Could you forgive your partner / spouse if they called you

[sunshineandroses25]

A fat cunt.. during an argument?

I’ve been dating a man for 3 months, not exclusive yet but very strong feelings and we were definitely heading in that direction. We had a bit of a tiff last night, things got heated and he called me a fat cunt and blocked me.

He messaged me today and apologised profusely, said he didn’t mean it.

I’m not sure if I can get past it though. He knows I’m insecure about my weight, we’ve talked about it a few times. I’ve dated men in the past who treated me like shit and always put me down because of my weight. He knows all of this. I just feel like it was such a low blow and I would never comment on his looks (he has insecurities too). It’s also made me think is that what he really thinks of me…

Please don’t forgive this man and put up with this behaviour. You are worthy of so much more. Three months in you can just get out now and find somebody who will give you so much respect and love, he will never be that person.

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I've been married 33 years and have never been spoken to like that, but 3 months? Sack him off, block, don't engage, there's much better out there.

You already know what you need to do! 🚩🚨

And for the record - real tits do bounce! What a wanker, I’m glad you’ve blocked him OP and enjoying your takeaway with a glass of wine to cheers waving that dickhead goodbye!

Absolutely not ever would I speak to anyone who called me that, you deserve 1000 times better than that 🩷

If he does that after an argument just 3 months in what's he going to be doing after 3 years? Stay well away OP, he's told you who he is.

Raise the bar. Stop going for the same type of men, you’ll get the same result.

He’s shown you what he is, listen to him. Run as fast as you can. If he’s behaving like this at such an early stage, imagine how he’ll be down the line. Horrible man. You deserve better!

He's not your partner. He's someone you've been seeing for a little while. Move on and find someone decent

Nope. If it came out of his mouth, he's thought it. Zero tolerance. If my tits bouncing are so offensive to him, he'd never be seeing them again.

No

Three months in? I wouldn’t have let him draw breath between saying it and getting rid.

No.
Not 3 minutes. Not 3 days. Not 3 years.

three months?!!! this is the time when people are at their best behaviour!

Hell no. Dump.

He is not the man you deserve.

Am honestly baffled by the fact that any adult male could think that breasts don’t move during sex? Have just wasted 5 minutes of my life wondering if or how I could have sex and they be…stationary? I don’t think it’s possible!
Anyway, ignoring his apparent total ignorance of female anatomy, absolutely not. In the bin he goes. Such terrible manners are a total turn off.

Run run run run run run run.

I know you're already running, but it's so important that you do that it needs saying anyway.

I suppose small implants maybe? The ones that are so rigid they never even tried to look real?

Now I am wasting time too

No. It's been 3 months. Leave while you can. It will only get worse. If you let him get away with that you're just giving him a free pass.

he's not your partner or your spouse either. He's just a boyfriend of a few weeks.

wow! Absolute deal breaker from anybody let alone somebody you’ve only know for 3 months - run far and fast. Toss this one back they’re no good. If you forgive that you are setting the scene for your entire relationship

After only 3 months I would run, block and never look back. In over 5 years with my DP we have had some awful disagreements over serious matters where we both got very upset and said awful things.. and to be honest I can't think of anything he has said that's as bad as that!!!!
In fact over 3 pregnancies when I've moaned about being massive he has said dont be silly your pregnant not fat!
Fwiw in a heated argument I wouldn't mind being called a cunt it wouldn't offended me too much but fat cunt is just nasty and unnecessary and especially after only 3 months there should be nothing like that!
Best wishes op. Glad you've blocked xx

He’s showing you who he is… don’t ignore it 😩
he sounds horrible and you should be happy his true colours have come through so early

I'm size 8 with tits that don't even fill an A cup. They still bounce during sex 🤣 I think he must be doing it wrong!

I've known DH more than 20 years and he's never called me an unkind name.

I would dump that man.

There would be no forgiveness from me. He knew you were insecure about it and he used it against you - apologised or not, I still couldn’t forgive that. 3 months is no amount of time, for him to be doing that at all, let alone so soon, just kind of shows how things could be in the future - it will only get worse.