Husband is MASSIVELY pee’d off with me

[Blackjack2002]

I had lip filler done today but didn’t tell my husband as I know he hates it.
I pranked him a few years back by sticking my top lip up with face glue as an April Fool, and he went mad. At the time, I said I’d never have it done. I’ve never been confident about the way I look, I’ve just turned 48 and thought why not?

I’ve only had a small amount and they are quite swollen, they will settle down in a few days. But he says he can’t look at me and that I look like a clown. He’s been angry and shouty but now getting the silent treatment. We rarely have a cross word so today has been no fun.

Not sure what to do. Any advice please?

Exactly this. Honestly there are some right bitches on this thread.

I hear you, but it was you who brought up the issue of it being noticed with “no one noticed’!

How was I rude, exactly?

Pardon? I noticed. It’s my face. Nobody else noticed.

A front on still photo is not a true representation.
The side profile, when they talk and move their mouth are a much clearer indicator.

No, it wasn’t something that bothered anybody but me and I saw my lip line as damaged. So I changed it. It’s very subtle but makes me feel confident in my face.

I'm not a filler hater, but no those lips do not look natural.

I've been left with nerve damage after a botched tooth removal. Still got a mixture of numbness/pain even when I apply make-up, and I can't talk well. Lots of people assume it's fillers/botox gone wrong, as they say that's quite common. It might be your husband has heard people talking about things like this. Obviously your body, your choice, but I would never even think about having needles anywhere near my mouth for a non-urgent thing now, and I would be scared if my partner wanted to-though it's their choice, and I know hundreds of people do choose to. Just saying your husband might be reacting because he's worried for you, or maybe it's about money-personally me and my OH would tend to talk before unplanned spending, but I respect all couples are different depending how they organise their spending, and how much money they have. Either way, hope you're ok.

This is such a daft thing to say. No filler is the same and a decent medical aesthetic doctor worth their salt is not going to be giving anyone a ‘fake’ look, so to say having filler always looks awful is very dim. Good filler can’t be seen. People who see ‘beauticians’ who’ve been on a half-day injecting course and buy their filler from Filler World will likely wind up with that fake effect, but it’s really quite ignorant to just say all filler looks shit. Because my god, it really can look amazing. Look at Dr Steve Harris 🙌🏻

No, are you someone with fake looking lip filler?

Oopsie! See my previous comment ☺️

When administered by an experienced and skilled aesthetician, well done and subtle lip fillers can look lovely. Whilst I wouldn’t have mine done (I’m lucky enough to have been born with naturally full lips), I certainly wouldn’t judge anyone who did.

Provided it doesn’t become an unhealthy obsession, I see no issue with someone deciding to get a tweakment that will make them feel more confident in their own skin.

I get Botox every 4-5 months myself, after first doing it for my wedding in 2019. At first my DH was quite resistant. I’m his words, he didn’t want me “turning into Sylvester Stallone’s Ma”. He was worried it could go wrong and I end up with a wonky face or that it would become a slippery slope into more and more treatments and procedures. Neither has been the case and he is now completely supportive as he sees the confidence boost it gives me.

I don’t agree with how you went about it but your DH should not be ignoring you over it. You need to both sit down and have an adult conversation about it.

It’s very rare to see lip fillers done well. But, your body and your choice. He doesn’t get to dictate you. I hope that you’re right about how they look after the swelling goes down. Of all the fillers/facial changers, lip fillers are often the worst looking. I’m with your DH in worrying about how you will look BUT, your body so your choice.

I actually have permanent filler just not in my lips and I stand by it - show me a before / after photo with lip filler that looks natural, if that's not possible then maybe its because it always looks fake. Also calling me slow is a bit bitchy and this isn't aibu.

OP

How would you react to your husband coming home with lip filler?

I always feel it always ends up looking like you have had lip filler rather than enhancing your face. Saying that, it’s your choice. I’m sure you’re beautiful just as you are and that’s why he’s upset. Hopefully he’ll come round and calm down. I hope you learn to love yourself just as you are. Take care.

I get fillets too , just 0.5 ml every 3 years , I’ve definitely not got a trout pout and nobody believes I’ve had it done , but they are 100% better. He’ll calm down once the swellings down

It’s your decision! He may feel upset because they are swollen at the moment and look much bigger than they are going to end up xx

How would you feel if your husband came home with lip filler?

A bit surprised to be honest with you x

But you’d accept it was his body and not have an opinion on it?

Of course it’s your body you can do what you like. But you’ve chosen to do something that presumably your husband finds deeply unattractive so you’ll have to live with the consequences. 🤷‍♀️

@Loki64 apologies, I seem to have quoted you and I didn’t mean to x

I don’t think you quite understand what’s going on do you? 😆

I don't like lip fillers like your DH but that's irrelevant because it isn't my body or his body and you didn't need permission from him to have it done.