I think 1st half of @Coconut97 post is amazing, i totally disagree with the second half.
Not all men who do shitty things to a woman are abusers who will do it all the time and to all women. That is so false. Same thing as not all selfish people are narcissists, that’s another piece of counterproductive bs that doesn’t make women reflect on how they actually eased the way for these assh**les to ruin their lives.
Most men abuse or act shittily towards women because they don’t value them, they are inconsequential. Men think highly of themselves in general, they would of course shag anything with a pulse, but deep down, they want a 10. When they can’t get a 10, they project their self-hatred on the 3s and the 4s who give them too easily the time of the day (sorry for using the 10 terminology but that’s how they see things).
That’s the reason why being kind, insecure, a pushover, treating a date like a best friend etc, is really going against your best interest in dating. Men don’t value what’s free or available to everyone, even if it’s good-hearted and kind. Because if she put out with me without me making too much of an effort/being really challenged, any guy can get her, she’s easy.
You can be rich, beautiful, kind, intelligent, sexy, perfect in every aspect, if you don’t pose a real challenge to the guy before giving him the best of you (physically and emotionally), if you don’t make him respect you as a force not to be messed with first, you will forever be a placeholder, an easy one, not « the one ». That’s why you have single supermodels and single women with a heart of gold.
That’s what this awful, lowlife piece of trash is saying. I’m so sorry he took advantage of you and has been so cruel to you @Coconut97
Stop being nice to all men, ladies, that’s really not how you will make them love you and treat you well.