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Photo posted of children without my consent

437 replies

OneCalmReader · 01/09/2025 15:32

Hi,
I recently posted about my Narcissistic MIL. She had got angry about me not posting a photograph of her hijacking my two DDs first look at my wedding. She ruined part of my day by sabotaging a first look between my DDs and she can’t seem to understand why I am upset about it and she decided to call me horrible names and say things to belittle me.
Well, yesterday she changed her profile photo on Facebook to the photo I never wanted to post. It wasn’t supposed to happen and she had access to it from a private album of our wedding photos. Where do I stand with this? I have reported it to Facebook for violating my privacy as I haven’t given her consent to post an image of myself and my children, but I haven’t heard anything back yet. I’m just not sure how to take further action.

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Jorge14 · 02/09/2025 18:27

You are allowed to be annoyed if someone posts a pic of your children and you don’t want their picture online, of course you are. Ask her to take it down.

VoodooQualities · 02/09/2025 18:30

I think photographing a first look carries a huge risk. What if they hate your dress, or think your hairstyle looks stupid?

Surely then the 'first look' photo would record their facial expression.

Or are they required to feign their approval?

Because either way this sounds fucking awful. Sorry.

Also get your husband to tell his mum to remove the photo, but only do this if you're GENUINELY concerned about their online safety. Not because you're pissed off that Grandma ruined your photo op.

Osirus · 02/09/2025 18:34

ThejoyofNC · 01/09/2025 15:52

It's a completely staged moment where people are forced to put on an over the top display of awe at just how stunning the bride is in her wedding dress.

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No bloody way 😂😂😂

Pinepeak2434 · 02/09/2025 18:47

I’m starting to feel sorry for the mother in law

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 02/09/2025 18:50

OneCalmReader · 01/09/2025 15:46

my eldest daughter wanted my content creator and photographer to capture a first look of me as a bride. My MIL rudely walked into the room with them, going against my wishes. So I decided I didn’t want the photos and videos posted because she went against my wishes. She can’t respect this

Hi so you had a strop because she walked in the room? And that’s why you have no photo. Sorry but this sounds a bit drama llama for me.

Dabberlocks · 02/09/2025 19:07

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 01/09/2025 16:13

I think I might be a bit triggered by just by the existence of a job called "content creator"

The only content I'm interested in at anyone's wedding is the food. And I don't like being made to stand around for hours waiting for it either.

JustMeAndTheFish · 02/09/2025 19:10

What on earth is a “first look? And is a “content creator” a photographer?

Beenwhereyouareagain · 02/09/2025 19:14

OneCalmReader · 01/09/2025 15:47

Anyone who has read my first post about this might understand

I did, but I didn't understand. HTH.

Sundaymorningcalla · 02/09/2025 19:14

If it's in a public setting you have no right to privacy and your MIL can post what she wants...

Bamboozles · 02/09/2025 19:14

‘Content creater’ 😂 Iv’e heard it all now!

Beenwhereyouareagain · 02/09/2025 19:15

Trishyb10 · 02/09/2025 18:20

Precious princess… good luck with adversity’s in the rest of your life and be thankful of the life you have.

adversities

opencecilgee · 02/09/2025 19:17

Confused..com 😵‍💫

Beenwhereyouareagain · 02/09/2025 19:19

RealPearlDuck · 02/09/2025 11:32

Facebook won't do anything and the only thing you can do here is to somehow make sure she never has access to any photos you wouldn't want online. If sharing photos is a family tradition and you can't avoid it, make it in a form of a slideshow, so that taking a picture away from it and uploading it online would be harder for her to do. You can use an automatic slideshow maker to do that, but chances are she might post the whole video instead 🤷‍♀️
If you absolutely have to share something, do it while keeping in mind it might end up on her page, or stop sharing at all.

@OneCalmReader

or watermark what you share

PotatoLove · 02/09/2025 19:26

Not sure if Facebook will do anything OP, they are notorious for being crap.

pollymere · 02/09/2025 19:28

FB are usually pretty good at this but sadly not always. If it has a child in, say it involves a child as obviously having pictures of children on FB can be a safeguarding issue. Get friends to report it as well.

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 02/09/2025 19:45

Truly Triggered.
(My lovely photo of Roy Rodgers and his WonderHorse, Trigger, has sadly not appeared and I can’t delete my post. Sorry.)

WeNeedToTalkAboutIT · 02/09/2025 19:46

If you have access to her post, I'd comment on it on facebook that you have already told her that you did not give her permission to post any photographs of your children and ask her to kindly remove this photo immediately. Shaming her in front of her online friends. Fuck it.

BrendaSmall · 02/09/2025 19:50

OneCalmReader · 01/09/2025 15:46

my eldest daughter wanted my content creator and photographer to capture a first look of me as a bride. My MIL rudely walked into the room with them, going against my wishes. So I decided I didn’t want the photos and videos posted because she went against my wishes. She can’t respect this

🤣🤣🤣🤣
You could have made MIL leave and then you could have done a fake first look, done a retake!!!
🤣🤣🤣
I’m sure a majority of them online are fake anyway!!!

Imveryold · 02/09/2025 19:50

I'm afraid many, perhaps most of us have never heard of a " content creator" or "first look", and feel that it all sounds nauseatingly narcissistic and shallow.

If it’s an American thing I do hope it doesn’t catch on over here. There are too many people more interested in style and looks rather than character and content already. Presumably it’s all done to show off on social media.

NotMyKidsThough · 02/09/2025 20:00

No, but they might get involved in a case of posting pictures of other people's children without permission, which is what this is. NSPCC have some useful guidelines on this link: NSPCC child pix guidelines. There are so many issues, data protection being just one of them, let alone the potential for anyone online using the images for grooming. Pictures of your children have been posted, deliberately, on someone else's profile, without your consent. At the very least, just stop talking to the woman once and for all until she apologises. No apology, no contact. It's really simple. Life is too short to indulge people like that.

askmenow · 02/09/2025 20:03

Sassylovesbooks · 01/09/2025 15:55

Can honestly say, I have never heard of such a thing!! Thanks for the explanation though!

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😳 WTAF Narcissist or what !

Ihateboris · 02/09/2025 20:03

ODCDD

JennyBG · 02/09/2025 20:06

How horrible some of you have been! So you haven’t heard of “first look” photos? Neither have I, but I understand the concept, and fortunately I’m nice enough to realise that it’s personal choice, and nothing to do with me. I certainly wouldn’t be so mean as some of you! I’d be hopping mad too if my MIL had shared photos of my child when she’d expressly been asked NOT TO. Strange that so many of you think that that is ok.

JennyBG · 02/09/2025 20:08

askmenow · 02/09/2025 20:03

😳 WTAF Narcissist or what !

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WOW…judgemental or what!

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