Photo posted of children without my consent

[OneCalmReader]

Hi,
I recently posted about my Narcissistic MIL. She had got angry about me not posting a photograph of her hijacking my two DDs first look at my wedding. She ruined part of my day by sabotaging a first look between my DDs and she can’t seem to understand why I am upset about it and she decided to call me horrible names and say things to belittle me.
Well, yesterday she changed her profile photo on Facebook to the photo I never wanted to post. It wasn’t supposed to happen and she had access to it from a private album of our wedding photos. Where do I stand with this? I have reported it to Facebook for violating my privacy as I haven’t given her consent to post an image of myself and my children, but I haven’t heard anything back yet. I’m just not sure how to take further action.

If I understand correctly, the content that was going to be created was your DDs getting a ‘first look’, so the DDs were going to be in it? If this is the case, then it sounds like you don’t have any issue with your DDs being on the internet, just not put there by MIL?

She’s behaved badly, but your issue with what the MIL is posting sounds petty tbh. Sounds like you live your life on the internet anyway.

Yeah i lost interest after this nonsense 😂

That and "didnt want anyone to see the photo so i uploaded it to Facebook" 🙃

No it's not. You're just a walloper

Yes, it was the latter comment, among others, that set off my control freak alarm.

And yet @Muddlingalongsomehow you have exactly described the OP in your "explanation" of the word narcissist! Well done you!

As for the wedding malarkey, what an absolute embarrassment all round! Talk about me, me, me! Aren't you already that, being the bride at your own wedding, without all the stupidity you surrounded yourself with?
I'm afraid it all sounds a bit pathetic and needy and totally takes away from the sanctity of marriage. It's supposed to be a relaxed celebratory occasion, with loved ones and friends, not a social media fuelled circus!
I'm team MIL on this one. She was probably horrified about the theatre her soon to be DIL was creating and wanted some normality!
And having read your previous threads, I can't for the life of me understand why you went ahead and married that pos! Were all the theatrics to try and convince yourself and others that you're happy with your lot?!

Content can be created by anyone with a phone and a decent editing app! It's not exactly a career that's been studied for. And if someone is daft enough to pay that kind of money for half a day of someone wagging a phone around, then more fool them! What an absolute rip off!
And finally, no, I can assure you that nobody is triggered at all. Just headshakingly baffled.

I'm so not into that content creator and firstlook thing, but anybody who posts pictures of my (grand)children on social media can expect to be banned from my life forever (and be glad to be still alive).

Triggered?!

you're not using that word correctly and it’s disrespectful to people who have trauma backgrounds.

a lot of us haven’t heard of content creators. That’s all.

Isnt a wedding about two people making a commitment in front of those they love and respect? Am I living on another planet here?

Who gives a flying foxglove about “first look”. Unless youre a world class movie star wearing a dress supplied by a world class couturier free of charge on that understanding. Relationships matter. Self regarding nonsense doesnt. Grow up. YABTU

Team MIL because it’s clearly unhinged to have a ‘content creator’ at your wedding.

You needed to include a link to your previous post really.
I think if the photoshoot was that important you should’ve done it somewhere private and not let MIL anywhere near… but you’ll know for future.

Get your husband to call her and ask her to take photo down?

It took a lot of scrolling down this thread to understand what it was about! I've never heard of this 'first look' business.

Content creator? First look? Are you Kim Kardashian? Don't you have anything else of value going on in your life? FFS...

All sounds quite pathetic and point scoring to be honest! I would ignore the mother in laws post and concentrate on your daughters and your new husband and stope fretting and point scoring with your mother in law as all sounds very rediculous and juvenile!

Some MIL are absolute bitches, that’s why I don’t have any more to do with mine.

That's the most ridiculous nonsense I've ever heard. One of my babies was barely alive when born and had to be rushed off to neonatal. No amount of soft focus could have disguised the sheer panic on our faces. Why would anyone want a photographer in the delivery room at such a private moment where any emergency could happen. What if the baby is stillborn? What if the mother loses too much blood? What if the baby gets stuck? People who do this (if there actually are any) are just bonkers.

I find a that as a general rule of thumb, most things that have been "a normal thing in US weddings for years" are a load of ridiculous bullshit that should stay in the US.

See also:

• bridal showers
• rehearsal dinners
• bridesmaids paying for their own dresses

Can also be extended to baby stuff such as:

• gender reveal parties
• baby showers

and also life in general such as:

• it costing insane amounts of money to give birth even if you supposedly have good health insurance
• having to ask other parents where they keep their guns before you let your child go to their house for a play date (but Kinder eggs being banned for health and safety reasons); and
• no right to paid maternity leave, but the right to "change sex" (which is of course impossible).

All these things should stay in the US.

Please stop this nonsense. OP - grow up.

You have an opportunity to teach your daughter to not sweat the small stuff in life .. don’t waste it
Honestly their are children starving being bombed and so much negative stuff that we can’t control in our lives so if you breathe and put this in perspective you can not let your differences control your lives as they are only as big as you allow them to be - focus on something positive good luck

Would you??? LOL

Edit your audience on FB. You can select just certain friends to see your photos.

I’m sorry but your problems sound so pathetic and it’s topped off with she posted something I didn’t want posted - just another picture from your wedding? People scrolling will barely look at- it’s not as deep as you are making it you’re not Taylor Swift no one cares.

If you are going to let a 'content creator' plaster your wedding photos all over the internet and give access to your MIL who you know is a problem then more fool you quite frankly.

So everyone seems to have been having a go at you for what you wanted to do on your wedding day rather than answer the actual question.

Whatever first look thing you wanted to do is irrelevant, it doesn’t matter if people agree with it or not. What matters is she went against your express wishes, ruined a moment you and your eleven year old wanted together, and then to make matters worse, posted publically something you wanted kept private.

As it is his mother, your future husband should be dealing with her. What is he saying and doing exactly?

Jesus