Could you forgive your partner / spouse if they called you

[sunshineandroses25]

A fat cunt.. during an argument?

I’ve been dating a man for 3 months, not exclusive yet but very strong feelings and we were definitely heading in that direction. We had a bit of a tiff last night, things got heated and he called me a fat cunt and blocked me.

He messaged me today and apologised profusely, said he didn’t mean it.

I’m not sure if I can get past it though. He knows I’m insecure about my weight, we’ve talked about it a few times. I’ve dated men in the past who treated me like shit and always put me down because of my weight. He knows all of this. I just feel like it was such a low blow and I would never comment on his looks (he has insecurities too). It’s also made me think is that what he really thinks of me…

Oh my goodness op, I’ve read a quarter and all your comments. He is utterly vile. Please please please raise your bar so that repulsive men like this are instantly dropped rather than your having to ask.

Not a chance. Bin this.

Nope . Definitely would not stay with this man.
20 plus years here never been skinny but tall so I made it work for me.
But had kids gained weight .lost weight . More kids. Gained weight and so on.
In all those years even though we have had our disagreements at times . He has never once called me a name in relation to my appearance. Or even brought up my weight.
I wouldn't do it to him either.

You aren’t invested after 3 months, so why would you even bother thinking about forgiving him.

He has shown you who he is, more fool you if you don’t listen

I have never, ever been spoken to in that kind of language by my DH in 20 years.

RUN FOR THE HILLS

Regardless of what he called you or why, anyone who "blocks" someone after an argument has a mental age of about 14 and shouldn't be in a relationship anyway.

I wouldn't be happy about it. But if I'd called them a cunt, a bell end, a dick wipe, a useless cretin with a micropenis then it was a heated argument and he was retaliating. If not and it was totally unprovoked then it's beyond appalling.

Not that I would want to be in a relationship where arguments like that would occur. In general the answer is no, I wouldn't accept it.

Unless I knew I'd been very cruel to the person immediately before, to deliberately hurt their feelings. Which I wouldn't do, frankly. Especially not to someone I'm meant to love.

Yay for you OP. Enjoy your Chinese. 😋
BTW, if he's never seen tits move during sex, then he's only ever had sex with an inflatable doll or just really really rubbish. 😂

God, no. Let this piece of shit stay dumped. If you take him back you are very clearly telling him that it's fine for him to call you a fat cunt whenever he's pissed off with you.

And BTW, his reasons for being pissed off with you are totally ridiculous, all designed to manipulate you.

Obviously tits bounce during sex. What a laughable attempt at body shaming you that was.

He's an embarrassment. Barely even deserves your pity.

Oh HELL no.

After 3 months and not even exclusive?! Even harder hell no.

Unbelievable. Get rid. Block. Move on and raise your bar. You deserve much better. X

I wouldn't even be entertaining an argument at 3 months. Calling me that he'd be immediately deleted and blocked.

This

If this is his behaviour after 3 months (the honeymoon period), I'd hate to see his behaviour after 3 years. Run!

I dread to think what he would do 3 years in if he's saying that at 3 months. I couldn't be doing with the blocking either, really immature behaviour.

He sounds vile and disgusting.

You can't be invested after 3 months. You're behaving like a teen if you are.

Be pragmatic and an adult with your heart. This is a horrible shit. Throw him back in the sewer. He's shown you how he'll treat you in the heat of the moment, this is just the start of it.

There is a book you need to read "Women who love too much".

Basically this was a test ... if you're still there he knows he has his mug. I'm concerned you didn't realise just how bad he was.

Nope, throw this one back. What were you rowing about? At 3 months you should still be in the new relationship lovey dovey stage, I hate the word Cunt anyway, find it really offensive. I wouldn’t forgive anyone who called me it and body shaming you to boot. Sounds like a real prince….

You say you’ve had men treat you like shit in the past and you’ve found another man who will and is doing the same already! Break the cycle now and move on from him, know your worth and find a man who respects you and treats you like a queen. It’s 3 months and should still be the honeymoon period not getting into arguments so bad that he is calling you a fat cunt

God no! That’s awful

THREE months in? The part that's supposed to be the honeymoon period?!

Absolutely not.

Choose better or suffer the misery of being with someone who actually despises you, but wants the security of a partner/sex.

He’s saved you a lot of heartache down the line showing you this now! So glad you aren’t forgiving this because it’s completely deplorable and beyond unforgivable. If this is how he behaves 3 months in how would he be speaking to you in 3 years during a “disagreement” !? Besides, you’re perfectly entitled to check in and see where things are going and make sure your intentions still align.

For the record I have never, ever in all my jiggly tit having life had a man complain about bouncing boobs!!! Wear them with eternal pride OP!

I have been married 25 years and would file for divorce immediately if my DH ever called me that. It has been 3 months and he has shown you who he is. Get rid and run. He is a walking red flag.

Sorry, OP but no. Never. He is despicable.

Good for you! Enjoy your tea.😁

You must not ever forgive this. Ever