I know I'm about to be dumped...

[passionfruitfriday]

I've been dating a chap for a couple of months and I know I'm about to be dumped, probably by text.
I'm not in wracking sobs. Maybe a bit sad, but there we go.
SO..... what's the best way to respond to a break up text? Silent treatment? A certain phrase? I'm curious.
The last break up was my marriage and I went hell for leather with the spiteful comments! LOL!

Does it? ,it doesn't show any particular regard for the person you are dumping - maybe if it's been an abusive relationship, but not one that had no harm in it, you should have the courage to talk.

I don't think that's pathetic. It's really gracious and actually quite powerful. There's a book called Games people Play by Eric Byrne about social situations and how people operate in them. One 'game' is called 'They'll Be Glad They Knew Me' which is a tactic where you leave people wishing they hadn't dropped you because you subsequently rise so far above their behaviour.

This reply has that sort of style.

Yeah. But no.

The guy I did it to had form for not replying to my texts, not answering the phone, he worked away a lot so was hard to get hold of of get time in his diary for dates. That was all part of his unreliability.

We weren't exactly full on either (due to the above).
And our nearly 100% exclusive method of communication was text.

He had very little respect for me (see above) so I didn't see why I should put myself out.

As I said, it depends on the relationship.

I liked the cheery wave suggestion upthread 👋 I bet he’s not dumping you though

What about a cheery ‘Okey dokey. All the best 😊’

That would really piss me off if I dumped someone and they sent me that. I want tears and texts saying they can’t live without me and that they will never find another love like mine.

So, yes op the thumbs up emoji should do the trick. 🤣

Ok no probs.

It's closure for yourself and makes him think you aren't bothered about him.

I like

'Who dis?'

this answer is perfect

I agree you should say something along the lines of ‘All the best’ and keep it grown up and mature but if he’s such a pussy he’ll dump you by text - 100% add “it’s shame you were too cowardly to have this conversation in person. It would have been much more respectful to wrap things up like adults’

wouldn’t let someone get away with that without acknowledgment personally

I think it's passive aggressive.

If she had really been thinking that. why would she wait?

'i was actually just thinking the same. So no worries. It was fun. Good luck in the future.'

You’ll need hugs off someone as well

I once had a guy break up with me on the phone and I said ‘Well we’ve had a nice time, good luck with everything’. I think it totally threw him. Dignity at all times

But there are quite a few of us on here that have said we prefer being dumped by text than face to face…

On an amusing note -.I once had a guy write my a letter and post it through my door for when I returned from a long haul flight. It was pages long and full of quotes from song lyrics (“I’ve got too much blood, running through my veins to go to waste..” etc - akaRobbie Williams -Feel). It was quite funny it was so over the top. The guy was very full of himself and obviously thought I would be heartbroken. I wasn’t, I was getting fed up with him too. Childishly I replied, “no problem, don’t worry I’m fine. I never thought this would ever be marriage material.” He was a bit surprised “oh, are you sure you’re going to be ok?”

Why not just dump him? But if he texts then "ive felt the same, thanks for being honest". Then block so you avoid the messages when he wants a shag.

Yup, text him first.

because this response allows OP to remain dignified while not being rude. it's the best outcome if you've been dumped and really not that hard to understand

Unless you’re 13, hard no to this crap.

Yeah definitely get in there first.

If you can slip in a "I am sorry but I have met someone who I think I am better suited to. Its been really nice. Thank you" all the better

i do think the 👍 is the funniest .. It leaves them with so many questions

On the other hand, she's clearly expecting to be dumped (it hasn't happened yet), so she must be aware the relationship isn't going anywhere.

So to say, "I've been thinking for some time this relationship isn't really working, so no hard feelings", or something along those lines, wouldn't really look passive aggressive.

I hear you. When a man is decent enough to do things the right way, much respect. God knows it's rare.

After a 1st date, if he declines to go further politely by text, or if after a few months, he sits down with me to have the talk ... I would make a point of saying I appreciate his courage and wish him the best and be as gracious as I could be.

But, after a few months, by text, no way. Match the energy.

Shag his best mate (god I wish I was 17 again..)

@passionfruitfriday - does he behave like he has lost interest? Is that why you think you are about to get dumped?

In that case - I'd not wait, and write something like ... "It seems that things have fizzled out. Should we be grown ups and call it a day?"