My boyfriend isn’t talking to me after a night out

[sad2025]

I don’t often go out late in the evenings but I had a work invitation to go to a really nice event, as there were free drinks there I had a few but by no means was I drunk
My partner collected me from the station and stayed the night but has been ignoring ever since
I am racking my brains to think of what I could have done because now I feel stressed and anxious and cannot sleep
The only thing he has said to me is I should know why because of Tuesday night

Thank you this is what he needs to hear

I can categorically say I've been far lonelier and sadder in a bad relationship than I have ever been in the many years I've been single.

Try being on your own, it really can be so freeing.

No anxious pit in your stomach about going out on your own
No spending time and mental energy trying to please someone who will always find something to crticise
No stewing and worrying trying to work out "what you've done wrong" as someone sulks and ignores you

Just the freedom to do what you want when you want, see whoever you choose, wear what you like, go away on your own without having to explain or justify.

Honestly, yes, being single sometimes does get a bit a bit lonely but it's temporary and fixable, and far better than what you are dealing with now.

You don't police a partner.
You can advise, support, suggest and also say if something upset you.
But you do not police them.
If he said in the morning, oh you were so drunk last night I was worried about you and upset when you fell into that bush then was sick in the downstairs toilet and i had to drag you onto the sofa , I really feel you should think about slowing down on the booze.. thats reasonable.
Not what he is doing, that is coercive and controlling.

Yuk! Another icky sulker. The most unattractive trait in a man. Ditch!

He doesn’t need to hear this or anything other than ‘fuck off’

You aren’t his teacher or mother. You’re not on the earth to educate a cunt about his behaviour. He knows what he’s doing and you explaining won’t make any difference.

He is deliberately controlling you to change yourself - don’t allow him to for one more day!

Actually thinking about it I do agree with this. Tell him to fuck off or you are giving him a rope to drag you in.

He does seem controlling over you going out and paranoid about you cheating. This sounds like him fishing for a confession, trying to catch you out. But you've done nothing apart from enjoy an evening that you've been looking forward to so now he's sulking. None of this sounds fun to have in a relationship.

He´s playing with your head, get rid.

I don't normally say LTB, but he sounds awful, be thankful you got your lovely dog out of the situation.

'No he got a dog and then didn’t like her'

Keep the dog and ditch him!

You seem to be in the phase of he needs to understand then things will be different.

Hopefully, this won't last too long and you soon move to the stage of realising he is like this because he chooses to be, that he is deliberately controlling and manipulative, and knows exactly what he's doing.

Many abused women get stuck thinking their abusive partner doesn't really get that they're being abusive, and all they need is to understand and they'll stop.

But it's all deliberate. That's what you need to hear and understand, OP.

Just break up with him. Don't try to teach him. He obviously does not actually love you. And it is hard to realize that, but you'll be much happier when you're not being undermined and controlled all the time!

Ditch the controlling man baby and live a happy guilt free life with your dog. You won’t regret it ever.

don't bother unpicking your feelings, just dump the childish twat

Absolutely agree. OP you seem to be in the headspace where you think he can change if you talk to him and explain then you can save your relationship.

Hr can’t and you won’t. He’ll find ways to tell you that he’s right and you’re wrong and he’ll know you’re trying to resolve things so the abuse will ramp up.

He knows he’s abusing you but he doesn’t give a fuck because that’s who he is. He won’t change because he can’t and even if he could, he doesn’t want to.

Please don’t waste years of your life trying to appease a cunt.

@sad2025 the BF sounds like a dick, you and the dog are better off without. You sound like an excellent dog mum though,that pooch is living his best life! Xx

Glad to read you don't live with him.

He sounds immature and controlling. You deserve better OP.

He is punishing you for his insecurity. These ones, particularly at his age, dont ever change. You will be on eggshells for the rest of your life for doing absolutely nothing wrong

@sad2025 it can be scary thinking about life on your own, but I promise you. Once you no longer have to have that sick, anxious feeling, walk on eggshells, edit your life- you won’t miss him. Ask me how I know!!

And then after you learn that it’s lovely to be free, you might meet someone who wants to treat you the way you deserve to be treated, with kindness and respect. At the moment, you can’t, because you’re with this twonk. He’s stealing your future happiness as well as poisoning your present.

Get rid of controling cunt.
My nights out went to 3am with me well beyoomd tippsy.
DH put children to sleep and left me water bottle in another room ao I can get myself back for another day.
With friwnds I stayed out 6-7am no problems. For longer I would just text so he can tell children mum is still out in the morning.
He is not your parent.

Oh my god. I remember you. The dog thing has triggered it. You’ve posted about this prince before haven’t you? I thought you’d scared after the last awful thread 😟

Op the bit about the dog sounds very familiar. Have you posted about your relationship on a number of occasions before?

Just you, your busy life and your dog sounds bliss!

Scared?

The more you tell us the more you are sharing about constantly walking on eggshells. It appears he has already trained you not to go out, he’s obsessively jealous and suspicious for no reason, he’s controlling you through the way he has behaved about an outing you really wanted to go on - and you got home at 11.20. Please don’t think you won’t be happier without him - you will!