Could you forgive your partner / spouse if they called you

[sunshineandroses25]

A fat cunt.. during an argument?

I’ve been dating a man for 3 months, not exclusive yet but very strong feelings and we were definitely heading in that direction. We had a bit of a tiff last night, things got heated and he called me a fat cunt and blocked me.

He messaged me today and apologised profusely, said he didn’t mean it.

I’m not sure if I can get past it though. He knows I’m insecure about my weight, we’ve talked about it a few times. I’ve dated men in the past who treated me like shit and always put me down because of my weight. He knows all of this. I just feel like it was such a low blow and I would never comment on his looks (he has insecurities too). It’s also made me think is that what he really thinks of me…

Nooo

Daring Fawn, I couldn't have put it better myself. This girl found out fairly quickly what type of 'man' he is. Lucky escape!

Absolutely not, certainly not after 3 months. It will only get worse.

No my ex was very abusive he called me many names over the years nope

I'm just glad he has shown his true colour's this early on which is odd but very good for her.

I feel like if he could say this kind of thing that early on... It's no doubt going to get worse. He sounds horrid and is defo avoid. It will only get worse from here. Usually at 3 months you are still in a bubble and on your best behaviour.. you could do better than that. Don't let any of your insecurities make you feel anything less, there will be lots of nice people out there that want and respect you! Xx

I would never tolerate his behaviour He will bully you and belittle you time and time again Believe me You are much better than that Please don't go there There is someone who will love you for you x

No. Run for the hills and don't look back. Huge red flag. Take care of yourself.

Unfortunately it's a no from me. Red flag for the start of an unhealthy pattern of behaviour.

Carry on seeing him, and in 2 years we'll be watching a ch5 docu about you and how he killed you.

Absolutely categorically no!! Whether it's been 3m, 3 yrs or 30 yrs this is one of the most disrespectful disgusting things to say! If you forgive it's just saying you agree with this behaviour and will just get worse. Thank god he's show his true colours now. RUN!

Absolutely not.

Nope.....call me a cunt any day. A fat cunt changes everything lol

I'm So Sorry To Hear You Experienced Such Unnecessarily Unkind Cruel Words From Someone Whom's Meant To Be Demonstrating Love & Kindness To You 😥
Yes I completely comprehend some possess terrible atrocious tempers which can cause some to say things they just don't mean
However even this implies a red flag and a forewarning to tread with immense caution
God Bless You
If he can say something like this so simply in just a few months it makes me wonder what else he Might be capable of
Please think things through &. Remember most surely you deserve much better treatment

Absolutely no way.

Get away while you can before it gets worse.

Only 3 months in and he's already using your insecurites against you. He insulted you then blocked you coz he must of had intentions of ending it so thought F it I'll say what I want and how I really feel coz I'm done. Only to then back track and apologise. Don't make any excuses for his behaviour... once someone has shown you who they are believe them the first time. Doesn't even matter what the arguement was about or why he insulted you his behaviour is uncalled for and sorry doesn't cut it. Get rid x

Absolutely not. There is not acceptable behaviour at all. How on earth can it be ok to use those words towards someone you supposedly care about? He may come up with some nonsense with how he didn’t mean it or you made him do it or blah blah blah. The fact those words even came to his mind when talking to you tells you all you need to know. End it.

OMG. That's what he called you during the heady first days of attraction and lust? Can you even begin to inmgine what he'd be saying or doing 3/5/10 years in. Block him and never ever ever look back. Be grateful he showed you who he is so quickly.

Also, what are breasts supposed to do during sex? Remain completely stationary as your body moves around them?

Just read your updates, he is truly revolting. Thank god you know now who is and so don’t waste any more time

It’s scary that you are asking this.

Yeah I don’t get that at all, bouncing is literally what they do..

But most blokes want bouncing boob's.

He is awful.

What was the argument about? Why did it get so nasty? And are you....?

Can’t even behave three months in?

Hard fucking no.