Anyone have experience of having a fling with a MUCH younger guy?

[aeroplaneoverthesea]

So I decided to change the age settings on Hinge and got messaged by a guy who’s a lot younger than me. I’ll be honest, he’s 21 and I’m 49. I’m not looking for anything serious and neither is he. We find each other very attractive and have really hit it off. Should I go there??? Have you been there???

I’m 41 and my DS is 21 next month NO way could I look at anyone that young in any way other than as my Son . And I prefer younger men on a whole but not THAT young and I would not be happy if my DS was seeing someone 49 !

Boris johnson's wife Carrie is 24 years younger than him.

Are posters on here also "disgusted" at that?

No she just conveniently waited until he was of age to shag him. She carried on grooming him until then though.

Wouldn't you think it was weird if she was 27 and he was 55( 28 year gap like OP)?

Of course it's disgusting. It's also disgusting that he's over 60 and they've had another child to add to the 8, 9, 10 he's already got.

I dont think its disgusting at all.

Theyre happy together.

Can you explain why you think its disgusting?

@aeroplaneoverthesea

Why not? You are not somehow seducing some minor. He approached you. 🤗
As long as you are both clear it’s a fling - go for it!!!

I'm 44 and wouldn't even think about going near a 21 year old.

As ive learned OP, just live your life. Dont care what anyone else thinks.

I'm 55 and went down to 30 for a fling. It was fun, he was mature enough. But I am now looking for more my age tbh. There's no legs in it.

Absolutely. He’s also a massive knob!

There's another 13 years age gap between OP and this man than between you and yours.

And there's quite a lot of mental maturing between 21 and 24.

There's a huge amount physical age 'maturing' between 40 and 49.

I’m late 30s and couldn’t be with a man that young. No way.

Yes

My experience with OLD has been poor when it comes to men nearer to my own age. Most of them don’t enjoy the same things as me. They basically go to work and in the evenings walk their dog/go to the gym/go out on their bike.

I went on a date with a 53 year old guy, he started telling me all about his acid reflux before we’d even sat down.

I also find a lot of men a similar age to me have penchant for sending unsolicited dick pics.

Unless she’s rich!

Sending unsolicited dick pics is an offence. You can report them.

All experiences with OLD are shit. Doesn't mean you should be shagging a 21 year old.

Telling you about his acid reflux
🤣 🤣

If you haven't met him @aeroplaneoverthesea then it might not be legit. I'd be more cautious on that than his age.
I personally wouldn't go that young but with consenting adults as long as there is no force then it is up to an individual.

I definitely think if people have kids that age then they relate it to being their child so they find it an awful idea. I'd also say that I don't think anyone would care what their parent thought and you may be suprised at what your 21 year olds are up to behind closed doors.
I have a lot trying to contact me as I think they think we know what we want and will teach them a thing or two due to our experience. They know full well what they are doing and that's up to them.
As long as you know it's likely to end as abruptly as it starts.

Half your age plus 7 if my cut off. Youngest was 13 year younger than me when I was late 30’s. Felt at time like we lived on a different plant. Now I’m 60 it would seem so bad as it did then

A 21 year old's brain isn't fully developed, and I find men need a lot more experience before they're good in bed. I'm your age and the thought of shagging a 21 year old makes me feel sick, and wrong 🤢

I agree. Thats why i much prefer dating younger men.

Its partly their looks. But its also because they dont have baggage.

Ive gone on a few dates with men in their forties.

Usually they talk about these topics:
Their past traumas
Their current stresses
Their ex wife, or if single , they talk about women that have done them wrong.

Its boring

She could have left him alone after he left the school. She could have discouraged him and told him to forget her. She was married with three children after all.

But no she kept grooming him (against the wishes of his parents) until he was 18 and then shagged him when she was 43 and had been his teacher. She was a predator.

Well theyve been married for 18 years now, and he went on to be extremely successful in life, so he wasnt damaged in any way.

So who are we to judge

I’m 10 years younger than you and the thought of shagging a 21 year old is grim, to me. My friends would all feel the same too, let alone if we were another decade older on top.

If a bloke you knew of basically 50 shagged a 21 year old girl what kind of bloke would you think he was? Lovely? Or a bit seedy?