Could you forgive your partner / spouse if they called you

[sunshineandroses25]

A fat cunt.. during an argument?

I’ve been dating a man for 3 months, not exclusive yet but very strong feelings and we were definitely heading in that direction. We had a bit of a tiff last night, things got heated and he called me a fat cunt and blocked me.

He messaged me today and apologised profusely, said he didn’t mean it.

I’m not sure if I can get past it though. He knows I’m insecure about my weight, we’ve talked about it a few times. I’ve dated men in the past who treated me like shit and always put me down because of my weight. He knows all of this. I just feel like it was such a low blow and I would never comment on his looks (he has insecurities too). It’s also made me think is that what he really thinks of me…

No, I would never tolerate anyone calling me that. I heard my neighbours having a tiff and he called her a 'fat little fuck'. Couldn't believe it.

Block him and delete him from your life. If this is how he treats & speaks to you so early on, he will get worse. You deserve better

Get rid forever. Don’t entertain the notion of ever having anything else to do with him.

No way. And a three month none exclusive relationship and he's already saying that? Was this a text too? Could he not have restrained his ire for one second to stop his fingers typing out those words and then pressing send? Either way no, you should never hear those words from anyone.

I was going to say reply to your question with "I absolutely would not forgive this, 3 months in" (and believe me I've forgiven things mumset has, rightly, pointed out are dreadful, so my bar is looowww). But I see you've made the right choice, so congratulations on a lucky escape 🎊 And as others have said, it is entirely normal for boobs to bounce during sex. I'm a bit confused by that comment actually - makes me think he's never encountered real ones before? Like, what does he thinks a bra is for? And doesn't he enjoy it? Ive been under the impression that's one of the things men like about boobs... Maybe I've been bouncing under a misapprehension.

Brilliant! He obviously doesn't have much experience with real life women if he doesn't expect tits to bounce 🤣

No. Just no.

No, I couldn’t forgive and move past that. It’s a really low, mean comment and an insight into how life will be every time you fall out. Maybe if it was in a long relationship and the rest of the relationship outweighed the bad then possibly but certainly not after 3 months. He’s shown you his true colours, don’t get suckered back in.

Absolutely no, no forgiveness. Just three months together? Imagine what his nasty streak could be capable of if something “real” happened further down the line. Stuff like this makes me shudder.

Massive red flag. Ditch him. It'll only get worse.

Correct answer is “you’re only doing it right if you can make them bounce”

No. It’s not a term most people would use/ lightly and especially not toward the person you see a future with. Sorry OP

It's basically like he's advertising he's shit at sex isn't it? I mean, how do you have decent sex where the woman's tits don't jiggle? Does he want her to just lie back and think of England?
Ah well, in the bin with him and onwards to some nice earth moving boob shaking sex 😜

When you say "we're heading in that direction" do you mean the sewage?! Because if he calls you a fat cunt and blocks you during a "tiff" 3 months into the relationship, then that relationship is shit.

Ew, yeet that back into the shit pile!

Either he's only ever watched porn or he's having sex with people who have literally, no boobs... and as even the tiniest boobs on an adult will jiggle... thats a thought process probably best not followed to its conclusion.

Absolutely not.

Strangely, I would be more likely to forgive 'cunt' than 'fat cunt'.

If my husband of twenty years (shared children/mortgage/pets) suddenly called me a fat cunt I honestly think it would be marriage over. I could never stand for name calling, or intentionally hurtful behaviour like that. Plus the blocking afterwards 🤯

A man I had been dating 3 months - I would run for the hills and thank my lucky stars I had seen his true colours so early on.

Under no circumstance should you ever see him ever again.

Bin

He isn’t your partner or spouse so 100% no! Even if he was, it’s pretty unforgivable. He has shown you his true colours early on so get out now

Walk away. 3 months is absolutely nothing ..you don't know him, he's on best behaviour and even then.he manages to call upu a fat cunt..
I hope you realise that you are worth so so so much better
Please donr let him show you that he is capable of much worse - which this has all the signs of.

3 months, not exclusive yet but very strong feelings and we were definitely heading in that direction

I would have already binned him just for that.

Date me or don't date me, but if I am one of many, I am not interested.
What do they think I am going to do? Trying to compete with the others? 😂I don't think so.

This.

That is unacceptable in any relationship of any duration but three months in? Imagine how he would deal with a disagreement about something significant, like the ones people have when they have a whole life together to navigate. If that’s how he communicates now it’s a sign of bigger problems to come.

fuck no!