Dwindling friendships

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Didn’t know where to put this so hope this works in this topic.

I hardly have any good friends left. Is it my (middle age) time of life? A natural occurrence and totally normal? Or not? Is it me? Am I unlikeable?

It’s not that they have all left me. I have distanced myself from some as I can see we’ve grown apart and I don’t feel the way I used to about them.

I’m less tolerant of certain behaviour that I used to be. I’m no longer interested in people pleasing.

But I’m lonely. I can’t believe I’ve gone from having lots of lovely friends to
so few. Feel really sad about it.

It’s also an issue brought about by social media. We used to chat on the phone. Now it’s a quick email or WhatsApp. There’s almost no need to see anyone so we don’t.

Im sure some people have all the answers. Many of us struggle though and feel part of our lives have gone as friends have dwindled. But there’s only so much you can do and I’ve tried more than most in our groups of former friends.

I know Tizeror I know people say god have they no friends! I cut back. A few will make an effort. I do coffees now just easy. Not stress then booking tickets and will people cancel on you on the night. Its disheartening though😒

I really think that WhatsApp and Covid have been the main drivers of this social change. People find it easier just to talk through messaging. Also the cost of living. It’s just so expensive to go for a drink, even have a coffee/ a simple cafe lunch is so much more expensive and the theatre can cost an arm and a leg. People would rather not spend the money with friends. They would rather do it with their partners or family or not at all.

Yes costly now to do anything we in Ireland. Maybe people tired or life busy our group apps quiet too unless the same ones plan it! Im bit disheartened from it all