He kicked me out and took my son

[444pinkunicorns]

For the last 18 months I have lived with my partner in a property he owns. Today, following an argument he has asked me to move out immediately and has allowed me to take a small bag of my belongings.

We have an 8 week old son together, who he is refusing to allow me to take with me. Currently he is keeping our son away from me and refusing to let me see him, hold him, or take him with me following the break up.

I am our son’s primary caregiver and do pretty much all of the parenting. I have somewhere stable to move into and will be staying close to family.

Can anyone advise on what I should do or what my rights are?

Jesus Christ!
call the police. At 8 weeks your baby needs you! I’d be calling the police and telling them what’s happened and meeting them at the property. I think you’re in a dangerous situation for you and your son. Hope all ends well op XXX

Parental responsibility is given equal weight in the law. How could it be otherwise?

Op, I’ve read your update, you need to grow a back bone. The other parent or your tiny baby is saying they’re going to withhold contact, and you’re, for some reason, singing to their tune? Say baby is breastfed get the police involved, tiny babies need their mums. The people that carried them for the last 9 months.

We are wotrried about you op. Please let us know that you and baby are ok.

Call the police and social services NOW and get your baby back.

Oh do go away FortyElephants.
People were advising The Police from the very start. Love how you are changing your advice now xx

Its all about the parents surely the baby should come first

People were advising the OP lie to the police from the very start.

Because she's still in the house. She hasn't been locked out without her baby. I also advised way back that if he has done anything that could be considered abusive that she could report that and the police may arrest him and allow her to take the baby.

I apologise if I have come across cold throughout the thread - I am trained to cut through the emotion and panic and make quick decisions to safeguard children and I know what serices will do and what they won't. I stand by every comment I've made as being correct and accurate however.

Don't have go at forty elephants the person who posted it kept changing what happened

This ^ the original message states that OP has been made homeless from that house & is separated from her 8 week old baby, the update is that actually she's at home right now & her partner isn't abusive + she has no reason to be removed from the baby so no idea what's currently going on with her relationship/mental health but don't think anybody can really offer advice or critique each others view points.

It's a confusing thread by somebody who's not giving any direct follow up or coherent story

She is in house her actions impacts real issues

*He kicked me out and took my son *
no normal mother would write this sentence about an 8 week old baby

Cause they are they have an out of hours duty social worker, you think child abuse only happens 9-5?

I know this. But there is precisely nothing that a duty social work team will do in this situation at the weekend other than take down the details, pass to the mash on Monday and advise the OP to get legal advice. Emergency duty social workers only go out on weekends and nights in genuine, police led emergencies.

Sorry I disagree if a child needs removing urgently they don’t leave it until Monday. They can advise the OP over the phone as not life & death emergency, but that could change if he is withholding the baby from its mother. If the situation turn violent then ring 999.

I hate liar you insult people who need help

But they can't remove the child. That should be clear by now. And they don't remove children without a court order - only police can. Police may remove children and emergency social workers would support to find a placement. But they wouldn't get involved in OP's situation!

But it is accurate, no? Even though she is still in the house isn’t it a bit like being given notice to quit. And he may have “taken over” the baby within the house. This is a very upsetting thread.

the police have authority to remove a child from either parent and if the circs are as described and the mother has not harmed the child and is being unreasonably denied care of the child then they can indeed remove the child from him

Firstly, the mother is in the home with the father and the baby. There is nobody to remove the child from at this point. Secondly, no, police won't remove a child from a parent with PR if the only issue is a custody dispute.

So you’re in the house but you can’t see your son?

So you’re still in the house but he’s not letting you near the baby? What is he doing to stop you from taking the baby and leaving the house? Does he physically stop you? What are his reasons for doing this?

This is controlling, frightening behaviour. Please call the police. They will take this seriously.

You say you will move out if that’s what he wants but you will be taking your baby with you. If he says you can’t take the baby, then you say you won’t be going anywhere.

if he threatens to physically remove you from the house you call the police.

For goodbess sake this is your CHILD. You don’t just agree to leave him behind.

He is being abusive and keeping your baby away from you is a way to control things.

Do you have any friends or family local to you, you can ask for help from?

Your baby is so tiny and needs you, regardless of being bottle fed, you have been/are their main carer. He is not putting the babies best interests first by denying access with you, their mother. I can't imagine how it must feel being in the same house with my baby but not being able to see / comfort them.

Please don't leave it long before getting help /advice. Domestic violence services will be a good starting point, if you can't call you can check out their websites.

Does your ex do nights with baby or has that been you?

Is he just staying in one room with the baby? And not leaving the house? Does he work?