Argh! DD caught me with FWB in the house

[Lionesseses]

Long story short, my DD(15) came home unexpectedly from school earlier, and arrived home to find me in the house with my ‘friend’. She knows him vaguely as he’s the dad of a school friend of hers (we’re both single parents, and that’s how we met originally).

She didn’t catch us at it, thank God. But we were both upstairs (we had just had sex, and had got dressed again). I was all easy breezy about it saying ‘Oh, Andy is here! We weren’t expecting you home!’ But I was embarrassed and massively thankful she hadn’t been ten minutes earlier!

Then he left and she was asking why he was here, are we seeing each other etc. She doesn’t know that we’ve had this arrangement for a couple of years now, completely physical, friendly on the rare occasions we see each other otherwise but with no intention of becoming a proper couple.

I don’t want to explain our relationship to her because it’s not really her business and it’s not the kind of concept I’d want her thinking of (especially not in the context of me!). Am I right to do that…?

And I worry it might have spoiled things now cos my DD will tell her mate, and it might lead to embarrassment all round. Argh! Annoying.

Any thoughts? I guess I’m hoping it blows over.

Good luck with that.

Most kids would run a mile from that conversation.

Well you've changed your tune from earlier haven't you? You had op painted with a scarlett letter and her daughter following in her footsteps😅

Op has already said they are going to check their phones and lock the door.

So alls well that ends well and Op can continue to have fun with her lovely friend

Most parents who have a good relationship with their teenagers can discuss safe sex and consent.

Jesus! This has got to win an award from Mumsnet for some of the most batshit comments I have ever read! Those of you with your sanctimonious, holier than thou beliefs, you do know your teaching your kids that sex is something to be ashamed of don’t you? And they’re just as likely to indulge in some good sex as the rest of us you just won’t have any idea about it incase your fannies drop out in shock. Question - I’m assuming many of you are onto at least your second child - if sex is so ‘grim’ when there is a chance of getting caught by a child then how the fuck did you manage to conceive the second time?

I'll send you some toothpaste😄

Ha! Rude.

Is it? Can you send the link for that source of information?

You think women who are having regular and satisfying sex would be jealous of this situation?

I’d love to know what you and the friend do for a living, to be having 90min sex sessions on a Monday afternoon!
It’s not even about what you were up to, it’s the example you set to your child if she’s coming from school and you’re at home enjoying ‘leisure time’ 😬

I'm not jealous as I've got a gorgeous DH but I'm Team OP rather than the ones telling her off.

Barnett, M. D., Berry, K. E., Maciel, I. V., & Iii, A. D. (2017). The Primal Scene Phenomenon: Witnessing Parental Sexual Activity and Sociosexual Orientation. Sexuality & Culture, 22(1), 162-175. doi:10.1007/s12119-017-9458-2

Read it

It was affectionate banter, I'm on your side here😆 x

Which rather proves my point.

Thank you

I asked you for your source, you’ve stated it as a fact, how would you know this?

or is it just a silly playground type comment that you’ve said and it’s your opinion only?

This is just such nonsense. We both have corporate jobs, from which we both legitimately take a few hours off from time to time to have sex with each other.

My child didn’t come home and catch us. We had been having sex, and he was still in the house. But she didn’t see us actually doing it. The issue is potential questions she may have had about why he was here, not some image of me with my legs in the air underneath her mate’s dad that is now burned into her retina.

I know 😊. And I brush my teeth in the shower after 😳

My source is the meaning of the word “jealous”

Read what? A stream of letters?

I’m not having regular and satisfying sex. Am I allowed to be jealous ?

😬😬😬

Of course. 😊

Okies …. You don’t strike me as the sort of person that would be a therapist, the ones I know are nonjudgemental and don’t get into online wars demanding everyone think the way they do.

But maybe every profession has its bad eggs.

Think what you like 👍🏼

All these women who are having wonderful sex with their husbands.........why begrudge OP, a single parent, having some mutual connection with a friend of years? Daughter didn't see them and they are going to take precautions from now on, why all the angst and nastiness about it?

This! Seems very mean spirited.