thought women like you were invented by redditors 😂
You say "he's the man" meaning what? He should pay? Ok if you want to live in the 19th Century then you have to 'be the women" and cook and clean. Or you can, you know, be fair and both pay and both do chores. Now, you are being financially abusive.

How did you find a new man to move in with so quickly after splitting with the last one?

Is it love after only 2 months?

Just reading through the thread and I mentally bet myself it was you! The russian and Asia reference confirms it
I knew there could not be two women in the world with your views
He needs to leave you

I was interested in your initial question but this is just another 'I'm with a man who wants me to wait on him all my life and i don't want to should I do that or not?'

No not all men are the same
and all women are not the same either

yiu are either a partnership or you are not

and if not, leave ,

Learn to be independent. If YOU want to go out over the weekend, put YOUR hand into YOUR pocket and pay for it.

Just pay your own way for goodness sakes. Pay for your toiletries, your heating, your food.

Fair is for both partners to contribute equally financially and domestically. Of you're doing less of one you should be doing more of the other.

It sounds like you want him to contribute 100% financially and 90% domestically.