I know I'm about to be dumped...

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I've been dating a chap for a couple of months and I know I'm about to be dumped, probably by text.
I'm not in wracking sobs. Maybe a bit sad, but there we go.
SO..... what's the best way to respond to a break up text? Silent treatment? A certain phrase? I'm curious.
The last break up was my marriage and I went hell for leather with the spiteful comments! LOL!

I know some people would thumbs up, but IMO this situation is much better served by a 👋🏻.

To be fair unless he’s a prick you should probably just wish him well and move on. Wouldn’t bother dissecting a short term relationship, or lengthening the break up chat.

This.

Agree with the majority here. But just to add, block his number after that and don’t look back. He might come crawling one night after a few drinks, he might drop you a text if he’s a bit lonely. You deserve better & it’s not worth the heartache. Block, delete and move on.

This is my favourite answer! I'd definitely used that!

Sad, but if it happens you clearly won't be surprised, so maybe say that you aren't surprised. And if they're not a monster wish them well as a friend etc.

To me a thumbs up is too passive aggressive and makes you look more bothered. I would reply "I agree, its not working out for me either but it was nice to meet you, take care"

Oh and completely agree do not reply to booty call / fishing style messages that may come a few weeks later. Ive got a friend who can't understand why men do this and its bloody obvious it's because it didn't work out with whoever else they met and they just want a shag. Im old and cynical 😂

Like others have said he’ll probably come crawling back! What makes you think he’s dumping you?

‘👍’ comes across passive aggressive, like you’re bothered but trying to hide it, so I don’t know why people think it comes across as nonchalant and that that’s how they should be.

I’d just say something like ‘I’ve enjoyed getting to know you. Thanks for your honesty and good luck for the future. Take care x’ job done.

Get in there first

What’s wrong with dumping by text? It’s only been a couple of months of dating, not a 20 year marriage! I’d much rather be dumped by text than sit through an awkward conversation that both sides would rather not be participating in.

Given my ex got a little violent (not with me) but I saw his temper with others towards the end of our relationship, I ensured I remained very polite and civil even though he’d wronged me as I live alone and didn’t want him doing anything to my car or property!

Why get snarky? That’s so immature. Why not just say ok. Someone choosing not to date you isn’t some kind of crime

Someone is allowed to end a 2 month relationship because it isn’t working out for them. I also don’t think it’s an issue to do it by text after such a short time. I don’t want to be dumped face to face by a man I’ve seen a handful of times.

It doesn’t warrant any snarky, pathetic, petty reply. No teenage emojis, ghosting or “oh cool yeah I was just about to dump you myself actually” nonsense. Just an, “Ok thanks for being honest. I wish you the best.” It’s adult, unbothered and what an emotionally intelligent adult would do.

Me too. I’ve only been politely dumped in person once and I found it so awkward. Let me digest the info in private and get my head round it please.

Keep it mysterious and enigmatic: Text back 'Ta, luv.'

If you are over 30 then use the correct spelling of 'love.'

If you want to step it up more, send back the word 'Geneva' before deleting all his contact details.

I was going to say that too 😆😆

If I was the dumper and someone replied with a thumbs up I’d just assume that it’d pissed them off and they were quite childish in the way they communicate. If you want to appear unbothered then that’s not the way to go about it.

'Agreed'

Some people on here are so bitter and immature. There's no need to block or insult him OP he's allowed to call it off if he's not feeling it.

"Ah okay Dan that's a shame but fair enough, thanks for your honesty and all the best to you" is all you need to say.

Don't ignore him or play any games you'll just look a twat!

Get in there first?

A simple ‘phew!!!!’ Could be fun !

Id say:

"Oh thank goodness! I had been wanting to end things but didnt want to hurt your feelings. So glad you feel same. Good luck and take care".

I’ve been with my boyfriend for a few months and if he dumped me I’d honestly say something like, ‘I know what a good man you are so I know this will have been really hard for you. Whilst I’m really sad because you are so lovely, I really do wish you the best because you deserve it, and I’m really glad I got to know you’.

maybe that’s pathetic but I really feel that.

'No problem' would be my preference. Not too snippy. Hopefully comes across as unbothered but also unaggressive.