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Mounjaro affecting friendship

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MounjaroBore · 11/09/2025 13:00

Name changed for this and i'm posting it in relationships because there is no aibu and weight loss injections isn't the appropriate outlet because people are there seeking support.

I have a friend who has recently gone on mounjaro. A few months ago. She wasn't that overweight, and only had about a stone and a half to lose.

I'm happy for her that it's doing what she wants, but I am finding it's affecting our friendship. Whenever we go out, she's decided she wants to go for dinner despite being unable to eat more than a few mouthfuls. She eats barely a few mouthfuls of her dinner and then asked the restaurant to box it up.

All she talks about is mounjaro, and how much weight she's lost. She shares about buying needles off the internet for the golden dose and the extra dose, and tells me about the new community community, she's found on reddit, to help her do this. She said she's beginning to feel like a drug addict.

Whilst doing this, she encourages me to finish everything on my plate and order more food. I am a bit overweight, too, and I was actually more overweight than she was. I suggested perhaps I should get it and she was like, no, you don't need to lose weight.You look great order something else... encouraging me to order more food.

She keeps asking me if she looks as if she's lost weight. Every time I see her. She tells me how many people haven't commented on her weight loss and she wishes, they would.

She tells me this every time I see her and I reply with the same thing every time I see her which is it is generally a faux pas to comment on someone's weight. Perhaps people haven't noticed or if they have, they don't want to comment because it's impolite to mention somebody's weight.

Sorry. What's going on here? We've been friends for years suddenly I need to eat more food when I was more overweight than her to start with and all she talks about is her weight loss. She seems to ask me to go out for dinner with her to demonstrate me how little she eats.

She had her dinner boxed up, and she made such a thing of it that she'll barely be able to eat the other half for lunch tomorrow.

I don't want to back away from the friendship, but the last few times I ve met with her.I end up eating alone with her commenting.How little she eats and how I don't need injections.On how I should eat more.

The last time we did something that didn't involve eating.We went to the cinema. But then when she got home, she texted me to ask what I was having for dinner, and I told her, and she said she was eating nothing. She just has to get it in how little she has eaten or how she's eaten nothing.

Any idea how to handle it tactfully. Or just ignore.

OP posts:
ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 11/09/2025 15:24

PuppyKeep · 11/09/2025 14:49

Really? Source?

Yes it’s in the Marketing Authorisation

https://www.gov.uk/government/news/mhra-authorises-diabetes-drug-mounjaro-tirzepatide-for-weight-management-and-weight-loss

Mounjaro affecting friendship
Motherbear44 · 11/09/2025 15:40

MounjaroBore · 11/09/2025 13:10

Also I was moreover, weight than she was an I too have an underlying health condition that makes me prone to put it on weight. PCOS

I'm already on diabetes drugs for the pcos. She was telling me she was on it for underlying health reasons, and I said, I have them, too

She said, how amazing it is.Its switched off all of her food noise, and she doesn't think about it anymore. I really struggle with that. Constantly craving food.So every reason I said I probably should be on it too.She said there was no need for me to have it.

What is going on here. I am just really sick of it. I'm beginning to feel embarrassed if I clear my plate in front of her.

Edited

It sounds like the food noise is booming out and clear ! I would want to avoid that so called friend. I have been brought up to think that making comments about what other people are eating is incredibly rude.

DrySherry · 11/09/2025 15:51

I also have a friend who is taking this and its a really big thing for them - so they talk about it a lot and want the results to be noticed. I could also do with a few jabs myself - but am choosing not to let being a bit tubby worry me too much. More important things going on.
I would just try to let it wash over you. I think your probably the same as me - in that you feel much more conscious of your eating when with your friend and are more sensitive as a result to any food related topic (because you are also a bit of a biffa and would prefer not to be ?) . I just try and join my friends enthusiasm for the result of thier treatment as much as possible and not be overly sensitive. I choose to be a chubster after all by not exercising enough to burn off more than i take in 😃.

Parky04 · 11/09/2025 15:51

QueenClinomania · 11/09/2025 13:16

She wants you to stay fat.

I would say she wants her to get fatter!

toadinthebucket · 11/09/2025 15:53

PeggySue1988 · 11/09/2025 14:33

This with bells on and get properly toned and buffed. She will be skinny fat as she doesn't have the energy to work out!

So many misconceptions on this thread! Mounjaro doesn't leave you too tired to exercise.

Karmakamelion · 11/09/2025 15:54

Suednymph · 11/09/2025 13:15

Agree with @pikkumyy77 she is actually trying to fatshame you, irony of course her taking the easy way out to lose weight to do it. I would needle shame her back lol

It's not the easy way out. It comes with lots of challenges but she does sound like she's on her way to ann eating disorder and is unkind with it

Karmakamelion · 11/09/2025 15:55

It's not the easy way out. It comes with lots of challenges but she does sound like she's on her way to ann eating disorder and is unkind with it

Tifical33 · 11/09/2025 15:56

I've had something similar happen with a lifelong friend who lost loads of weight and I've been supportive and genuinely happy for her the whole time because she's becoming healthy again and looks really lovely. I also needed to lose weight but couldn't get it off and committed myself to walking and eating well and finally lost a bit of weight too. I mentioned being frustrated with myself having gained a portion back after working so hard and just felt frustrated with myself (sidenote-I lost a very small amount compared to her and hadn't even seen her in the meantime but had told her how inspiring she was) it was astonishing that she went into full on boast mode and just completely and seemingly ignored me and I thought that we were children again for a moment...Not everyone is an honest support and it's sad.

Dozer · 11/09/2025 15:57

In your situation I’d not agree to have any more meals out together and wouldn’t discuss your weight or weight loss approaches with her.

I’d prepare phrases the. use broken record technique to seek to reduce discussion of her weight loss/ approaches. If after a few more conversations or meet ups it didn’t reduce I’d reduce contact with her.

It sounds like she might have some issues with food, eg disordered eating. And / or has poor social skills!

A friend who once behaved a bit like this with me turned out to be experiencing body dysmorphia and an eating disorder.

Offloadontome · 11/09/2025 15:58

Just be honest with your friend, and I wouldn't see her for a while. If she wants to meet up, "Hey friend, sorry I can't meet up with you right now. I have to be honest, although I am happy you are losing weight, I am very concerned about the way you are dealing with it. I have noticed that conversations are now all based around the mounjaro, how little food you eat, and how keen you are for people to notice your loss. I have also noticed that you continue to make comments about my own food intake which is starting to make me feel uncomfortable. I think if we meet up again I would rather take this topic of conversation off the table, and avoid going anywhere for food. I hope everything is ok"

thereneverwasacloudyday · 11/09/2025 16:01

Some people want their friend to be 'the fat friend'.

She is one of those people.

Dump her.

sunshinehunter9 · 11/09/2025 16:02

MounjaroBore · 11/09/2025 13:00

Name changed for this and i'm posting it in relationships because there is no aibu and weight loss injections isn't the appropriate outlet because people are there seeking support.

I have a friend who has recently gone on mounjaro. A few months ago. She wasn't that overweight, and only had about a stone and a half to lose.

I'm happy for her that it's doing what she wants, but I am finding it's affecting our friendship. Whenever we go out, she's decided she wants to go for dinner despite being unable to eat more than a few mouthfuls. She eats barely a few mouthfuls of her dinner and then asked the restaurant to box it up.

All she talks about is mounjaro, and how much weight she's lost. She shares about buying needles off the internet for the golden dose and the extra dose, and tells me about the new community community, she's found on reddit, to help her do this. She said she's beginning to feel like a drug addict.

Whilst doing this, she encourages me to finish everything on my plate and order more food. I am a bit overweight, too, and I was actually more overweight than she was. I suggested perhaps I should get it and she was like, no, you don't need to lose weight.You look great order something else... encouraging me to order more food.

She keeps asking me if she looks as if she's lost weight. Every time I see her. She tells me how many people haven't commented on her weight loss and she wishes, they would.

She tells me this every time I see her and I reply with the same thing every time I see her which is it is generally a faux pas to comment on someone's weight. Perhaps people haven't noticed or if they have, they don't want to comment because it's impolite to mention somebody's weight.

Sorry. What's going on here? We've been friends for years suddenly I need to eat more food when I was more overweight than her to start with and all she talks about is her weight loss. She seems to ask me to go out for dinner with her to demonstrate me how little she eats.

She had her dinner boxed up, and she made such a thing of it that she'll barely be able to eat the other half for lunch tomorrow.

I don't want to back away from the friendship, but the last few times I ve met with her.I end up eating alone with her commenting.How little she eats and how I don't need injections.On how I should eat more.

The last time we did something that didn't involve eating.We went to the cinema. But then when she got home, she texted me to ask what I was having for dinner, and I told her, and she said she was eating nothing. She just has to get it in how little she has eaten or how she's eaten nothing.

Any idea how to handle it tactfully. Or just ignore.

This post could of been written by me OP. My oldest friend that iv known since I was 5, starting school has completely changed since going on this injection. For the past year she has withdrawn from our friend group and actually required a 2 month hospital stay after 5 months as the medication affected her so much she was unable to walk and her kidneys got permanently damaged. She has recovered about 90% walking wise, however her whole personality has changed. We went from seeing each other weekly, meeting up for coffee, cinema, bingo, cocktails, food to barely once a month and even then it's miserable talking to her. She only wants to talk about how much weight she's lost, how she looks, how much she still wants to loose, she's lost 9 stone and looks so ill. She used to be a big personality, liked a good drink and so incredibly funny, but now it's hard even talking to her as all she wants to do is talk about mounjaro.

Pregnancyquestion · 11/09/2025 16:03

I think you’re overthinking it. She’s obsessed with her own weight loss. The things you have said in your OP are probably about her not you.

it would be rude to tell you she agrees you should try it. You don’t have to order more food. She genuinely might enjoy being able to eat small quantities of nice food and split the calories over two meals.

She sounds like a bore, because it’s all she talks about but I would try and not make her obsession a dig at you.

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 11/09/2025 16:04

Agree don't go out for anything that includes food any more. Most people feel uncomfortable eating a full meal while someone else isn't, as eating as a social thing (which is why there is always the 'does anyone fancy a starter' conversation). And it's fine to tell her this, or tell her you're trying to save money on food due to cost of living or something else if not.

I'd also grey rock over food conversation. What you ate yesterday, you can't remember, why does she ask? What you're eating later, you haven't decided yet, will see what you fancy grabbing later. How much did you eat? That's a bit of an odd question, why does it matter?

Hopefully she will calm down a bit when the novelty wears off

Xmasbaby11 · 11/09/2025 16:06

She's a diet bore - obsessed with her weight loss and as many pp point out, bordering ED. Regardless of how she's doing it, she's just very bad company now and not what you want in a friend. I would reduce contact and only see her occasionally, avoiding having meals together. When you do see her, just stay quiet when she goes on about food, and change the subject as soon as you can. If you've very close, tell her you're worried about her weight obsession becoming unhealthy.

Pregnancyquestion · 11/09/2025 16:09

MounjaroBore · 11/09/2025 13:22

This is a recent thing because i've never seen her on the weight loss injections before.

Before she went on them, she mentioned that she'd like to lose some.Weight for health reasons, but largely she didn't say anything about it. I never noticed what she was eating or not eating because it wasn't a thing.

Come to think of it, she chose this particular restaurant which I didn't really want to go to purely because they will box up your left overs. She literally ate a few mouthfuls of it and ask them to box it up.

I actually felt embarrassed eating most of my food. And it was a normal amount of food.It wasn't a huge portion.

I think that’s your own insecurities, maybe you’ve made comments about feeling that way and made her reassure you and encourage you to eat?

why would her being on an appetite suppressant mean that you’re greedy for eating a normal portion?

If she’s having this much impact on your self esteem I’d probably avoid here for a bit

toadinthebucket · 11/09/2025 16:11

MounjaroBore · 11/09/2025 15:11

I tell you what else put me off weight loss injections, what happens when you stop them. I haven't really read anything much about what does happen, but as far as I know, the weight can all just go back on.
Once the appetite suppression stops.

This is why with a comparatively low amount of weight to lose and my worries about the aftermath and the side effect I wanted to try and do it without them. For me, it was more the long term I didn't want to go to all that trouble and money.Just to pile, it all back on again.

For me, I wanted to live a healthier lifestyle and lose weight without medication and I m just going to have to be a bit more serious about it now.

Maybe you SHOULD go and have a look at the weight loss injections board as you're spouting a lot of nonsense. Your friend couldn't have lied to get them as you have to provide photos. People stopping don't necessarily pile the weight back on. Many people don't have side effects. You can't just "buy" the drug, you need a prescription.

FallingIntoAutumn · 11/09/2025 16:12

toadinthebucket · 11/09/2025 15:53

So many misconceptions on this thread! Mounjaro doesn't leave you too tired to exercise.

It will if you’re not eating properly so not getting enough iron etc.

FallingIntoAutumn · 11/09/2025 16:14

toadinthebucket · 11/09/2025 16:11

Maybe you SHOULD go and have a look at the weight loss injections board as you're spouting a lot of nonsense. Your friend couldn't have lied to get them as you have to provide photos. People stopping don't necessarily pile the weight back on. Many people don't have side effects. You can't just "buy" the drug, you need a prescription.

You 100% can. Around me there’s lots of people who get them from people they don’t know via what’s app, friends of friends of friends share numbers etc and they just get it delivered. There’s a whole black market industry around it.

toadinthebucket · 11/09/2025 16:15

FallingIntoAutumn · 11/09/2025 16:12

It will if you’re not eating properly so not getting enough iron etc.

Which we don't know is happening. It's no different to being on a diet and eating healthy nutrients. Some people just want to bash WLI whilst knowing little about them.

toadinthebucket · 11/09/2025 16:15

FallingIntoAutumn · 11/09/2025 16:14

You 100% can. Around me there’s lots of people who get them from people they don’t know via what’s app, friends of friends of friends share numbers etc and they just get it delivered. There’s a whole black market industry around it.

OP claims she got them legally but lied about her weight. If you buy them illegally, there's no need to lie as no one is asking.

Pregnancyquestion · 11/09/2025 16:16

toadinthebucket · 11/09/2025 16:11

Maybe you SHOULD go and have a look at the weight loss injections board as you're spouting a lot of nonsense. Your friend couldn't have lied to get them as you have to provide photos. People stopping don't necessarily pile the weight back on. Many people don't have side effects. You can't just "buy" the drug, you need a prescription.

Also people who lose large amounts of weight using any diet are pretty much statistically likely to regain, that’s an issue with obesity in general. Not weight loss injections

MounjaroBore · 11/09/2025 16:16

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MounjaroBore · 11/09/2025 16:17

My friend also spouts constantly about the starvation in Gaza. So next time I see her, I'm gonna say to her. You're spending hundreds on preventing yourself stuffing your mouth whilst spouting off about gaza there we go sorted.

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toadinthebucket · 11/09/2025 16:17

Pregnancyquestion · 11/09/2025 16:16

Also people who lose large amounts of weight using any diet are pretty much statistically likely to regain, that’s an issue with obesity in general. Not weight loss injections

Exactly. Gets so boring hearing a long lost of nonsense from people who don't know when some of us use these meds and understand how they work!