He kicked me out and took my son

[444pinkunicorns]

For the last 18 months I have lived with my partner in a property he owns. Today, following an argument he has asked me to move out immediately and has allowed me to take a small bag of my belongings.

We have an 8 week old son together, who he is refusing to allow me to take with me. Currently he is keeping our son away from me and refusing to let me see him, hold him, or take him with me following the break up.

I am our son’s primary caregiver and do pretty much all of the parenting. I have somewhere stable to move into and will be staying close to family.

Can anyone advise on what I should do or what my rights are?

Police won't remove the child. The father presumably has PR and can feed the baby formula.

Unfortunately legally it's not

It's Saturday. Neither the health visitor or social services will be working today. And social services aren't an emergency response service - they won't have any power here.

Its not trying to manipulate.

Kicking out a mother and unilaterally isolating her from a 8 week old baby is NOT normal regulated behaviour.

If he got fed up, he could have walked away.

That's really shocking. I would contact the police ASAP.

There is no evidence he's a danger to himself or the baby. So claiming so isn't true and would be attempting to manipulate the police.

If it were me, I would call the police, and then call an ambulance and ask that your monster ex lets ambulance crew to check on the baby. You don't have to enter the house.

If he refuses, then you have a record of it..
call the ambulance for your baby.

I'm so sorry for you OP.

But some of the advice on this thread is truly awful.

Going to the police and making false allegations is highly unlikely to work out well for you.

Contact Women's Aid and get help from people who know what they are talking about.

forty elephants -
but there is no evidence either that the baby is safe with the ex.

An ambulance? There is no medical emergency, is there?

all i am saying is getting the baby to have a welfare check.
If the baby is exclusively breastfed, will there be milk formula in the house ?

Go to Sainsbury's?

An ambulance?! What for? This is ridiculous and won't help the situation in the least. OP needs to avoid inflaming the situation, not escalate

Have I missed the bit where op said that the baby is breastfed?

If you’ve left without your baby and he’s on the birth certificate you’ll need to enable the help of a court. There’s not much the police will do as he’s the father. If you haven’t left do not leave. Call family to come to you and if you have left you need to arrange an emergency court order Monday morning

That's not how the law works. It's assumed that children are safe with their parents unless evidence is provided otherwise. This man is an awful dickhead shit but as far as anyone knows he's looking after his baby perfectly adequately. Making false and hyperbolic claims about the baby's safety isn't going to help anything.

Straight to court first thing Monday for an emergency order. If he is not on birth certificate the police will help, if he is, it will be a court matter.

Even though there's nothing the police can do to get OP's baby back, I would still call them to do a welfare check just so there's some involvement. If there's been any kind of abuse towards OP, this also needs to be reported now. It doesn't guarantee anything but it could be useful when going to court to have documented evidence.

That isn’t true. There will be a duty social worker on for emergencies which this sounds like. OP please call your local social services- just google children’s social services and area you live and contact the emergency number- they will be able to give you advice. Also contact 101 and also ring out of hours GP on 111 as they can send out a health professional to check on the babies welfare and it will all be documented - they can then raise the relevant safeguarding concerns as this is a safeguarding concern.

Agree - such bad advice when people immediately suggests telling lies - it’s hardly going to help the mom long term if she’s found to not be credible with her account of what happened 🙄

Potentially, however if baby is breast fed which we don’t know or not then that changes things, either way I don’t think any professional be it police, healthcare or legal are going to look at it lightly that this man removed an 8 week old baby from its mother providing baby is not at risk of harm from mum which doesn’t appear to be the case

Where are you now op?

Weekend social work cover is absolutely not for situations like this. The most they will do is take the details and pass it to the MASH team on Monday. It's also not an emergency for social services OR police - the immediate issue is a residence dispute between parents, not a welfare issue.

I really can't imagine how you think 111 will send a medical professional to the house to check on the baby. On what basis? This is the most outlandish suggestion so far. I'm not sure some posters are living in the real world.

However, if there is more that has gone on such as physical abuse to the OP then police may well arrest him and return the baby to the OP - but the threshold for arrest is high.

It really doesn't change things. Formula exists. There's no evidence to suggest he's going to starve the baby.

It'll help him if this goes further.

There will be a proven history of lies , deciet and malicious allegations from the OP.

Many of the suggestions here may get a quicker response from the authorities but in the long run they will be disastrous for the OP.

FFS MN can be shit at times.