Once again I'm stuck watching sport while DH sleeps-just need to vent

[Ilovepastafortea]

I know I'm not the only one. But so frustrated at DH saying he wants to watch some sport, falls asleep (we talking snoring asleep so no doubt he's asleep) & I know that as soon as I change the channel he will wake up & say that he was watching that & only closed his eyes, but was very much listening to it & following it.

This afternoon it's Women's Rugby Ireland v Spain. 😴

It's chucking it down outside otherwise I'd do some gardening. Would visit a friend, but he's asleep & would worry when he wakes & I'm not there. I've tried doing just that & leaving a note - he didn't see the note which was safety pinned to his chest.

Sport-widows support me please.

I don't understand? Are you in a country where the legal age for marriage is much younger than the UK? Is he a child? What on earth do you think will happen if he wakes up and you have gone out for a few hours? If he doesn't see the note, couldn't he just call you?

Does he say he's just "resting his eyes"?

Stop being such a doormat and go out! Can't think of anything more dull than watching sport on the TV with a snoring man on the sofa. It doesn't happen in this house because I send him out to the pub if he wants to watch a game. I refuse to go with him because it is boring.

Sorry but if this is real it’s absolutely pathetic.

Are you ok op? Afraid to go out without his permission??

if my husband wanted to watch sport I’d be telling him to in the bedroom with his iPad to watch it - me and the kids want the big tv
to watch a film!!

I don’t ask permission to go out - surely if he woke up and you were gone he’d just call you or text and ask if you were ok

I’ve read some silly stuff on this website but this is among the most ridiculous.

I would. My husband does this too.

change the Tv channel …..

Turn the T.V over. If he complains tell him he couldn't have been that bothered about watching it seeing as he fell asleep or just go out. He's doing it because he knows he can...time to take a stand.

Take a video of him sleeping as proof then change the channel and keep it changed. Ridiculous to watching something you don't want to watch while he sleeps.

You're not 'stuck' doing anything, you are choosing to sit and suffer for absolutely no reason. Turn it over or go out - you are a grown adult ffs.

I can’t even fake any sympathy for you, you won’t turn the tv over cos he’ll wake up and you won’t go out cos he’ll worry you’re not then when he wakes! So the alternative is to sit and listen to him sleep while you complain on here. Take control of your day!!

I could have written your post a few years ago @Ilovepastafortea , my then husband was exactly the same. Fortunate are those who don't get it.

You mean don’t tolerate it, surely?

Post it note ON THE TELLY.

More fool you for accepting it then.

Seriously, my partner likes watching football. He doesn't watch it often but, when he does, I'm not expected to say in the same room or the house while he does.

He wouldn't worry if I wasn't there when he woke up but I would let him know where I was going and roughly when I was getting back out of courtesy and he would do the same.

I had no choice if I wanted to watch the TV but I got to the stage where I'd take myself off to another room if he fell asleep. I didn't realise at the time how controlled I was. It was only when I was free and had help from Women's Aid that I could see what I'd been enduring, apart from the obvious stuff. It was like being under a spell.

Can you not do something you like in another room? You obviously have internet access, you can watch things online.

My late husband liked motor racing and I got fed up of the sound of the cars and commentary but I didn't feel I had to sit in the same room with it.

This

Used to have the exact same experience with DH. Get another television for a separate room in the house. I haven't watched with my husband for years due to this exact scenario. Even if we agreed on a show to watch, I was stuck listening to him snore and then hearing him deny it if I got up to leave.

As for being afraid to leave the house for fear of him waking up to find you not home, I'm sorry, but that's just weird. He's a grown man. He can figure it out. Live your life.

Stick an A4 sheet of paper on the TV saying you’ve gone out!

Agree with this if my husband woke up & I wasn’t there I’m sure his first response would be to shrug and assume I’ve gone out?!

Just go and see your friend.

If hes worried briefly when he wakes up then he will soon get over it

I used to do exactly that! My late husband wasn’t interested in sport, but it would be some other program that held no interest for me. He would wake, and say ‘I was watching that’, oh, it’s finished, said I. ‘Oh, what happened at the end?’ Sorry darling, I have no idea, I was reading…….

All’s fair in love and TV remote ownership!

Get a feckin' GRIP. GO OUT. Honestly, be an adult.

I can't believe you're spending your Sunday watching sports you're not interested just in case your DH wakes up and might worry?

Batshit. Just go out.