He kicked me out and took my son

[444pinkunicorns]

For the last 18 months I have lived with my partner in a property he owns. Today, following an argument he has asked me to move out immediately and has allowed me to take a small bag of my belongings.

We have an 8 week old son together, who he is refusing to allow me to take with me. Currently he is keeping our son away from me and refusing to let me see him, hold him, or take him with me following the break up.

I am our son’s primary caregiver and do pretty much all of the parenting. I have somewhere stable to move into and will be staying close to family.

Can anyone advise on what I should do or what my rights are?

That's not what duty social work is for. And no, there are no solicitors working at weekends because the courts don't work at weekends!
In the event that a child is at risk of immediate significant harm on a weekend the police can take police protection for 72 hours which gives social services time to get an emergency application to court on the next working day.

But in this situation on what basis
What medical emergency is happening here?

But they won't do anything. Because that's not what they are there for.

Ok. I'm a social work manager working in a child protection team with many years of experience with family courts both public and private. But sure. Ignore the fact that I've posted step by step what OP needs to do and advise her to follow a hyperbolic, panic stricken course of action that will inflame the situation and not get her child back any quicker. Why not.

In her previous post, OP said that they were arguing because he refused to help with the baby. Is he even capable of looking after an eight week old baby that has been totally reliant on it's mum, up until now?

Does he sound like a man that OP can trust to take good care of her baby? He seems to be using the baby as a weapon to punish the OP, which could be an emergency if he neglects or mistreats the baby to get back at OP.

This

OP Darling, this is emotional abuse.
Ignore the people who claim to be experts and just ring the Police.
They will try to help you.
Aside from anything else your (ex) partner could say that you left your home, and baby and this could be viewed as you abandoning him.
Act now, for your own and your child's sake.

Doesn’t have to be a medical emergency for a welfare request. Medical emergencies are for 999 not 111. The basis being that there are concerns for the baby. It is concerning that a newborn baby has been taken away from its mother and without due cause and previous abuse- mentioned in OP’s other posts, there would be serious concern for the babies welfare.

I see the menz have arrived. Lots of them.

People's responses to you are based on your responses to OP and other posters. For a social work manager working in child protection, you seem oddly lacking in empathy and kindness. Surely with your experience, you can put yourself in the shoes of a new mother with a vindictive partner who is using their baby to punish her? She must be feeling totally panicked and frightened.

Forty elephants, I think your decades worth of experience of working in child protection have addled your brain.
You talk about hyperbole and panic stricken reactions........How the fuck else is she meant to feel?? Have you no empathy with a new mother concerned for her child's welfare?

Maybe you need to retire or go and work in Greggs or summat.

Definitely call the police. They won't support a pretty much newborn baby being kept away from their mother

I would say to call the police in this situation. Tell them you and your partner argued. He asked you to leave the house he owns, and then refused to allow you to take your 8 weeks old son. Is your partner's name on the child's birth certificate? You need to take immediate action, because the longer you leave it, he could twist the situation by saying you decided to leave and abandoned your child. You definitely need legal advice come Monday.

He has no right to remove you from home even if he owns it nor stop you seeing baby get a solicitor. Surely this hasn't come out of blue what was he like prior to this, was he controlling. I had issue like this no children was living with partner but relationship broke ðown once he got new girlfriend he changed locks called my parents and told them you have to accommodate her we had two properties one bought from sale of my house which was rented out. He tried to sell it took me 10 years to sort this out

Always vocal but just bullies

Definitely call the police. No reasonable father would try and separate a newborn from their mother. If the baby is exclusively breastfed, it’s not as simple as saying ‘feed them formula’. Many babies won’t take a bottle and to be separated from the mother and their food source is a huge stress. No good father would put their baby through that.

This guy may have biologically contributed his DNA, but if this is the way he behaves towards his newborn and the mother of his child, I certainly wouldn’t call him a father.

The baby is 8 weeks!!!!!!

This 🙏

This is vulnerable person asking for help although men think that's our role they don't understand how enormous this is to women how our hormones are effectived

The OP has been advised multiples times 'say this ' to the police despite the fact that there is reference to these in her posts.

Thank you so much for this common sense.

The stuff people say on these threads to make women think they are helpless in such situations is honestly dangerous.

❤️

Yes 100%
In my personal experience of someone phoning the police with a v similar experience they didn't fanny around asking if the Dad had PR they just asked him to leave the property calmly. They were out within half an hour of the phone call.

His actions are irrational. An irrational person should not be in charge of a tiny baby. This is a safeguarding issue, your child could be in danger, the police must be informed.

I know others have asked these questions:
-is your XP on birth certificate? If he's not on birth cert, then call police: you have PR but he wouldn't have this (and he'd need to apply to Court for PR). I think things are different if he is on birth cert.
-is baby breastfed? I don't believe that he can keep baby from you if you're breastfeeding.

I'd get on to Women's Aid, Police (even just to file this issue), your HV/GP and get online for an emergency CAO. EDIT: also get on to a solicitor on Monday. You need legal advice. Diarise everything, keep written records of texts/emails (and follow up verbal conversations you have with texts).