I know I'm about to be dumped...

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I've been dating a chap for a couple of months and I know I'm about to be dumped, probably by text.
I'm not in wracking sobs. Maybe a bit sad, but there we go.
SO..... what's the best way to respond to a break up text? Silent treatment? A certain phrase? I'm curious.
The last break up was my marriage and I went hell for leather with the spiteful comments! LOL!

"Bye then"

Rise above it, no point being bitter, sarcastic or petty.
Who knows, your paths may cross again through colleagues, mutual friends, clients etc.
Don't burn bridges if he hasn't been horrid to you.

Text back: So what? I’m still a rock star, I’ve got my rock moves and I don’t need you’
Alternatively sing it and send as a voice note. There’s no way this is not a classy and mature response. 😃

This is such a childish way to handing rejection .

OP Please don't listen to this

This!

This!

😂 I was thinking the same. You must know he’s an arse if you’re expecting a text break up, so why not beat him to the punch?

“Ok no worries, all the best.” Or similar

After a longer, far closer relationship I’d agree with the posters who view breaking up via text as cowardice. In these circumstances I would find it understandable if not the preferred option. After only a couple of months who needs anything more drawn out?

I’m with the advice upthread that a short response agreeing it’s not worked out, thanking him for his honesty and signed off ‘all the best’ hits the right note. It allows you to move on with your dignity intact and gives away nothing emotional at all.

I would not respond to any further messages, though.

Do you have a voodoo doll emoji on your phone?

Just an ok wish you well and move on .
No need for complete silence or a childish remark ... just move forward .

In such early days, if he sent a gracious, polite goodbye, I'd probably say I'd also been sensing that the two of us possibly weren't quite right together, then wish him the best (even if I was actually feeling devastated to lose him). On the other hand, if he 'dumped' me in an unkind way, I'd probably do the thumbs-up emoji.

Then block him incase he thinks it was too easy, or better still, dump him first!!

That's great we're on the same page, best wishes x

With respect I disagree, I dont need a cringey face to face meeting that wastes both our time. If someone wanted to dump me a text is perfectly fine. Why sugar coat it any other way? If its over its over and that's that don't need all bells and whistles.

Exactly. If the relationship is on the rocks, or you know he's not into you, you can call time on it yourself, OP, rather than wait passively for him to dismiss you and then reply with a miserably passive aggressive thumbs-up or 'saved me a job'.

Why are you bothering about something that hasn't happened?

If it does, come back and post again so we know what the message was.

I would want to get in there first!

Well, I did it! I phoned him. Thanked him for a lovely few months and wished him the best.
The reason I was expecting it was that he and his ex from a recent relationship met today to discuss the issues they'd had in their very long relationship.
I think he assumed I'd wait in the wings for him. I'm sad, but I'm too good to be someones second choice. I think he was shocked.
Thanks for all your advice :)

Good on you OP. Have another Chinese takeaway. I fancy one now too :)

Why would he have to be an arse? People date, sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn’t.

personally I would thumbs up their message and not add anything else to it. P.s they always come back

Respect to you OP.

A lot of posters on this thread sound very dumpable.