Anyone have experience of having a fling with a MUCH younger guy?

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So I decided to change the age settings on Hinge and got messaged by a guy who’s a lot younger than me. I’ll be honest, he’s 21 and I’m 49. I’m not looking for anything serious and neither is he. We find each other very attractive and have really hit it off. Should I go there??? Have you been there???

Absolutely not. My son is nearly 21, and i’m nearly 49. I could not sleep with someone younger than my DC, so that excludes anyone 31 and younger. Especially not some kid from a dating site who is looking for a MILF. I’d steer well away from sleeping with boys who were still in school when the pandemic started. Gross (to me anyway).

I've dated men 20 years younger than me when I was in my late 40s. I don't think it's quite the same power dynamics as when the woman is the younger person, as the young men are quite unlikely to want anything serious or to fall in love. Having said that, I never dated under 25's, as I wanted to be sure they were a proper adult and generally the younger men I've dated have been in their 30s.

With this young man I guess you'd have to make a judgement call. If he's straight from university he's likely to be a lot less mature than if he's been in the navy and travelling the world since he was 16 for example.

I wouldn’t. I think there’s something really off if a 21 year old wants to shag someone older than his mum. I don’t want to be a fetish for some lad.

When I was 24 I dated someone who was 18 years older than me at 42, we were together for ten years and lived together for nine of those. Age was never an issue.

28 years is a big gap but you’re both consenting adults. I remember a few young men from my time at uni pursuing older women for fun.

I’d find it a bit awkward with that much of a gap, but that’s because I couldn’t fathom sleeping with someone 28 years older than me, and I’ve raised step children and know how much growing up they still have to do at that age.

I’m 49 ..
I wouldn’t sleep with a 21 year old ..
I know it’s only fun OP , but if you’re only looking for fun there are guys older looking for same thing ..
Plus imagine the conversation, he’ll be so immature, that would turn me off , even for just casual you need to be able to chat , enjoy one another better then …
That’s me anyway …

Do you know any 21 year olds in real life? I mean, they’re just like older teenagers in my experience. Looks wise and behaviour.

I just couldn’t do it 😂.

If you want to have fun with someone younger, I’d suggest late 20s and up.

Go and have fun. You're not hurting anyone.

If it is just a fun thing then why not meet face to face and see how you feel. I chat to a few younger guys on Reddit but am not wanting to meet face to face. Some are very immature but some are just guys IYKWIM. I’m mid fifties these have been mid 20s to mid thirties.

He has a job in which he’s being trained up, and he’s in the process of buying his own place. Also, he doesn’t use text speak and can actually spell and use punctuation 😂. We have some interests in common and he flirts better than any man my own age! He doesn’t come across as I would imagine a typical 21 year old might.

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Personally Id find it creepy and gross

Yak

You purposefully changed your hinge profile so that 21 year olds could get in touch.

I find that really weird.

I didn’t purposely change it to attract 21 year olds. It asks if your age settings are a dealbreaker and I unticked it. I hadn’t considered that much younger (and older) men might get in touch 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ick.

Have a good hard look at yourself.

I wouldn't do it if I was single but I think the world that a 21 yo grew up is so different to mine (40s) I don't think I understand their ways of communicating or assumptions. That's based on the people in their 20s in my workplace. I like them but we live in different worlds .

Agree. My DS is almost 21 and the thought of shagging someone his age is grim 🤢

He’s got a granny fetish

no way, when I was 49 my child was 30

urrgggh

That is the exact ages of myself and my youngest.
it’s gross.
turn it round and think how it would look if a 49 year old bloke was on here asking if he should shag a 21 year old girl.

Yep. It’s a thing that young blokes want to tick the MILF/GILF box as a brag to their mates.

No way would I be an anecdote to be discussed down the pub as the ‘old girl I did a favour by shagging’

I mean he's an adult so go for it and have a good time.

Think it’s a bit too much, another five years older and you’d be old enough to be his nan. However you wouldn’t be breaking any laws and he’s an adult so it’s up to the pair of you.

A 30 year age gap is grim on all levels.

You would be on the same level as a dirty old man 🤮

Have some respect for him and yourself.

I can't imagine a situation that might generate a more dysfunctional attitude to women than some young lad who'd gone straight from school at 16 into the Royal Navy!!