My husband just attacked me

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I’m 7 weeks pregnant and my husband just attacked me in an argument and kicked me in the stomach. Our entire relantionship has just ended. I will never look at him or be near him again. Ten years. 4 rounds of IVF. He’s always had an ugly side but never raised his hand on me until now. Apparently I was shouting and I’m not allowed to in his mind and that gave him the right to physically attack me.

I fucking hate him. Being around him makes me sick. This is so fucking hard.

I am awake if you want to talk.

Do you have a plan? Have you made your passport safe? Do you have a second safe phone?

Just to add....

I was where you are now once. I was in the UK do I didnt have the issues you have but I remember having to play nice whilst loathing him.

I got out the other side, you will too. Yes it is hard but its worth it, I promise, it is worth it.

Be strong, you have a whole amazing new life ahead of you, take your time to think clearly before taking each step, we are all here for you xx

Hand hold here for you.
Stay strong💪 You've got this

Hang on in there, give the performance of your life then get the hell out as soon as it’s safe. Plan carefully, you can do this. Never has deferred gratification been more important. You can do it OP

Exactly what PP have said but just wanted to add my voice of support.

Keep your eyes on the end prize OP, you have everything to gain and your life will be wonderful once you get away.

If it helps, just think about how you are getting one over on him. This awful, cruel, terrible man hasn’t got a clue what’s around the corner. Just hang onto that - keep that happy little thought tucked in the corner of your mind. Not long to go - this will be nothing more than a bad memory one day 💐

I know this is hard OP.

How long until he leaves to go work away?

He’s a vile man who should be in prison.

Carry on as you are and leave asap.

We know sweetheart, you have got this, keep working at getting away safely, we have all got your back and praying for your safe escape.

Don’t be scared to just hop on a plane with nothing but your passport. If the opportunity arises when you go to take your mum back. All physical items can be replaced.

I can’t imagine how you are feeling or what you are going through and I won’t pretend to. But you can do this, soon you will be looking back and be proud of yourself for getting away. Keep focusing on that day.

There is so much incredible advice in this thread, I couldn’t begin to add to and have no place to but o just want you to know how many people are cheering you on. Seriously if I could get a flight out there I would! I think about you every day OP and am hoping for the very best outcomes for you.

Keep that hate in your heart and come back with your mum - don’t look back xxxx

I don't mean to sound patronising but you are such a strong person and you are doing so well.

It is horrible to say this but in some ways I feel relief to read how much you still hate him, though not that you have to struggle through with him there until you can leave safely. I was worried that he might worm his way out of his actions with there needing to be the additional time to leave safely and it's so good you still rightfully feel this anger and disgust at him.

Sending you love, I truly hope you will be able to safely leave soon.

I'm also glad that you hate him. Can you use that energy to positive use and play the game of your life lulling him into a false sense of security whilst getting everything ready to get out as soon as is safe? Don't let your mother go home alone. We're all here for you. You've got this!

Have you been checked out medically?

You can do this OP. You can🏋🏋💐

OP, I'm so relieved for that one liner. So relieved to hear a sign from you. You have got this. We are all rooting for you.

Keep going op 💪

So hard for you but give the performance of your life, we will all mentally be giving you an Oscar. Just play a clever game to get yourself out of there. Good luck.🌺

It must be very wearing. But you're doing excellently. I pray to God he doesn't expect sex, but hopefully he won't if your mum is staying🙏🏾 Like the pp said, just keep nursing that little flame in your head that he has no clue what you're planning.

It's just stunning to me how some men are such fantasists to think they can kick their partner in the stomach, let alone whilst they're pregnant and it will be ok with an apology. She'll just keep on being relentlessly loving and adoring and she has no right to leave me! I wouldn't kick a dead animal in spite, but he didn't hesitate to denigrate you in that way. Now naturally you don't want to be near him, but he's clueless. Let that give you the continued strength to keep up the performance!

Hopefully you'll be home with your mum soon. I take it you still haven't told her and that's probably wise. As a mother myself, I don't what I would do. I'm old enough that prison would feel worth it to keep my daughter safe.

So sorry op

Soon you will never need to think of the bastard again

HOW DARE HE

we are all behind you

Stay strong

YOU GOT THIS !!!!!!!!!

Echo what others are saying OP- hope you are staying safe x

Adding my voice too OP.
Does he have any suspicion?
Is he IT savvy?

You are doing great OP, fuck him. You just need to hang on a bit longer and your mum will be there to help you.