My boyfriend isn’t talking to me after a night out

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I don’t often go out late in the evenings but I had a work invitation to go to a really nice event, as there were free drinks there I had a few but by no means was I drunk
My partner collected me from the station and stayed the night but has been ignoring ever since
I am racking my brains to think of what I could have done because now I feel stressed and anxious and cannot sleep
The only thing he has said to me is I should know why because of Tuesday night

Please know - you are worth so much more than this. You will be 100% ok when you leave him.

Absolutely this.

Imagine preferring to put up with being emotional abuses rather than living alone peacefully.

You need to work on your self esteem and self worth desperately. No one should be picking being in a miserable relationship over being alone.

The situation is stupid; it's time to move on to a decent relationship.

I was with someone who liked to ignore me for days without telling what I had done wrong (or in his eyes what he had thought I had done wrong) until the end of last year. It is toxic and abusive behaviour. It doesn't get better, it gets worse. My advice would be to walk away from him.

OP you seriously need to rethink this relationship. The term ‘body count’ has Andrew Tate written all over it. It’s concerning that he asked, even more concerning that he became angry that you wouldn’t say and a big waving red flag that he accused you of having another boyfriend.

How are you doing OP?

The silent treatment/sulking is very draining.

I hope you can find the strength to get this man out of your life.

Life can be much better than this OP.
There are so many men like this kicking about, I used to have one. Told me I must have another man ‘why would I want another man? One was bad enough’.

It'll get worse OP, it always does. We’re all willing you to get rid of him. Once you’ve been on the receiving end you want to protect others from experiencing the same.

Ditch him pronto.

This has made my blood run cold.

I really hope you leave this relationship, OP, because if you don’t it will break you.

Keep the dog.

In a situation like this…
You are already on your own.
You are already lonely.
This man is making you ill, and you will get worse.
You are explaining yourself on here like you are in a police interview, giving exact details of where you were, what time you got home.
You have a choice now. To stay with a man of 50, who wants to deprive you of your own wellbeing, or you choose freedom.
You had a good time at the event. Imagine being that free all of the time?
I am not sure how old you are, but do you want your life to play out like this?
You are being abused. You deserve better.

🚩🚩🚩 Don't even try to fix this. You can't. He's an abusive bastard. End it. Give him the silent treatment permanently. Block. Move on.

You’re in a coercive controlling abusive relationship. Please read up on this. You can’t make things better. The only solution and the best decision you can make is to end your relationship with him.

Why are you tying yourself into a pretzel trying to appease a manipulative controlling prick?

This is not a good man. Far better to be single than waste your life treading on eggshells

These types are always basically insecure and jealous and paranoid you’ll wake up and realise you deserve more

which you do

run op and don’t get sucked back no matter what

Myself like many other on MN had a boyfriend like your's, then became a husband because I thought "i'm pushing 30, might be my only chance to settle and have children", (wow I thought I was going to be an old spinster at 30!!!) he then became a husband, I then became a mother.. job done?! 19 years of feeling exactly like you do now, getting the silent treatment for days, throwing little comments in that made me wrack my brains as to what I had done - once it was because I took a selfie with a colleague who was someone I definitely wouldn't have had any sort of relationship with other than professional - that silent spell went on for a week without me know why he was peed off (now I see it as a form of abuse). Didn't like me going out with friends, didn't want to socialise with my friends and their partners, made it difficult and made me feel guilty and used our DC to manipulate me, make it look like their mother was a drunken mess (I wasn't) but he used to drink and a couple of times sh*t himself but if I was sick that was the worst thing in the world. Moral of this story.. it won't get better, you deserve better and you will find better. Thank you next!

I’d rather be on on my own and not treading on eggshells !
op u would be 100% happier without this manchild

So he is being a prick for no reason? Giving you the silent treatment and ‘clues’ as to what you may have done is nasty and controlling.

Tell him to fuck off, and shut the door on the way out. Get rid before it gets worse.

You haven’t done anything wrong. You dared to go out and have fun. So now he’s giving you the silent treatment to punish you. Sounds like a child and you should not put up with this. I’d be telling him to stop acting like a silly boy and if he out the door. Don’t question what you have done, you have done nothing. Life’s too short for this shit lovely

Please leave him. He is controlling. He ignores you because you don’t do what he wants. He will wear you down more and more until you become a shadow of yourself.

Being alone but free is better than this.

Being on your own will be a thousand times better and less lonely than being with this abusive man. Staying with him involves you betraying yourself many times a week, every time you stay and participate in his 'other man' and jealousy drama, when you should protect yourself by dumping him. Show up for yourself, and get rid of him.

He is not going to change, and you can never fix this, so the only other option is to accept his horrible treatment as the price you pay to sometimes have somebody physically present with you.

Most people would think this is not a price worth paying.

He's gaslighting you, showing his controlling streak. Dump and move on.

You seriously need to move on from him. This isn’t normal behaviour

You've said it yourself he doesn't like you going out without him so that's why he's got the hump.

Whatever you do don't apologise or shrink yourself to suit his issues and I would definitely question whether you want to be with someone that acts like this as it normally gets worse.

For goodness sake OP, you’ll be so much happier without him! Don’t entertain his pathetic, sulky manner a minute longer.

I was speaking to my 24 year old Niece the other day. She’s single. She told me that she’s happy single as she hasn’t found the guy who will enrich her life yet. She wants someone that will make her life even better than it is at the moment, someone who will share the highs and the lows and someone to make her happy.
If a 24 year old can have that attitude then so can you.
Your DP sounds like a controlling dick to be honest. Ask yourself if your life is more enriched by his presence and if you are happier with him than single. I guess the answer will be no.
Then it is time to live again, to be happy again, and to live your best life without an insecure man sulking because you dare to have a life outside of him.
I have faith that you will choose the right path. You need to be brave, but you can do it. It will be easier as you don’t live together.
Sending you big hugs