Once again I'm stuck watching sport while DH sleeps-just need to vent

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I know I'm not the only one. But so frustrated at DH saying he wants to watch some sport, falls asleep (we talking snoring asleep so no doubt he's asleep) & I know that as soon as I change the channel he will wake up & say that he was watching that & only closed his eyes, but was very much listening to it & following it.

This afternoon it's Women's Rugby Ireland v Spain. 😴

It's chucking it down outside otherwise I'd do some gardening. Would visit a friend, but he's asleep & would worry when he wakes & I'm not there. I've tried doing just that & leaving a note - he didn't see the note which was safety pinned to his chest.

Sport-widows support me please.

Seriously if he cant see a note pinned on him then there isn't much hope. Go out, live your life. Have fun.

Don't be such a wimp. Switch channels or go out and leave him a note/send him a text.

Get another TV?

Other channels are available. If he wakes up tell him to go to bed.

Concerning that you can't go out because he's asleep!

Go out he can call you when he wakes if he really must

I'd go out, tbh.

I'd leave a note saying I'd gone out with a see you later, love you x

I know you've said you did that before but I don't believe he didn't see it tbh.

You're an adult and he's not a baby so go out if you want to.

This is really weird. You are allowing her m to control your every move even when he is asleep. Please do go ahead and live. This is crazy level.

This can't be real, surely? I missed the bit about pinning a note to his chest. Do you not have mobile phones?

Just watch what you want. In our house sport is watched upstairs

Get a tv in your bedroom.

Stick a note completely covering the TV and go out. He’ll see that!

OP, I have a tip for changing the channel without alerting him. Turn the sound down very gradually. Once it’s turned right down switch to the channel you want to watch. Then very gradually increase the volume. This always works for me - at least it does on the rare occasions my DH hasn’t fallen asleep tightly clutching the remote!

The sports thing IS annoying when they want it on tv all the time and the weekend revolves around different games
BUT you’re being a martyr. Wake him up and tell him you’re going out, txt him, leave a note and let him find it, if he doesn’t look that’s on him. Get a second tv. Tell him tough shit you don’t want to watch this game. There are a lot of options here. You’re choosing to stay home against your wishes, in case a grown man can’t find a note safety pinned to his chest and is forced to be worried for 1 minute.

Oh, and if you want to go out leave the note taped to the TV screen.

Go out and text him. Presume he’s got a phone which he’ll pick up to call you once he’s noticed you’ve gone? Don’t let him control your life!

He'd worry if he wakes and you're not there?! Is he a newborn baby??

Just go out and text him to say where you went if you can be bothered.

Don't be silly - he's a grown man, not a child! Either go out or get up and do something elsewhere in the house.

Who gives him first dibs on tv? Sod him if he gets upset if you go out whilst he is asleep. Can’t you send him a text?

Do you always have to do as he says/wants?

Get a grip OP. Just go out. Why would he panic if you’re not there when he wakes up?! You’re not a child.

Leave the note on the TV!

Yes, you are the only one. For a start DH doesn’t get a monopoly on thr channels, then he certainly doesn’t get to keep watching his choice if he’s asleep and lastly, we have three tvs!

I mean... why on earth would he worry if you'd gone out? Would he assume you'd been kidnapped from under his snoring nose in your own house? I'd go out without a second thought if dh were asleep on the sofa, as would he if I were.

Grow a pair and turn the TV over ?
Watch an alternative TV if you have more then one
Leave the house and a large note on floor in front of him/also text in case he is sociable useless he would just walk over it

Why are you letting him dictate what you do with your free time? Who made him the boss??

If you want to watch something else change the channel and tell him his snoring was annoying you, if he moans.

Go out and visit a garden centre or whatever you want to do. He can text you if you’re not there when he wakes up.

I can’t imagine wasting hours of my life doing feck all just because my partner wants to do something else. Luckily we have a large house and our own sitting rooms and only spend time watching TV together in the late evenings.

Woman up OP! You have agency. Go see your friend and send a text to DH when you’re in the car or just change the channel.
Honestly, we’d never have got the vote if it was down to women like you.