My boyfriend isn’t talking to me after a night out

[sad2025]

I don’t often go out late in the evenings but I had a work invitation to go to a really nice event, as there were free drinks there I had a few but by no means was I drunk
My partner collected me from the station and stayed the night but has been ignoring ever since
I am racking my brains to think of what I could have done because now I feel stressed and anxious and cannot sleep
The only thing he has said to me is I should know why because of Tuesday night

Get rid, I know that sounds harsh but he is only going to get worse. Feeling anxious about doing perfectly normal things is not on. He sounds controlling and deeply unpleasant. He has been chipping away at your confidence and sense of self so that he can make himself the toxic centre of your world. I will say it again, get rid and go on to have a better life without him

omg take this is your chance to leave! Block him and move on!

Honestly - do you not go out much because you don't want to - or because you know he doesn't like it?

Bin him off. He’s controlling. If you only got tipsy and can remember everything then he’s mad you dared to go on a night out. Get rid before he gets worse.

End It, change the locks on your house and tell him in a message so it is written down that you want no further contact. He sounds the type that may get even nastier on break up.

You’ve not said one nice thing about him.

He thinks you’re a slag and with other men.

Neither of you even like each other so what’s the point in this.

Tell him it’s over.
Drop his things off and ask him not to contact you again.
Then go on your weekend away and turn your phone off.

He's playing awful mindgames with you,making you question yourself. Tell him to grow up or fuck off 🤬

> I am racking my brains to think of what I could have done
Why? You know you did nothing wrong, he's being an arsehole

When he said "You should know..." the only correct answer is "Well, I don't, so tell me" but I suppose it's a bit late for that?

Why leave your home me for the weekend to avoid him coming round? This man will not change, listen to all the posters who are telling you it gets worse. What happy future can there possibly be other than one without him in it?

This sounds lovely. Enjoy the heatwave without him. Think of the freedom from criticism you'll have and the leisure to do exactly what you want.

Block him for the weekend, then when you get home, put all his stuff in a box (to the left 😉) and tell him to pick it up and return your key etc.

Think of it as the start of your new life.

And if he asks why, tell him he should know why. After all, he expects you to be a mind reader, so presumably he has talent in that area.

Does he have any stuff at your place? If so, shove it all in a bin bag.
Good riddance to bad rubbish.

Take your dog somewhere lovely Op and have a good time. Don't tell him where you've gone, with a bit of luck he'll dump you and save you the trouble of dumping him

Please end it.

This kind of jealousy and control only gets worse.

And if he does come over do not let him in.

Your relationship to him is over.

What did you learn about relationships when you were growing up?. Did your own father behave similarly to your mother?.

He is a massive twat. Stop putting up with his shit and just dump him and run for the hills.

Your life will be so much better.

He’s not childish, he’s ragingly abusive and controlling. This behaviour is designed to condition you into not going out again and displeasing him. Cunt.

Please just ditch him. Abuse isn’t better than loneliness.

He’s showing you who he really is; believe him!
controlling/passive aggressive/huffy

He would be dumped immediately if it was me. Any man that sulks after you’ve been out is not one I would have in my life.

You’ve done nothing wrong. This is his way of controlling you.

When I read your original post I thought maybe you had said something hurtful while drunk and then forgotten it, but reading your updates it's clear that he's just trying to control you. Someone like this will always be able to find something you've done "wrong", unless you literally sit around at home with him the whole time (and even then he'd probably accuse you of talking to other men online). I can understand you feeling apprehensive about starting again, but honestly, once you've got past the initial difficult stage, you will feel so much lighter and freer without him around. Treading on eggshells around someone is more exhausting than you realise whilst you're in the middle of it. I would just try and bite the bullet and let him know that this isn't working for you any more and it's over. If it feels too big and too daunting, make a promise to yourself that you'll stick to it for a month, no matter what he does, and then see how you feel. I'm willing to bet that by then you won't want to go back on it.

Tell him to piss off he is playing mind games

Text him a message saying you know what he did last Wednesday and you will never forgive him and it's over! See how he likes it

100% agree with everyone else - get rid. He brings nothing positive to your life.

This. Hes not immature or childish, he’s an abusive cunt who knows exactly what he’s doing. He’s training you to obey him or suffer the consequences.

Show him the consequences of being a controlling wanker is getting dumped.

Being single is far better than being abused by this twat.

@sad2025 Just thank God you have not moved in together and end the relationship.
You WILL be happier

Oh come on op you know you need to cut this twat off. He sounds awful .