Partner besotted with his adult daughter.

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Another post on here has prompted me to write this.

I have ended my relationship of a year in the last few days but want some other people’s views and experiences as I’m having some difficulty getting my head around this.

Boyfriend was 15 years older than me. He was divorced and had adult married daughter 15 years younger than me.
I gradually became aware that he was besotted with her. If anyone has seen A Bouquet of Barbed Wire it was like that. He had her picture as his screensaver, took her as his plus one to social dos instead of me sometimes, went on holiday with her and her baby staying in a family room and bought her gifts that I would have thought were more appropriate for her husband to buy her. I used to think he liked to play happy families with her and her baby. They had shared a bed on holiday many times when she was a teenager, he told me this. She was brought up very privileged and her husband didn’t earn much, they struggled for cash and my BF gave her a lot of money. I began to feel he talked about her as if she were his wife. He told me many times that she didn’t like me and she would not go to his house if I was there even though we only met briefly a couple of times. I had done nothing whatsoever ever to warrant this.

I’m not asking if people think this was an inappropriate relationship between my BF and his daughter because in my opinion it was. What I want to know is if anyone else has experienced anything similar.

You're not amusing in the slightest.

As several posters have said to you: your posts are very weird.

I thought you had moved on 🤔 keep the insults coming if you like

Is anyone else still on this thread?

Anyway OP, no one can decide but you if you felt their relationship was unhealthy or too much. You dont have to be in a relationship with someone whose life makes you feel uncomfortable. Hopefully you meet the right one soon.

Not sure there's much constructive to say at this point.

I suppose to summarize most people completely get the OP, most find adult father sleeping with a bad or seriously bad / creepy idea, a minority (but not tiny minority) people find it normal, a few seem to go in for some sort of point-scoring about sexism.

I still think that with seriously enmeshed families, whether father/daughter, mother/son, mother/daughter (as happens too) it must be hell for the younger adult when the older one dies, in so many ways.

Gosh this whole thread is weird.

I was close to my dad and the apple of his eye but would not have shared a bed with him and he would never have suggested it.
Just all so grim.

That’s weird there’s something called emotional incest. Where the parent treats their child more as a partner. Sharing with them what we wouldn’t usually share with our offspring even as adults. Some do end up sleeping with their daughter/son.

There was a dad who got reported when he checked into a hotel with his daughter. Room had a double bed so understandable they were concerned.

I wonder what their ages were? Is it strange to share a bed with your Dad as a child? I mean I never really did, I usually gravitated towards my mum. I would sometimes jump into bed with them both together. When we went away, I sometimes shared a bed with my mum, but that’s it.

She was 13
https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/travelodge-cheshire-paedophile-father-karl-pollard-grooming-underage-a8216656.html#

I have with my dc when younger. I shared with dd until she was a bit older than ds. It just didn’t feel right when he got to about 10. But now they are adults they have learning disabilities so can’t stay in a hotel room without a carer. I wouldn’t book a hotel room with either of them if there’s only 1 double bed. They both have epilepsy so they have the double I have the single.