To not date and not be in a relationship - possibly ever again

[MargoLivebetter]

I finished a longish term relationship a couple of months ago. I'm mid 50s and for the first time ever in my life, I am thinking that I will not date again or be in a relationship. I feel strangely peaceful and content about it all, and slightly surprised that I've arrived here.

Are there others out there who have reached this decision too? If yes, how is it going?

Just want to say as well to ignore all the people on here who say we become invisible. I’ve never been as visible as in my 40s, from all age groups of men. It’s something a particular shitty brand of men have come up with to make women feel worthless. If you want to date, casual, relationship then you definitely can. I’m having the most fun I’ve ever had!

Having been married and divorced I was never going to fully share my life in that capacity with anyone again, but I did have a couple of long-term relationships.

After 6 years together, my last one fizzled out early last year.
I've since realised that I actually do better on my own; I feel more emotionally balanced, more peaceful and overall content.

At 49, I'm entirely good with this.
When looking at my friends and colleagues, I do not feel like I'm missing out, or jealous of their couple-dom.
If anything, I often feel relieved that I don't have to deal with the crap they have to deal with on a regular basis.

I'm just not very good at relationships overall, I don't think.
And that's okay.
I'm happy.

While you're not wrong in your approach, you're not factoring in that some of these randoms seem to get a kick out of tearing women down. You need to have a very thick skin to not be affected by the negging and the rejections and the ghostings.

I realised that OLD was completely destroying my self esteem and self worth. Initially I could laugh it off but over time it does chip away at you. I stepped away because I could see it wasn't good for my mental health. I think any woman confident enough to deal with all the shit that comes with OLD, is probably confident enough to just ask out a guy in real life! I think that probably has a higher chance of working out than any online date.