Do I tell his wife or just leave it and block him?

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Been chatting to and having fun with someone I met online, We have met up a few times too. He told me he was single, I would never have done what we did had I known he was married, No wedding ring and I had been to his house twice. Few overnight hotel stays, the odd night out having a few drinks, a few meals out together, We had sex a few times too etc

I could send his wife all the proof she would ever need including face pictures, his mobile number, his email address, pictures of his penis, Pics with his tattoo in them, I could screenshot conversations of him saying he's single and looking to find someone for fun and to get to know leading to something serious.

I have found her online and now have no idea if I should send her a message or just block him and walk away. I only found out he was married an hour ago and have no intention of seeing him or speaking to him again. What should I do?

Thanks.

Personally I would just walk away.

Block

I know how this feels. The desire is there to do so but the best thing is to walk away and not get involved in his shit.

Let her know you thought he was single and the facts of what happened. She doesn’t deserve this and the rat will do it again.

Yep block him and walk away!!

Best thing for you and your peace of mind!

Tell her. I’d want to know.

Tell her.

I don't understand why pp say to walk away. Wouldn't you want to know yourself? I definitely would.

He's betrayed both of you so I understand why you'd want to tell his wife, but you don't have to decide now.
It must be such a shock for you, if you're worried about doing the wrong thing perhaps take some time and decide when you feel ready.

Tell him you know and let him sweat on whether or not you'll tell his wife. Then block.

Block and walk away
You could end up opening a whole can of worms
(Let him believe you'll tell her first though! He might do the right thing)

I’d tell her, it would be hard but if I was her I would want to know. I don’t think you’d need to go into too much detail though. He’s a pig.

Agree with this. Don’t do anything when you’re emotional, angry and upset.

Wait a few days and if you feel you want to tell her for the right reasons, then just message her with basic facts, leave the photos out of it.

Sadly if he’s that convincing a liar, you’re almost certainly not the first and won’t be the last.

This is tough one. My ex husband was cheating all the way through the relationship with multiple people and I wish someone had told me the first time. I would have appreciated the heads up but I know some cases where the heads up wasn’t appropriated. Maybe be selective what you send and don’t use a personal account. Send a message and block her. Walking away would be the stress free rout though and completely understandable if you do.

I’m always on the fence with these situations and I’ve been the cheated on wife. I think it’s because you don’t know anything about her, her circumstances. Her life is going to be blown to smithereens. I’m not sure how I’d react to somebody telling me although I have said I wish they had. He’s an arsehole. I’ve also been in a similar situation and decided to just cut off and say nothing. Really difficult.

You went to his house twice but didnt see a single thing indicating he was living with another woman?

Tell her then block them both

I think it’s a moral issue. You have innocently and inadvertently been instrumental in doing this woman harm, and the person who will do her more harm is still in a position to do so, and will remain so unless you act.

Also, if you do nothing then you will always feel that this scumbag used you and totally got away with it.

Block him. Write a sympathetic message with your evidence attached that you send to her. Say how sorry you are that she’s going through this, but that you won’t be in contact any more; then block her and move on. If she tries to contact you through other channels, block those too - no good can come of letting her torture herself with you.

She’ll have a horrible few months, but at least she’ll be in possession of all the information she needs to make her decisions. The scumbag won’t just get away with it (although she may let him do so anyway), and you’ll have your self respect.

I wish someone had told me when it happened to me. Tell her. Then block.

This is about all you can do, without knowing the state of their marriage otherwise. She may know and not care. Or she may be devastated. He needs to own his actions, you don't need to be in the middle of that.

I would want to know as the wife with proof.

Sounds like you want to tell her for revenge rather than concern which personally is quite a spiteful thing to do.

Block him, put it down to experience and move on

You don't need to decide right now but make sure you screen shot everything as he's likely to block you on socials once this ends.

Do they have children? I'd be less inclined to feel I had involvement in breaking up a family but if they don't have kids and she is probably more likely to leave him I'd tell her, I'd want to know

I would tell her, provide the proof and then walk away

why should he get away with doing this to someone else? I would want to know he’s been playing away

This happened to me op in my early twenties. I just walked away. Was pre social media so I would never have found his wife. Don’t know what I would do if I knew who she was!

Tell her, but don't send penis photos. There is now a law about this.