No kids
married for 2 years.
he is 40 and I’m 30.
In the past he insulted my looks…
He said I looked washed up, tramp, and my breath stinks.
Others, including the dentist, have told me my breath is fine. Also, my oral hygiene is good.
now recently we had an arguement. Nothing big. And I just carried on getting dressed and doing things around the house.
But as always, he has to take it too far.
I was dressed up to attend a function. He looked at me and burst out laughing. I ignored it. He’s being immature.
He then asks me “have you seen yourself in the mirror”. I ignored it. He kept repeating. Finally I said “yes I have”. And then he burst out laughing. It was obviously that he was trying to mock how I looked.
I ignored it as I believe I looked decent and I wasn’t going to let him break my confidence.
Then some time later…
He says look at the state of you. Laughs a lot. Tells me I have a fat belly that droops (I don’t). That I have saggy boobs (I do since childhood but I’ve accepted it). And he’s grossed out by me. He finds me repulsive. That’s why he doesn’t have sex with me (lying coz he’s always tryna initiate sex with me). Says I’m dirty, don’t wash my bum, don’t brush my teeth and have smelly breath. His exes were way better and prettier.
all I said was “go be with them”.
and he said I will. And continued insulting my looks.
he called me a whore many times. Accused me of sleeping with men.
so I said okay I’m the hoe and yet you married me. Surely that’s a reflection on you , why were you so desperate and why did you lower your standards if I’m so disgusting… have more self worth and next time choose someone more worthy of you.
then he said yeah I was desperate and I did lower my standards.
I responded and said we’ll be angry at yourself for choosing to marry me. Even when I walked away your the one who kept chasing and begging me to come back.
he continued whiling out.
Now I’m not saying I’m super attractive but let’s just say people (including his own family) have said he’s punching with me. I have never said this to him as I don’t wanna hurt him. But the irony of it all.
anyways, I’ve left home now.
but why is he being like this?