And yeah, no normal men anywhere want this. Freaks who want to drag everyone else into the gutter with them are in the tiny minority but they're forever shrieking and yelping about their grim, sordid fucked up lives, trying to convince normal people to be perverted weirdos too.
They'll try anything, normality shaming screaming weird slurs about being "vanilla" and DON'T JUDGE MEEEEE!!!!!
Of course we're judging them. They can fuck off with their perversions and keep them to themselves if they don't want normal people to judge them.
The vast, vast, vast majority of people want nothing to do with this. Leave him, do it now, take your kids right away from this freak.
Do you want this creepy bastard of a man around your kids? How will you feel when he tells them their mother is a skank who fucked other men - which he will do when you leave him or when he leaves you.
What if he tries to normalise this kind of coercive perversion to them when they are older? Imagine the sex talk - when a woman loves a man very much she lets him force her to let random men stick their dick in her so the man can get his rocks off.
It is only a matter of time now, your marriage is completely, totally and forever over. Leave now before he harms you any further.
And remember, Gisele Pelicot's husband - the porn addicted rapist - did EXACTLY what your husband is doing, he tried to talk her into letting random men stick their dicks in her. When she refused, he started drugging her and handing her over to random rapists.
Your husband is not safe, not normal and you need to go.