Are men all the same in every country?

[togo1004]

I’m tired of being treated like a maid. Last relationship my ex expected me to cook and clean like a maid but this new one as well.

i understand he pays our bills but he expects me to cook and clean. He says that relationships should make each other lives more pleasant , not harder.

he complains that since we’ve been together his expenses have gone up 3 times and he’s cleaning and cooking just as much as before.

i told him that I can do more than cook and clean, and his response is “but I need help with cooking and cleaning. I feel resentful if im paying all our bills AND cooking for myself and cleaning more than you”

what should i do here??

How does he expect you to keep your nails looking tidy if you have to cook and clean?

I think that might have been her ex.

nah you could just run back to mummy and daddy

Read her previous posts on advanced search. She is very… consistent.

Because you are not paying any money. Surely that is obvious? You get to save money and he has to spend more money. I wouldn’t put up with you. Stop sponging and start contributing. He’s a fool for putting up with all of this.

Yes - all men are like this. You shouldn't have to be doing all the cooking and cleaning. You are not his maid. And when he does all the cooking and cleaning, he's doing too much when you need to sleep. Maybe he should get an actual maid to do the cooking and cleaning? You deserve better.

You are not contributing to the finances though,he’s the one who needs to leave you!

I’d be kicking you out - you’re living there rent free and then complaining!

So you work, keep all your money for yourself and expect him to pay for your keep? If I were him, I would kick your selfish arse out of my house!

If this is not a wind-up, I feel really sorry for your partner for being in a clearly abusive relationship.

I just looked. Blimey!

OP you are either one of the most self obsessed, delusional and immature people I have ever come across or you are all that plus you are trying out your fantasy life on mumsnet.

Either way you are being deeply weird and unpleasant.

Save your typing folks!

Yeah the ex finally kicked her out and it looks like shes latched onto the first guy she find back home in Russia
Seriously @togo1004 you need to be single and having intensive therapy or something because the way you think and act is really unhinged

Lets face it. If you want to live with in a man's house rent free, whilst making him take you out every weekend, there is one thing you need to be good at, and it is not cooking or cleaning. Maybe you just aren't compatible enough.

Considering she contributes nothing financially, maybe SHE should be paying for a maid.

So his house and money are yours, your money is yours, housework and labour are his, and your feelings take priority over his? Sounds legit.

Is this thread genuine? Sometimes the most bizzare ones are, unfortunately.

I feel sorry for these men you keep taking up with.

Kindly OP.
I think you need to leave him.

He sounds lovely and probably needs someone who will be a 50:50 partner in life, finances and cleaning.
He owns the house, pays the bills and does most of the cleaning, and sounds thorough too. You get up at 2pm 😮 he could get himself a nice cat and be in the same position without the agro. Winner.

You're taking the piss. If you don't / can't contribute financially to a relationship, you contribute through labour.

His outgoings have gone up. He doesn't want to go places on weekends but that's apparently unfair on you, so he has to foot that bill. You stay in bed while he gets the house presentable on weekends.

I'm assuming at the moment you are young and attractive. Enjoy the free ride while you can as it will come crashing down when you lose those attributes.

This has got to either be a reverse or a wind up. Nobody can be THIS entitled. Unless it's cultural (and hence the title of the post). Where are you from OP? And where is your DP from?

She does nothing. She thinks he's being unreasonable for wanting her to contribute at all. Read her other threads. Her contribution to chores is organising drawers when they need it. That's it.

You don’t feel safe with him, hence need to build up money, you but flowers and don’t want to run the house. What’s in it for him? From what I can see I’d ask you to move out.

So you've just met him (given how recently you were living with your ex) and have moved in expecting him to fully support you financially. Did you discuss that with him in advance or did he think it was going to be a normal, equal realtionship?

So why do you think he should support you? What do you give in return? Sex and looking pretty? That doesn't seem to be enough for him.

you’re a scrounger and you should contribute financially. You’re a partnership or you should be. I would dump you pronto.

I've read your other threads and it's alarming. You need to seek professional mental health care.