My husband just attacked me

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I’m 7 weeks pregnant and my husband just attacked me in an argument and kicked me in the stomach. Our entire relantionship has just ended. I will never look at him or be near him again. Ten years. 4 rounds of IVF. He’s always had an ugly side but never raised his hand on me until now. Apparently I was shouting and I’m not allowed to in his mind and that gave him the right to physically attack me.

I hope your baby is okay. You need to contact your doctor or midwife immediately for a check-up, even if you feel fine. Your baby is well-protected in the first trimester by the uterus, pelvis, and amniotic fluid, but a heavy blow could still cause internal injury.

You need to report it to the police as well. He assulted you. He tried to harm your unborn baby. I wouldn't want him anywhere near the child in the future. You need to have evidence

What a fucking rat. I hope you're safe and the baby is ok. You must go to the police as you as you feel up to it. He sounds incredibly dangerous.

Oh my goodness, I can only begin to imagine how you must be feeling in this moment.

I know others have asked, but please do make sure that you are somewhere safe.

What do you think will help you in this moment? Do you need someone to talk to? Or some space to think? Maybe a hug from a loved one, or to go for a walk.

I imagine it will take courage to tell people in your life what has happened, so we are here for you too.

Love, get a taxi to A&E immediately and tell them what has happened; ask them to involve the police. I am the mother of an IVF child, now 25, and you really don ‘t need this shit after all that (not saying that any woman who conceives naturally deserves it either). Take care of yourself and your baby now. .

Do you want to continue with the pregnancy OP? You've been through IVF but it doesn't mean you have to if you don't want to, as you'll be tying yourself to him.

It's reasonably common for domestic abuse to start physically in pregnancy and you're doing the right thing by immediately ending the relationship.
Please do call the police so there's a record and seek medical attention.
Do you have somewhere else to stay?

What is your housing situation.
I hope you are OK and have some real life support.

That’s one of the saddest things I’ve heard on here…phone the police… Go for a walk and do it. His physically harm two people - you and unborn baby . Plus he’s emotionally abused you. Plus he could do it again. He’s told you who he is.

The police are wise to all sorts of abuse these days. Please talk to them. If you have any family locally please ask for help. 🥰

This in buckets. Many men show there true colors once there partner becomes a mother…it’s sick making. 😡

That is awesome advise. Hope the OP goes with it. 👍👍👍

We're so sorry to hear you're going through this, OP.
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Very best wishes from all at MNHQ

No words I can add except escape when it's safe to do so and huge hugs and 💐💐💐

Honestly the depths some men will plumb too never ceases to shock and appall me.

Hope you find a way through this OP. Reach out to real life friends and family for support and get this scumbag arrested asap.

You’re so right. I can’t tell my kids dad s single thing as in his head he will say im
Controlling /gaslighting or somehow make if my fault. To give you an example he made the kids lunch (I had to do some errands outside) but here’s the catch … he fed them mushed up
Pasta, no oil and no sauce anc no drink and at 3:30pm. He didn’t see a problem when I very calmly pointed out the problems of the very late lunch and poor quality of the meal! . He said I should not criticise him as he did me a favour and that women should cook not men .

For context my kids hated that meal and I had to cook them another meal 🙄😡

Hope you're ok; there's lots of good advice on here. My ex hit me when I was pregnant and I still didn't realise I had to leave him until years later. It's a good thing that you know it's finished. You will be ok, you can get through this! Find help and use it, good luck x

@Emmafuller79 he's abusive. Hope you're reading the advice here and taking the opportunity to make your own plans xx

At times like this, mumsnet should be legally liable if this poor woman ends up dead. The IP and any potential email/phone’s should be given to the appropriate police force so that they can do a welfare check/ do a DASH interview and arrest the suspect.

Ok you need to make sure that you are safe, so if not pack a bag now.
You know now you can't stay so you need to get a plan to either kick him or or find a place to live, then make sure your pregnancy is OK.

Call the police, remove him

Mumsnet sent to court, if you dare mention why.

Are you save now? You must report him.

why should mumsnet be responsible. its about personal responsibility.

this poor woman needs to call 999 for the police and get to a hospital.

Can you get straight to hospital and tell them what happened? The police need to know and you need plans so you can stay safe.

So sorry 💐

What a load of nonsense.

Im so sorry this happened, please make sure you're not alone and also tell your friends and family what happened. Abusers hope the shame will stop victims coming forward. This man will not change no matter what he says or does. You are at risk, women are at higher risk of being abused or killed by their partners while pregnant. You should 100% contact the police now and make a report as you will need evidence of why this man should not be around a baby in the future. Also contact women's aid for support and advice, good luck OP, you're ending things now which will save your life