Partner besotted with his adult daughter.

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Another post on here has prompted me to write this.

I have ended my relationship of a year in the last few days but want some other people’s views and experiences as I’m having some difficulty getting my head around this.

Boyfriend was 15 years older than me. He was divorced and had adult married daughter 15 years younger than me.
I gradually became aware that he was besotted with her. If anyone has seen A Bouquet of Barbed Wire it was like that. He had her picture as his screensaver, took her as his plus one to social dos instead of me sometimes, went on holiday with her and her baby staying in a family room and bought her gifts that I would have thought were more appropriate for her husband to buy her. I used to think he liked to play happy families with her and her baby. They had shared a bed on holiday many times when she was a teenager, he told me this. She was brought up very privileged and her husband didn’t earn much, they struggled for cash and my BF gave her a lot of money. I began to feel he talked about her as if she were his wife. He told me many times that she didn’t like me and she would not go to his house if I was there even though we only met briefly a couple of times. I had done nothing whatsoever ever to warrant this.

I’m not asking if people think this was an inappropriate relationship between my BF and his daughter because in my opinion it was. What I want to know is if anyone else has experienced anything similar.

Was your father's penis erect in the shower though?

Of course young girls shouldnt be sleeping beds with adult males.

As i said if one of the students in our school said they were sleeping im a bed with thier dad, our safeguarding lead would report it to social services straight away

Yes they would. By god, how unboundaried is that

Ok and once it was explained that they once shared a bed on holiday as part of a loving family what action would they take?

Well it was my post you quoted.
I didn't assert anything incorrectly.

Why are we supposed to take as fact your assertion that most of incest porn us supposedly step families. Is this your personal experience of watching incest porn?

Obviously if it was a regular sleeping arrangement that's totally different! Have some common sense.

They would still investigate. The child would possibly be removed from the home

You are the one who has zero sense!

A holiday is no excuse. I have been on holidays with my family loads of times, and i have never been made to share a bed with anyone. You dont put a child in a bed with an adult

Dont be ridiculous

This is such bullshit.

Kids are left in situations much more dire than sharing a bed with their father on holiday.

Im not being. I work in a school. I have seen parents get in trouble with social services for less than this

An excuse for what exactly? All families are different. Some very close in different ways. Get your head out the gutter.

Well this is insane. It is likely it it was mentioned at school then social services would investigate it. You have no idea if there is consent or not. That is why

A lot of shit parents on here defending their absolutely crap behaviour.

I was never made to share a bed with an adult male while i was on holiday. Don't do it to your children.

Of course you have. It's a sad world when respectable loving families are put into the same category as perverts.

Absolutely!

Weird that poster finds it funny.

I mean this is planet mad. Well adjusted men do not get into bed with their adolescent children in a state of near undress. Good luck explaining it

Huh?

When did I say anything of the sort?

I've defended nothing.

Just stated that SS would not remove a child for sleeping in a bed with their father on a holiday.

But go off I guess.

You are missing the point. You dont put a young girl sleeping in the same bed as any
adult male.

No matter how respectable you think he is . It is safeguarding and prevention.

Sharing a bed with teenage and adult daughters is not and never has been appropriate

I’m going to add something. The reason why is that grown men getting into bed with their adolescent children is boundary breaking, potentially physical dominance leading to grooming. It is a sign of abuse. Blimey, I’ve heard it all now on MN

I wish you would stop saying adult male. It's her father.

He is an adult male right?

And so what if it is her father. There are thousands of stories out there about fathers abusing their daughters.

Well all the women on here remembering the odd occasion when they shared a bed on holiday/one off occasions would probably be very insulted that you would call their fathers abusers.