Could you forgive your partner / spouse if they called you

[sunshineandroses25]

A fat cunt.. during an argument?

I’ve been dating a man for 3 months, not exclusive yet but very strong feelings and we were definitely heading in that direction. We had a bit of a tiff last night, things got heated and he called me a fat cunt and blocked me.

He messaged me today and apologised profusely, said he didn’t mean it.

I’m not sure if I can get past it though. He knows I’m insecure about my weight, we’ve talked about it a few times. I’ve dated men in the past who treated me like shit and always put me down because of my weight. He knows all of this. I just feel like it was such a low blow and I would never comment on his looks (he has insecurities too). It’s also made me think is that what he really thinks of me…

"it’s not normal for your tits to bounce during sex, you fat cunt."

Oh my word i missed this on first reading!!!!!

My word!!!!!!!!!!!!

Without being crude that's something most men love!!!!!

Take your beautiful bouncy tit's elsewhere and dont give him a seconds extra thought!!!!

The bouncing os something most men absolutely love. Strange block.

If he doesn't think boobs should move during sex, then we have to assume all his experience before you was with the kind of woman who was out of action whenever she got a puncture.

Honestly, tell me you're shit in bed and have never satisfied a woman without telling me...

3 months, 3 years, 3 decades that's a real low blow.

Fortunately a show of what they're like has happened early in the relationship.
I've seen posts on MN before where using the word c**t is seen as being ok in today's world of swear words but for me both of those words should never be directed at anyone, collectively or separate.

You're worth more than being called that.

If it was your husband and you were both under a lot of stress and it was a one time thing…okay but a guy you’ve been dating for 3 months already comes with this absolutely no! Is s huge red flag!

He’s foul.
Well done.

If it was your husband and you were both under a lot of stress and it was a one time thing…okay

No. Not okay. Not ever okay.

I wouldn’t forgive my husband for saying that to me, let alone a boyfriend of 3 months.

OP…..sorry I haven’t read the whole thread.

Just over a month ago my BF (almost a year) decided to call me a “crazy hormonal bitch”…….I asked him to leave and I haven’t spoken to him since.

No way would I put up with being called anything like that but someone who I have been seeing for 3 months….or 3 years.

Nope! Horrible man, at least you know without wasting too much time on him.

Nope. He doesn't deserve forgiveness- straight dumping.

At 3 months you're just embarking on the honeymoon ride. What hurtful measures will he be employing at month 6?

Hallelujah 🎊

Dump, move on.

No I couldn’t forgive this at this stage of a relationship.
id block and move on

What a disgusting prick of a man. Not a chance I’d have this.

Hell, no!

After 3 months???? Christ, no.

Dump him.

It should be possible to have an entire relationship without him ever calling you a fat cunt.

Raise your standards.

Normal people don't speak to other people like this. Please get yourself out of this relationship now before he absolutely ruins you. If he can speak to you like this only 3 months in, I dread to think of the way he will speak to you once the honeymoon period ends. Once an abuser always an abuser, you deserve so much better 💐

Three months in and he's called you a fat cunt and blocked you? Never have anything more to do with him, he has not managed to put a lid on who he really is for all of 12 weeks! Imagine what he will be doing and saying in a year's time if you gave him another chance

He's shown, thankfully pretty early, his true colours. I'd walk away now before you get any deeper

He's not a partner or spouse, he's someone you've been dating a short time and clearly haven't found much out about each other. Feelings can't be that strong if you're not exclusive and I'd be finding them turning into the 'ick' by the minute after the words, never mind the blocking or the grovelling this morning.

3 months and he’s seeing how far he can push you and how low your self esteem is to see how much shit he can get away with.
Thank fuck you’re not saddled with kids and a mortgage with him, Chuck him away. Runty little man.
Also, don’t expose your weak points so early on in a relationship, it’s just giving ammunition to these arseholes.

No

Ahh mate that’s a low blow from him? What else does he expect tits to do during sex? If he can be that nasty after 3 months then please see this as a lucky escape. That is awful and you will always feel insecure.

im a petty bitch and would of replied “it’s also not normal to not be able to feel the penis during sex, little dick cunt”

block and delete, enjoy your chinese and let those titties bounce ❤️

Verbal abuse during the first three months screams domestic abuse perp so please keep him blocked. Have you done the freedom programme before? I highly recommend completing it before you start dating again.

Why would you consider spending a second more with a man who called you that? He's not your partner, he's just a guy who you've been seeing albeit not even exclusively.

Have some respect for yourself. End things.