Are men all the same in every country?

[togo1004]

I’m tired of being treated like a maid. Last relationship my ex expected me to cook and clean like a maid but this new one as well.

i understand he pays our bills but he expects me to cook and clean. He says that relationships should make each other lives more pleasant , not harder.

he complains that since we’ve been together his expenses have gone up 3 times and he’s cleaning and cooking just as much as before.

i told him that I can do more than cook and clean, and his response is “but I need help with cooking and cleaning. I feel resentful if im paying all our bills AND cooking for myself and cleaning more than you”

what should i do here??

Yes I moved into his home. I moved back to my parents recently and we decided to move into his home since he already owns it.

You're clearly a child or this post isn't real. See ya!

I call bullshit.

So you work but don’t contribute financially. And he works but doesn’t want to do much that’s domestic. And you communicate by being unpleasant to each other about it. I’m not sure you’re compatible.

it’s not your responsibility do everything in the home. But it’s not his to fund everything.

You need to grow up

You are a Vulvalodger OP. Shame on you. He needs to LTB.

Is this a reverse? Or just made up?

He is not being unreasonable, and I expect many other men would feel the same. I suggest you live on your own for a while and start being responsible for your own life instead of expecting your partner to be your parent.

It’s not that I don’t want to. I NEED to feel safe because I have just few thousand saved. He’s a traditional guy which I like but not this maid crap.

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Ah so you have yourself a "Blesser" but you no longer like the terms.

(From someone in another country)

But you said he said he’s doing more. So currently you’re doing less than him? He works, pays the bills and feels he’s doing more housework? Why should you get to do less?

'Vulvalodger".

Very good.

I was coming up with some ideas of my own that weren't quite so genteel.

Ok well to answer your question, yes I imagine most men in every country would have a problem with this level of entitlement.

Do you both work full time in comparable jobs in terms of stress/hours/manual work etc?

Even if they were in exactly the same jobs and earning the exactly the same amount it wouldn't be fair she's living rent free and doing less household chores.

I’m a programmer and he’s an electrician works about 11 hours per day.

i don’t know about the stress level as he’s mostly jolly all of the thme

Wouldn’t we all like savings but it’s unreasonable you’re not contributing anything. No-one needs to go out every weekend. Who is paying for that?

Is he supporting you financially?

Find someone else your own level then think about splitting chores 50/50 is my opinion. Your responses sound rather entitled.

All men aren’t the same even in this country, so no.

HE sounds great!

He THINKS he does more. I do tidy up but every weekend he goes nuts saying the house is dirty and cleans for hours.

like today he woke up, went out for a jog comes back cleans the drains in the sink and the bathroom and did all of the dishes which was a lot. He also mopped and vacuumed the floor and cleaned the vacuum head and I can’t hear him going what the f while I’m still sleeping When I woke up around 2 he said can you like tidy up? I can’t be paying all the bills and cleaning all at once with an attitude.

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Yeah, step too far that last one I think 🤣

So he doesn't want to fund everything for the both of you: reasonable.
You don't want to fund anything: unreasonable.

He doesn't want to go 'out' out every weekend: reasonable.
You insist on going out every weekend: unreasonable.

He doesn't like doing more than half of the home work: reasonable.
You refuse to do half: unreasonable.

I get that you "NEED" to keep all your money to yourself, to go out on the town every weekend, and to arrange flowers & pictures instead of cleaning the bathroom. You have your "needs". But your boyfriend IS NOT RESPONSIBLE for them.

I'm sure he cares about you feeling safe and happy, but you're telling him you can only feel good if he continually sacrifices for you. Don't you care at all about his comfort and happiness?

If this is real, what you "NEED" is a therapist and a more realistic attitude. Good luck (you're gonna need it at this rate!)