I know I'm about to be dumped...

[passionfruitfriday]

I've been dating a chap for a couple of months and I know I'm about to be dumped, probably by text.
I'm not in wracking sobs. Maybe a bit sad, but there we go.
SO..... what's the best way to respond to a break up text? Silent treatment? A certain phrase? I'm curious.
The last break up was my marriage and I went hell for leather with the spiteful comments! LOL!

Where did I say you have to pretend to appreciate being dumped?? I was agreeing with posts that said they appreciated the honesty of the person saying the relationship wasn’t working (as opposed to ghosting or acting badly etc).

"who dis?"

Get in there first 😂💃

I think keep it bland - but classy. Agree with others that an “it’s been nice to meet you - all the best” message is best.

I wouldn't want to be broken up with in person, but I think a phone call is the very minimum for decency. It gives the person a chance to ask a few questions after being blind sided. I'd send the thumbs up emoji, because in that situation I really wouldn't wish them well. I'd think they were a dick who couldn't communicate properly and without any emotional maturity. They certainly don't deserve some of the texts proposed here about how difficult it must have been for him. Ffs.

Why are you expecting to be dumped op, and by text? If you're sure for some reason, why not get in first? 😂

Agree with this -he’s probably expecting (hoping) you will be ‘devastated’ in fact maybe just say ‘ok’

@passionfruitfriday

Has something happened to make you think that the relationship is ending?

A lot of the responses on here are so embarrassing.

Same thing happened to me at the 6 month mark. I did get a feeling it would happen because he was distant over the last week or so, after initially being the one doing all the chasing. I just replied with thanks for being honest, no hard feelings, I wish you all the best. I didn’t block him, but went completely silent after that. It hurt, I won’t pretend that it didn’t because I had started to develop feelings for him. He did come grovelling back 3 months later but I was well over him by then and didn’t reply back.

Not sure why anyone thinks the OP should wish him well. She believes he’s probably going to dump her by text. A decent person would at least give you a call. Dumping someone by text is cowardly and pathetic.

"Who's this?'

Thanking someone for their time is a bit 'thank you for the opportunity, Sir Alan' 😆
I've also seen a fair bit on LinkedIn of people thanking their employers who have recently made them redundant. I know there is such a thing as being gracious, but come ON!

Last time I dumped someone by text, I blocked him immediately because I didn't want to know what his reply might be (I was sad, but he was an unreliable dick, ultimately).

When someone did it to me I responded something like "I think you're probably right"

I'd say .... ' I think you're right. It's been fun but time for us both to move on.'

Are you likely to bump into him at social events? Best to keep it civil.

Agreed.

Absolutely 100% agree with this. Nothing says “fuck you” like a good ole thumb emoji 😂

Honesty op my guess is that if you feel you're about to be dumped, it's because you're noticing the other person is stepping back and isn't putting the effort you'd normally expect into the relationship.

So rather than sitting back and handing away your power in this, I'd be looking objectively at how they're behaving - what this relationship is bringing to the table for you - how is it making you feel.

If its not serving you as it currently stands then do YOU want it to continue? If so then I'd call them out respectfully and set a boundary. Either they agree, recognise the behaviour and step up or they don't and you agree to end it mutually.

If you've already got a break up text then I'd say you appreciate their honesty and say it's not really working for you either (because if someone is breaking up with you by text then that's not someone you really want to be dating) .

There was a thread about while ago by a woman who was Facebook stalking an ex from years before and somehow managed to start a conversation with him, some other guy and, in her panic, sent them both a thumbs up.

If that were me (and it could have been), I'd have followed up with a "hi how r u" and styled it out to look like I'd been hacked by a scammer. I'd have sent a few duplicate messages to random other people in my friends list too to cover my tracks.

ok yes you are right what I wrote was badly phrased. What I should have said is - no one has to be appreciative when they are dumped. If OP does appreciate it she can say so, of course, But if she doesn’t- which it sounds she doesn’t- that’s total valid/ normal and I think it sucks that people are insisting she has to pretend she is appreciative in order to “be nice”!

After 2 months I’d be glad he was telling you at all and not just ghosting you or phasing you out.

I think if you’re disappointed it’s fine to say that, but also as it’s only been 2 months I’d probably just accept it, say ‘thanks for letting me know, all the best’ and move on.

Anyone who breaks up with someone by text is a horrible, cowardly individual - and deserve nothing but contempt, just don't respond, they are not worth any further time or consideration.

Personally I’d just be friendly and say ‘thankyou for being honest and letting me know, all the best for the future take care’.
put the shoe on the other foot and if you were doing the dumping, how you would like to be responded to. The fact they are being honest not stringing you along is a good thing and helps you to move on to better things :) also I never wanted to be remembered with a sour taste and just wanted things left friendly because you never know when your paths may cross again and leaving it friendly makes things less awkward. Good luck OP

It really depends on the relationship, doesn't it?

but if she's sad about it, there's no harm in saying "Aw, that's a shame. Never mind, thank you for letting me know."

Now this wins the thread 🤣