Partner does not know I know he didn't stay home last night

[Goldleafsand]

My partner went out with friends for food and drinks last night
He msg me at 11pm saying he would be getting a taxi home soon , just having one last beer which is all fine by me of course.
We both msg goodnight and I love you to each other as I had an early start this morning
All was really good between us
I said I'd hoped he had a lovely evening with friends and he said he was looking forward to seeing me on Wednesday.

This morning my work colleague rang me and said her car wouldn't start and would I mind picking her up on the way to work , I agreed , it's absolutely no problem for me & didnt put me out of my way at all

She lives on the same cul de sac as my partner and you have to drive past his to get to hers.
As I glanced at his house I noticed every curtain was open including the bedroom ones. He also hadn't put his bin out , it's bin day
I know his house if that makes sense and it was clear he had not been home.
This was 7. 30 am , he is on annual leave , he was planning a lay in this morning , he was out with mates drinking I know him well he would no way be up that early
Anyway this surprised me a bit as he hadn't said he was staying out , however i understand things can cahnge on a night out drinking and all that and maybe he stayed at a friend's house ? Stayed for a few more drinks , who knows 🤷‍♀️

He is free to do how he pleases
However I have not heard from his at all today.
No goodmorning txts which is unlike him, even if he had been out drinking the night before he would always msg in the morning.

I am not going to say I know he didn't stay at home , I am going to sit back and watch and see if he is honest about this as there would be no reason to lie to me
I am very laid back and we both have a good group of friends and social lives so I am in no way controlling or jealous type
But there's this awful gut feeling niggling away at me and it's like my instincts are telling me something just isn't right here
I am also worrying that he is actually ok
But I don't want to bombard him with msgs either
So I'm giving it some time to see how this pans out throughout the day.
Why do I have this awful gut feeling? Is it anxiety or intuition?

Hope you have heard back!

Hope he's reappeared safely by now OP.

I really hope all is ok.

Any update? Is he ok?

Yeah this sounds most likely to me! Curtains left open does not mean he wasn’t in bed. Just as curtains left shut doesn’t mean you aren’t up.

I really hope everything is ok @Goldleafsand

Could have already opened all the blinds or not closed them. Maybe the bin doesn’t need to go out every time if he’s living alone.

I think if he hasn't answered messages and you're concerned for his safety go back round to his house and knock on the door - hopefully he is in and that will both re-assure you he is safe and maybe start a conversation that answers all your other questions.

So sorry OP,hope you've heard by now.

Is there any chance he's used coke?Could be he didn't go to bed until 7/8am and has crashed. I have seen that happen with an (obviously Ex) partner before and there was no moving him until 5pm.

I hope you are okay @Goldleafsand.

Following for news. Hope you’ve heard from him by now and it was all an innocent explanation

I’ve read your updates. It’s giving the potential of ghosting I’m sorry to say.
His phone is on he will have seen your text and missed call, leave him to reach out

Any news?

Hi OP, just seen your thread. I hope he's ok. So sorry some people on here have given you such a hard time. We all know those posters would react the exact same were they in the same position as you.

I think most people on here are wrong. I would have called straight away and the txt and said “hey you ok l, x asked me to pick them for work cos there car wouldn’t start and I noticed the curtains open and the bin not out! Anyway hope it’s just a bad hangover! Speak later”

OP you are right to listen to your instincts - and hopefully you are wrong, but double checking he’s okay only shows that you care.

When it comes to playing it cool or actually showing you care, I know who I would rather be in a relationship with.

It's not "off" at all. OP posted her situation on here and people took time to read and respond. Of course they want to know what happened.

You seem to have a lot of opinions about what people should and shouldn't talk about. It's not up to you to control others' speech.

I hope he’s ok OP, I’d be worried too, if he lives alone in then best check in with a friend of his , it’s better to be safe than sorry
If it was other way round I’m sure you’d expect him to check up to see you’re ok

I think you’re fair enough to be worried OP but just remember there is often a very mundane explanation for these situations, hangover recovery sounds like the most likely one! Hope you hear from him soon.

I really hope you and he are both ok. What a worry for you x

Any update op? I hope everything is ok

Hope hes ok and just very hungover, the most likely outcome I'm sure

Have you heard back? Hope all is ok

I would go over there and ring the bell

Hope you're ok and you've found out what's going on