Once again I'm stuck watching sport while DH sleeps-just need to vent

[Ilovepastafortea]

I know I'm not the only one. But so frustrated at DH saying he wants to watch some sport, falls asleep (we talking snoring asleep so no doubt he's asleep) & I know that as soon as I change the channel he will wake up & say that he was watching that & only closed his eyes, but was very much listening to it & following it.

This afternoon it's Women's Rugby Ireland v Spain. 😴

It's chucking it down outside otherwise I'd do some gardening. Would visit a friend, but he's asleep & would worry when he wakes & I'm not there. I've tried doing just that & leaving a note - he didn't see the note which was safety pinned to his chest.

Sport-widows support me please.

Goodness OP how did he fall asleep, it was a cracking match.

For the future, my husband suggested that you change the channel and when he says "I was watching that" ask him what the score was.

Oh OP, what a sad update. Hope DH agrees to go to the GP. I know everyone says this, but he hasn't got a UTI or anything does he? UTI (even those without traditional symptoms) can also cause confusion and short term memory loss / getting befuddled.

Hopefully GP can shed some light.

Enjoy your wine and your afternoon with your friend!

You’re being a doormat. I would turn it over every time he fell asleep. And also go out if I wanted to and just send a text or a message by the kettle.

I'm sorry to read your update. That is tough for you and worrying.

No help to you, but I love women's rugby and Spain played a blinder towards the end, in spite of losing overall.

BUT, I would absolutely go and see that friend. Just leave him a note. Hope the friend isn't into rugby.

Sorry just read your update but the TV issue seems longstanding & ridiculous.

Oh no, I couldn't take the sports shit. So many men I know are like this. They insist on a giant fucking telly the size of a double bed, then it's theirs to command for life. Because there's always some sporting event on. LOL, no, not in my house.
DH is prone to a snooze in front of some boring thing he's binge watching, but if I want something else on, tough titty if he can't stay awake. And if I got there first, also tough titty. He doesn't take priority. We negotiate over must-watch programmes if live viewing makes a difference.

This is lovely.

But yes the trouble with dementia is that it does tend to sneak up on people and people only realise when it’s too late.

or pin it to his forehead. Seriously if you keep changing the channel he'll soon keep his eyes open!
Sorry just seen the update and huge drip feed. Doesn't stop you getting another TV - even with no aerial, you could get a smart TV that connects to the internet.

Check the B12 before the dementia route and well done for getting out with a bottle!

You can watch tv on the phone

I'd definitely encourage him to see the doctor. Very sad if he is not himself. I'm sure it's really difficult for all.

In saying that I do find many men 'just resting their eyes' 😂 then wake up the minute you touch the remote.

We have TVs in most rooms here. We're all grown and all have different preferences regarding programs, gaming etc. I only have the main TV connected to sky, we can do multi room but it's not worth our while as most are gaming or watching Netflix.

We just use the apps that come with the smart TV, eg netflix, ch 4, YouTube, we buy Disney that works on them all there's quite a few more apps, now I'm in Ireland so if we can access these I'm pretty sure you could in the UK even in the sticks, plus there's a lot more apps available in the UK than Ireland, once you have WiFi you can connect to apps on the tv

I use the TV in the kitchen, have my little armchair and let the men watch the sport in the sitting room on the bigger tv

This is so easy. Change the channel. When he wakes up, say you are going out. Cannot see the issue.

I know OP. I think it's difficult for people to appreciate what happens to love ones with dementia involved, that was more my point. I wasnt suggesting you leave him.

I truelly hope your husband is absolutely fine, but please even if he won't hear of going to the GP, dont wait next time hes in front of a GP for any reason go with him and bring it up. He may not be happy about it but early diagnoses is absolutely crucial to prevent faster deterioration. Enjoy your break today

"Would visit a friend, but he's asleep & would worry when he wakes & I'm not there"

That's just weird.
You need to get your own life and stop watching him sleep.

Are you his carer? Why can’t you go out or switch channels?

You don’t really need an aerial for TV these days, only if you want to watch live TV.
Our main TV is connected to the aerial but second TV is just a smart TV connected to the Wi-Fi.
Also you could watch on a tablet, laptop etc.

But yeah your DH probably does need to see a doctor if he is that forgetful

Did you read the big update? Maybe she will be his carer soon. It's not just about the TV.

@Ilovepastafortea
You have my sympathy. My DH is always falling asleep in charge of the remote and I’m faced with YouTube videos about Trump, DIY, women behaving badly, or Below Deck, Extreme Fishing or Aliens. All at way too high a volume as the icing on the cake.

Your update is quite concerning, OP. I'm sorry. He needs to see a GP and if possible, I would absolutely insist an appointment be made immediately.

More fool you, OP. You’re being a complete doormat.

RTFT

Watch something on your laptop/tablet!

Edited to a totally different post after reading your updates. That is a worry - he definitely needs to see the GP.