I know I'm about to be dumped...

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I've been dating a chap for a couple of months and I know I'm about to be dumped, probably by text.
I'm not in wracking sobs. Maybe a bit sad, but there we go.
SO..... what's the best way to respond to a break up text? Silent treatment? A certain phrase? I'm curious.
The last break up was my marriage and I went hell for leather with the spiteful comments! LOL!

I got my heart broken but I pulled all my strength together and said ‘Ok, your loss!’ Then went home a bawled my eyes out for a few days.

Well, obviously. I’m referring to a text break up. That would make him an arse, IMO.

Yet quite a few posters say they’d prefer it. I’d prefer a phone call personally.

so you were actually hoping he’d dump you rather than expecting him to string you along, when really a conversation with him about why he needed to dissect his relationship with his ex would have give you all the answers you actually needed?

Cool .👍
Likewise 🤣
I've got crabs , please get checked out yourself 😂

I was thinking that it’s generally considered to be rude to break up by text. That may be changing, I suppose.

Yeah, I think it’s part of for the course now. Marriage Counselling sessions with ChatGPT…..etc., 😕

Just send him a gif of a dancing skeleton or something. If he’s dumping you he doesn’t give a fuck anyway. Leave em wonderin 😜😂

EDIT: okay, see from the update the deed is done, sounds like you’re well out of it OP, hope you’re alright

This is really odd, op. Youn broke up
with someone on the advice of a few strangers without even having a conversation with him? Wow.

I was thinking that!

What if it was just a closure type meeting and he had no intention of splitting with you?

Get in there first

Just the thumbs up

It shows you're got the message, but don't care enough to actually type a response

Dump first. Ghost him.

Is there more to this than you've shared? I don't really get why you were so certain he was going to dump you just because he met up with his ex. Like a pp said, maybe it was genuinely a 'closure' meeting and he had no intention of splitting up with you? Which is why he was shocked when you broke up with him out of the blue.

It all depends on the context, though. Maybe there were other signals he was giving off? But if everything else was good, and meeting up with his ex for a post-mortem was the only thing he did that gave you pause...wouldn't a conversation have been the way to go first?

you handled yourself beautifully.

i 💯 agree, this is not working for me. All the best.

and the. Block him on everything- move on

This happened to my parents, long before I was born. They hadn't been dating for long when my Dad's ex wife (they married in their teens) asked him to meet up. Apparently he got all dressed up to go and see her. My Mum was sure it meant the end for her and my Dad.
A while later he appeared and told my Mum that he wanted to be absolutely sure that his ex knew they were over and that he had moved on and was very happy with someone else. My Mum and Dad were very happy together for many years until he passed away. So unless there were other signs that he was not happy that meet up may not have been what you were thinking!

I think you were right to dump him. No one needs to meet up with an ex months into a relationship with someone else, unless there are children or financial ties to each other. I'd assume they weren't completely over.

Just be honest! Say how you feel and wish them well. Why spoil the memory of a happy love affair.

If you’ve been dating someone for 2 months you’ve literally only seen them a handful of times. Why would you need a face to face break up? You don’t have to justify to the person why you’re ending the relationship. You don’t need to discuss giving each others house keys back or who’s going to keep the dog.

You are literally just at the very beginning of getting to know each other. A simple, hey it’s been nice getting to know you but I don’t think we’re compatible, is all that’s required so meeting up in person specifically to say that and then go, ok….bye then, is actually quite strange. There’s just nothing to discuss after a few dates.

Well yes, quite.

Just write NP 👍

he will be devastated that you’re not bothered 😂

Good for you op. You absolutely should not be waiting to see how things go with his ex!!

Same here, OP. You have clear boundaries regarding relationships and know when it's time to say goodbye in a mature, gentle but very assertive way.

Not on MN. Here people ghost first and ask questions later.